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to ban DD from eating chicken

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GreatMintPeer · 06/09/2024 09:51

I know this might sound extreme, but hear me out. My DD has been having some digestive issues lately. She's been complaining of stomach aches and feeling bloated after meals. After doing some research, I discovered that chicken can be a common trigger for digestive issues in some people.

I decided to do an experiment and cut chicken out of her diet for a week. Lo and behold, her stomach aches disappeared and she felt much better overall. I was thrilled that I had found a simple solution to her discomfort.

But now, DD is begging me to let her have chicken again. She misses her favorite meals and feels left out when her friends are eating chicken nuggets at school. I understand where she's coming from, but I can't ignore the fact that her health has improved since cutting out chicken.

I've tried to explain to her the reasons behind my decision, but she just doesn't seem to understand. She thinks I'm being unfair and depriving her of something she enjoys. I feel torn between wanting to make her happy and wanting to keep her healthy.

So, am I being unreasonable to ban my DD from eating chicken? I just want what's best for her, but I can't help feeling guilty for denying her something she loves. Any advice or similar experiences would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.

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Putmeinsummer · 06/09/2024 12:16

FatmanandKnobbin · 06/09/2024 10:00

Get her an intolerance test.

I would also try her on chicken again for a week and see what happens.

How old is she?

You can't test for intolerance. The only test is remove suspected foods from the diet, see if symptoms go, and then see if they return when the food is reintroduced.

SmileyHappyPeopleInTheSun · 06/09/2024 12:13

Keep a food diary - and maybe at quiet time re-introduce with plain chicken and see if there is an effect. Also see if something like turkey is fine.

I wouldn't rule out chicken being the issue - DD1 reacted to carrots though outgrew it - but number of people who insist not possible was just odd and we'd kept food diary and it was clearly the issue.

By all means try and get GP intertest - I don't know if we been spectacular unlucky with GP but I think many are poor with allergies and are disinclined to refer even for condition that have dragged on and clearly need it.

Depending on her age - explaining you think stomach issue are chicken - I'd expect her to want to find alternatives and avoid it.

Toastcrumbsinsofa · 06/09/2024 12:07

You need to speak to a qualified medical professional to find out whether your DD needs to stop eating chicken or anything else. Please don’t cut out her favourite foods without finding out what is causing the symptoms.

Fraaahnces · 06/09/2024 12:01

Why don’t you do something more scientific like FODMAP?

WearsblackLoveschocolateAvoidspeople · 06/09/2024 12:00

Wigtopia · 06/09/2024 11:14

Also to add lots of dogs have chicken allergies too!

My previous (and current dog too) would suffer awful diarrhoea after eating chicken yet chicken and rice is the advice given for dog's tummy woes.

RickyGervaislovesdogs · 06/09/2024 11:56

What kind of chicken is it? How is it cooked? It seems like an easy solution to me to just cut it. But a quick google says to see a G.P and go from there. It sounds like she intolerant to me.

It is possible to survive without chicken, it’s the worst protein you can eat. The way it’s prepared for a start- 🤢

Chillimuma · 06/09/2024 11:52

Way more likely to be dairy or gluten or eggs. Chicken is not a common allergy

LBFseBrom · 06/09/2024 11:52

OP, you don't give your daughter's age. After a certain age you cannot ban them from eating things and if you try, they'll do it anyway.

LBFseBrom · 06/09/2024 11:50

SoupDragon · 06/09/2024 10:29

The OP cut out chicken, not gluten, and her DD improved so it's unlikely to be gluten, surely?

Are chicken nuggets not wrapped in breadcrumbs or batter which would not be gluten free? I've never had them but have seen them and they look that way.

Most people can take a bit of gluten unless they are particularly sensitive to it but not much. May the child's meals/snacks are generally processed like the nuggets, who knows?

Happybird91 · 06/09/2024 11:50

You may be right? But there may be something else why she is not digesting the chicken. Did she have a bug before this? Have you seen a dr?

I had similar when DD1 was 2. In my mind it was dairy which I cut down as the drs didn’t have am answer for the problem.

I think she had a bug before and it took her awhile to get over it, fully recovered so she lost the enzyme to diggest it, I introduced milk and dairy later on and she was fine.

Thelittlehouseonthehill · 06/09/2024 11:49

I would just let her eat it if she wants. It’s her who has to face the consequences if it doesn’t agree with her again.
How old is she?

godmum56 · 06/09/2024 11:45

I am not sure that you can stop her without getting her on board. There is an old saying "correlation is not causation" I don't think you have done enough to say "Its chicken, no more chicken for you!"

DrinkFeckArseGirls · 06/09/2024 11:41

I second what Wigtopia said. I had the other day Quorn mozarella pesto “escalopes” and they were very good. Again it depends in your DD’s age but if you don't say what it is you might get away with it. Saying that it’s best to get her on board as she needs to be aware what she eats outside at playdates or school in order not to make herself unwell.
Other than that what about turkey, duck or goose - does she react to other poultry?

FrenchandSaunders · 06/09/2024 11:34

GPs are pretty crap at diagnosing food allergies, even a dermatologist wasn't interested in testing my eczema covered DD. We had to go private.

Keep a food diary OP and see what happens.

GuestFeatu · 06/09/2024 11:34

Her age is pretty relevant here! 5? YANBU. 15? YABU.

Loub1987 · 06/09/2024 11:33

Personally I’d speak to a medical professional.

ranchdressing · 06/09/2024 11:33

Banning your children from doing anything is a waste of time. Instead educate her and help her be her own advocate.

As you don't know for sure frame it is 'mummy thinks chicken makes you feel poorly. If you really want it, you can try, but remember it might give you a tummy ache'

Contraryjane · 06/09/2024 11:28

You haven’t “researched” it. You’ve googled it. Thats not research. But probably all that so-called nutrition experts do too.

Commonsense22 · 06/09/2024 11:23

If the chicken is genuinely the cause of her health issues then she just has to learn it as a not even that tough life lesson.

But it's worth checking it is indeed that.

Wigtopia · 06/09/2024 11:14

time4anothername · 06/09/2024 11:12

Seem to be a lot of doubters around that chicken allergy can exist. It can and it can start in young children with gastro symptoms and get worse with age. Certainly sounds a good idea to have a plain chicken meal and see if the symptoms return. If they do, see the GP for an allergy referral, don't waste money on over the counter "intolerance" tests
https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s40521-022-00309-2

Also to add lots of dogs have chicken allergies too!

Wigtopia · 06/09/2024 11:13

Could you trial quorn “chicken” products? Obvs not 100% the same, but they can be used in the same way. E.g the frozen pieces are good to Chuck in a curry, you can get frozen “chicken” nuggets etc

Catza · 06/09/2024 11:12

SoupDragon · 06/09/2024 10:29

The OP cut out chicken, not gluten, and her DD improved so it's unlikely to be gluten, surely?

I think this was in reference to nuggets which are coated in bred crumbs, possibly have flower to hold the chicken sludge together.
At the moment, it is not clear at all if Op means chicken when she says chicken.
I find it quite strange that chicken was the first port of call for the OP. There are multitude of things which can cause bloating and a lot of them are nuts, fruits, vegetables, dairy, gluten. So it is probably conceivable to assume that DD's diet is mostly devoid of fresh stuff for OP to arrive at the "chicken" conclusion.

time4anothername · 06/09/2024 11:12

Seem to be a lot of doubters around that chicken allergy can exist. It can and it can start in young children with gastro symptoms and get worse with age. Certainly sounds a good idea to have a plain chicken meal and see if the symptoms return. If they do, see the GP for an allergy referral, don't waste money on over the counter "intolerance" tests
https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s40521-022-00309-2

Poultry Meat allergy: a Review of Allergens and Clinical Phenotypes - Current Treatment Options in Allergy

Purpose of review In the recent years, more cases of poultry meat allergy, both IgE- or non-IgE-mediated, are being reported. Patients have varied clinical reactivity at various levels of sensitivity to different meat preparations. The lack of validate...

https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s40521-022-00309-2

WearsblackLoveschocolateAvoidspeople · 06/09/2024 11:09

Although I do have IBS, chicken wrecks my stomach. I have no idea why as it is always listed as a 'safe' food for those with digestive issues. However, my dad and my nan also suffered from a bad tummy after eating chicken so maybe, for me, it's some weird family thing? We have the same issue with eggs.

It could be chicken from McDonalds or organic plain chicken and I still suffer the same gastric issues.

I have not touched chicken for 18 months now and eat lots of turkey instead.

Maybe your dd does have an intolerance to chicken, it is certainly not unheard of. Worth mentioning it to the GP though.

Zobert80 · 06/09/2024 11:09

I would highly recommend getting her allergy tested via your GP. My eldest son kept vomiting after eating chicken. The doctors initially said allergy was unlikely but came through clearly as a poultry allergy on the tests.

He’s avoided for about 8 years now and had no problems, however we do sneak out for a KFC if he’s out with his friends 😁

Hope you get her sorted x

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