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to ban DD from eating chicken

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GreatMintPeer · 06/09/2024 09:51

I know this might sound extreme, but hear me out. My DD has been having some digestive issues lately. She's been complaining of stomach aches and feeling bloated after meals. After doing some research, I discovered that chicken can be a common trigger for digestive issues in some people.

I decided to do an experiment and cut chicken out of her diet for a week. Lo and behold, her stomach aches disappeared and she felt much better overall. I was thrilled that I had found a simple solution to her discomfort.

But now, DD is begging me to let her have chicken again. She misses her favorite meals and feels left out when her friends are eating chicken nuggets at school. I understand where she's coming from, but I can't ignore the fact that her health has improved since cutting out chicken.

I've tried to explain to her the reasons behind my decision, but she just doesn't seem to understand. She thinks I'm being unfair and depriving her of something she enjoys. I feel torn between wanting to make her happy and wanting to keep her healthy.

So, am I being unreasonable to ban my DD from eating chicken? I just want what's best for her, but I can't help feeling guilty for denying her something she loves. Any advice or similar experiences would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.

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HerewegoagainSS · 06/09/2024 11:08

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 06/09/2024 10:44

Is she the same with e.g. plain chicken roasted or baked at home? I’d suspect that the likes of school lunch nuggets contain sundry additives.

What I thought immediately. Give her chicken which is actual chicken, rather than ultra processed crap, and serif the effect is the same. If it is, bad luck kiddo, but if not, she can still enjoy chicken based meals cooked properly.

Sia8899 · 06/09/2024 11:07

Completely fine to cut out chicken, there are plenty of other meats and proteins. Many parents cut out foods they don’t like themselves and the children are perfectly healthy. How old is your DD, OP? I assume primary age as she isn’t making the decision for herself? I assume she reacts to chicken in all forms I.E. on the bone with no additives not just breaded chicken? In that case it’s completely reasonable to stop her eating one food that causes her pain and when she’s older can decide if she wants to put herself in pain or not. A dietician will put her on an elimination diet which seems pointless if you already know what she’s intolerant to

knitnerd90 · 06/09/2024 11:06

Chicken (and turkey) is one of the rarer intolerances, to the point where many elimination diets don't eliminate it (it's in the baseline list to see if symptoms disappear). If the chicken was coated or processed in any way, it's more likely to be that. I don't think just banning chicken is a good method. You need to do a proper controlled diet under medical supervision.

LookItsMeAgain · 06/09/2024 11:03

Is the chicken coated with breadcrumbs or batter before it's served to her? It could just as easily be the coating that is causing her issues as the actual meat.

I'd let her try again, and if the symptoms return, bring her to your GP to get checked out.

queenofarles · 06/09/2024 11:03

It’s probably not the chicken , but what goes in it , is it breaded? Seasoned?

Goody2ShoesAndTheFilthyBeast · 06/09/2024 11:01

Depending on her age you can always tell her you're going to test it and give her chicken and if she suddenly gets sick again then that will be proof that the chicken is to blame.

SpiderGwen · 06/09/2024 10:54

You can't just cut something like chicken out of a child's diet

@Lostinbrum - you really can , you know! Chicken is not an essential part of a child’s diet; plenty of people don’t eat chicken and live perfectly healthy lives. I think we had it maybe twice a month when the children were young.

How old is your DD, OP? Keeping a food diary for a couple of months will help you get a better sense of what affects her than dropping chicken for a week or two. If she’s old enough to write down what she has at school, between you both, you can build up a picture of her symptoms and possible triggers.

TheSquareMile · 06/09/2024 10:53

@GreatMintPeer

How old is she, OP?

I think that you should seek the advice of your GP, just in case she actually has Coeliac Disease. It's important to know for certain if she does, as proper management of her diet now will be important.

You do mention that she is experiencing discomfort after eating meals, which suggests that something else is causing the problem, not chicken.

DogInATent · 06/09/2024 10:47

FatmanandKnobbin · 06/09/2024 10:13

My dd had a test at the doctor for intolerances, which showed up a couple of things so there definitely is.

There is no such thing as an intolerance test. Intolerance is the term for things that can't be determined through a test - if it's not an allergy or autoimmune reaction, it's an intolerance.

There are indicative tests for dairy intolerance (e.g. hydrogen breath test) but they are only indicative and not diagnostic.

The only way an intolerance can be diagnosed is through a elimination and reintroduction diet. Anyone selling you a blood prick, hair test, or anything involving bioresonance, as a test for intolerance is scamming you.

IamAutumn · 06/09/2024 10:45

Nothing coated or with added junk to start with. Chicken fillets or diced from a butcher and vegetables. NOT processed.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 06/09/2024 10:44

Is she the same with e.g. plain chicken roasted or baked at home? I’d suspect that the likes of school lunch nuggets contain sundry additives.

RedToothBrush · 06/09/2024 10:40

What is she eating instead of chicken?

You should speak to the GP to make an informed decision, so when she's older she can choose. Otherwise she will only end up going through that process anyway.

Plus you could be replacing the chicken with other food that is problematic or missing out on critical nutriants.

She is a child - if you eliminate anything from their diet it is wise to only do so with the advice of a doctor if its for medical reasons.

DadJoke · 06/09/2024 10:37

You are (probably) not a dietitian or other medical professional. Get her an appointment with the GP for allergy testing.

SonicTheHodgeheg · 06/09/2024 10:36

SoupDragon · 06/09/2024 10:29

The OP cut out chicken, not gluten, and her DD improved so it's unlikely to be gluten, surely?

An intolerances would mean that you can eat some gluten but not lots. My ds can eat a slice a toast but the sort of gluten in processed goods like sausages make him sick. Similarly he can add cheese to his pasta because Parmesan is very low lactose but cow’s milk and dairy cream makes him sick. We’ve had to experiment with what works and what doesn’t because intolerances can’t be tested for but at age 18 we have a pretty good idea.

JFDIYOLO · 06/09/2024 10:36

Get a DOCTOR. It could be so many other things. She needs proper testing. Stop fixating on the chicken and take professional advice.

CheekySwan · 06/09/2024 10:35

Is it just plain chicken she eats? Or it it battered/breaded? This could be the issue

There are also a lot of meat free alternative which I actually sometimes think taste much better, she wouldn't need to know

I think also if you cut it out altogether this may cause more problems further down the road as she may not have any tolerance for it in the future

Tradersinsnow · 06/09/2024 10:33

What were the tests? Blood? Skin?

Lauz841 · 06/09/2024 10:32

FatmanandKnobbin · 06/09/2024 10:13

My dd had a test at the doctor for intolerances, which showed up a couple of things so there definitely is.

Yes, mine too. It showed dairy and soya which we already knew, and also tomato and strawberries which we didn't realise.

Octopies · 06/09/2024 10:32

Definitely agree with the advice to take her to the doctors to try to find out what's causing the issues. Any chance she's at an age where it could be hormonal? I've had female friends who experienced bad bloating and stomach aches like clockwork at various points in their cycle.

I'm not sure how you'd ban her from eating chicken at school or when she's out with friends.

Butwhybecause · 06/09/2024 10:31

Mangolover123 · 06/09/2024 09:59

Are you sure it is chicken and not gluten?

This absolutely!
After years of strange symptoms and ill health undiagnosed by GPs, my DD was found to be coeliac.

SoupDragon · 06/09/2024 10:29

The OP cut out chicken, not gluten, and her DD improved so it's unlikely to be gluten, surely?

LBFseBrom · 06/09/2024 10:28

Seeline · 06/09/2024 09:55

You can't prove it was the chicken unless she tries it again and the symptoms return.

I would have thought there were far more likely causes than chicken anyway. Chicken really isn't a common cause of stomach ache/bloating.

How old is your daughter?

Edited

I agree but - chicken nuggets? I wouldn't call those 'chicken' in the sense of being a proper chicken based meal, they are processed food.

I'd let her have decent roast chicken or casserole occasionally, even curry if she likes it, and see how it goes. Chicken is extremely nutritious.

Tradersinsnow · 06/09/2024 10:28

How old is she though?

RubberStamps · 06/09/2024 10:28

It's her decision.

readysteadynono · 06/09/2024 10:27

HoppingPavlova · 06/09/2024 10:16

When you say ‘eating chicken’ what do you mean? Is she eating fresh, plain chicken, cooked, or fresh chicken that has been coated in crumbs or seasoning and cooked, or processed shit masquerading as chicken such as chicken nuggets. It would be rare that plain, fresh chicken would be causing digestive issues, and otherwise it’s something else not the actual chicken.

This.

At the very least do a controlled test of a plain, chicken breast with nothing added to see if it actually is the cause of the issues. My guess from lots of experience of intolerances would be it’s not. But that doesn’t mean you’re imagining it! Keep being a detective and involve the GP.

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