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to ban DD from eating chicken

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GreatMintPeer · 06/09/2024 09:51

I know this might sound extreme, but hear me out. My DD has been having some digestive issues lately. She's been complaining of stomach aches and feeling bloated after meals. After doing some research, I discovered that chicken can be a common trigger for digestive issues in some people.

I decided to do an experiment and cut chicken out of her diet for a week. Lo and behold, her stomach aches disappeared and she felt much better overall. I was thrilled that I had found a simple solution to her discomfort.

But now, DD is begging me to let her have chicken again. She misses her favorite meals and feels left out when her friends are eating chicken nuggets at school. I understand where she's coming from, but I can't ignore the fact that her health has improved since cutting out chicken.

I've tried to explain to her the reasons behind my decision, but she just doesn't seem to understand. She thinks I'm being unfair and depriving her of something she enjoys. I feel torn between wanting to make her happy and wanting to keep her healthy.

So, am I being unreasonable to ban my DD from eating chicken? I just want what's best for her, but I can't help feeling guilty for denying her something she loves. Any advice or similar experiences would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.

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Concretejungle1 · 06/09/2024 13:59

As someone with stomach issues, chicken is certainly not a common trigger Confused
( if it turns out she does in fact have something like ibs, celiac then gluten will infact be a trigger).
Take her to the gp, you have no idea what she is reacting too.
it could be anything, it may not even be food.

EPankhurst · 06/09/2024 13:53

Veggie fake chicken nuggets aren't bad. But yeah, depending on her age let her experiment. Eat chicken, see if it upsets her tummy.

Beansandneedles · 06/09/2024 13:44

Think it's going to depend how old she is tbh.

If she's old enough to make decisions for herself (my kids are really young so I don't have any experience....not going to put a firm age on here, think it depends on your flavour kid!!) then you give her all the facts and she ultimately can decide what to do for her body. However if the symptoms come back and you can say with certainty it's the chicken, then personally my sympathy for any consequences of her choices would be very low. If she chooses to eat the thing causing her discomfort, then she doesn't get to shirk responsibilities or school or whatever because her stomach hurts.

EI12 · 06/09/2024 13:22

We are not in the 18th century, people who are not biomed scientists do not have to 'do research' and forego medical tests for stomach issues. Take your dd to a gastroenterologist, they will do q-fit-schmit or whatever, coeliac screen, colon transit marker, or whatever they do these days. After all, she may well be able to consume her chicken and the culprit may be a different type of food?

PinkiOcelot · 06/09/2024 13:18

My DH had the same problem and no longer eats chicken. He did try it again and his symptoms recurred. He hasn’t been tested for anything officially.

Sartre · 06/09/2024 13:13

Agree with others that it could be a fluke, one week isn’t really enough time to call it for certain. Reintroduce chicken and see if the issues start up again. Should probably seek medical advice though to be honest.

DogInATent · 06/09/2024 13:11

After doing some research, I discovered that chicken can be a common trigger for digestive issues in some people.

Are you sure you're not picking up a lot of irrelevant data due to the far more common association between chicken, poor kitchen practices, and food poisoning?

GargoylesofBeelzebub · 06/09/2024 13:08

Both my DC have multiple food allergies and carry epipens.

Chicken is one of the least allergenic foods out there. It's not one that comes up ever on the allergy forums.

amusedbush · 06/09/2024 13:04

My dog is allergic to poultry but I don't think it's that common in humans. I have raging IBS so have a little bit of insight into triggers for bloating/gastro discomfort and it tends to be high FODMAP foods, e.g. (certain types of) fruit, dairy, wheat, onion, garlic, beans, lentils.

I'd be very surprised if plain chicken was causing your DD such issues, unless she has a full-on allergy, which should be looked into by a specialist. As PPs have said, it's more likely an additive or the coating on processed things like nuggets. I bloody love a chicken nugget, though - she has my sympathies!

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CurlewKate · 06/09/2024 12:43

What "research" did you do that showed chicken was a common cause of digestive upsets?

Half an hour on google, the same that every other self diagnosed allergy sufferer does.

And yes. I have allergies. Haven't died of anaphylaxia yet, but have had pretty much every allergic reaction that a body can summons. This gives me a very low tolerance of 'allergies' in self-diagnosed people.

NoTouch · 06/09/2024 12:50

I would try reintroducing chicken, but just whole/roasted chicken for a week, not nuggets etc to discount the other ingredients in nuggets and other pre-prepped chicken.

Katemax82 · 06/09/2024 12:47

Christ I can't imagine cutting out chicken..sorry to hear it's been causing her problems

Seeline · 06/09/2024 12:46

To be fair she could just have had a stomach bug, or something like gastritis. She really needs to see a GP to rule out all gastric/digestive issues.

DogInATent · 06/09/2024 12:44

Peaceandquietandacuppa · 06/09/2024 12:37

Try giving her a plain bit of chicken breast and see if she reacts. If so you have your answer. If not then try chicken nuggets - maybe it’s something in the batter. I wonder if a private intolerance test would show anything?

Intolerance testing is a scam. See PP.

CurlewKate · 06/09/2024 12:43

What "research" did you do that showed chicken was a common cause of digestive upsets?

Mrsdyna · 06/09/2024 12:43

It's very unlikely that it's the chicken. Maybe take her for an allergy test first?

Peaceandquietandacuppa · 06/09/2024 12:37

Try giving her a plain bit of chicken breast and see if she reacts. If so you have your answer. If not then try chicken nuggets - maybe it’s something in the batter. I wonder if a private intolerance test would show anything?

Fathercrispness · 06/09/2024 12:36

Lostinbrum · 06/09/2024 10:01

You really need to carry out an elimination diet under the guidance of a doctor or nutritionist. You can't just cut something like chicken out of a child's diet. Let her have the chicken nuggets and please see a doctor

You can of course cut chicken out from a child’s diet! It’s not dangerous- vegetarians don’t have chicken!!

OP it may not be the chicken itself. Why not introduce plain unprocessed chicken back into her diet and see if the stomach problems return? If not, then move onto chicken nuggets and see what happens. Keep a food diary to show your GP but as long as you’re not cutting out major food groups without consultation a bit of experimenting with suspected triggers gives the GP something to go on at least.

Catafult · 06/09/2024 12:36

Get her to watch dominion

dementedpixie · 06/09/2024 12:32

It could be the coating rather than the chicken itself. Has she had the same issue with plain chicken or just chicken nuggets that have batter on them?

BobbyBiscuits · 06/09/2024 12:31

I've never heard chicken causing bloating? Could it be the breading in the nuggets, something to do with wheat or gluten?
It's just not a common allergen. Try her on a little bit of organic chicken, just cooked with salt and pepper. If she's fine then it's almost certainly not chicken. But another ingredient.

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Imicola · 06/09/2024 12:27

We had similar issues with my DD (at age 4 - 5) - frequent stomach ache. Took her to the GP and they requested a food diary for about 2 months to see if there are any patterns as to when the stomach ache occurred. For us, it seemed to be seeded bread, oranges and beans. I would imagine most GPs would request something similar before doing any tests, to identify whether there are specific foods causing the issue.

Similarly, my daughter sometimes likes to eat them regardless, particularly beans in her school lunch. If she has a stomach ache I ask if she has eaten beans, which helps her to understand the link. I'm still not 100% certain if it is these, or if it is one in particular of these items that was causing the issue, but we've had the problem far less recently.

Similarly to what others have said though - chicken seems an odd initial assumption - a food diary should be able to give some more specific evidence. I can only assume there are apps that would help to identify patterns if you don't want to do it manually (we did it manually, and it was rather difficult!).

godmum56 · 06/09/2024 12:25

WearsblackLoveschocolateAvoidspeople · 06/09/2024 12:00

My previous (and current dog too) would suffer awful diarrhoea after eating chicken yet chicken and rice is the advice given for dog's tummy woes.

scarmbled egg and rice is another one suggested for dogs with upset stomach, used to make my dog's tum worse

Choochoo21 · 06/09/2024 12:18

Why not just let her have them at school?

Perhaps suggest she only has them twice a week or something.

I would try her with turkey and quorn nuggets too and see if she likes the taste of them and they could be used as easy swaps.

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