DH and best friends wedding

Maybe he's depressed or dislikes your friend. Yes, definitely tell her now giving a little white lie as an excuse: he has social anxiety maybe, and can't cope with lots of folk he doesn't know.

Being unhappy is absolutely enough. You only have one life. Uprooting your child now will save them from living in a unhappy environment.

Do not tell him about your mum, he may demand she drop out if he chznges his mind.

Say nothing.
Do not give him the opportunity to go.

@Strawberrysaucee until you decide to stay or leave try hard not to care either way. He’s loving you asking him to go.
In future a breezy ok no worries will wrong step him.
Love and hate are both emotions, however not caring either way, refusing to express an opinion will annoy him most if it’s attention he’s after.
If your out and he rings with a problem just reply that you’re sure he can deal with it. Bye.

This also entered my mind to be honest - some kind of thing for your friend or a previous encounter? But then he does have form for doing this so could just be being his usual difficult self.

Either way, is this the kind of partner you want and deserve? If you split he would need to support financially, surely you'd be better off without his negative draining influence?

I am going to guess now you have someone else coming with you, he will change his kind last minute.

Who is looking after your child?

I'd be leaving little one with your mom, I would want my child to be left with DH & listen to him getting annoyed/ angry

Sorry to hear that happened to you.

I must admit OP I was wondering if something like this, or even just your DH fancying your friend, was a possibility. While it's terrible behaviour from him there seems to be something about this specific wedding he's taken against, beyond it just being one of your friend's and not his. Has he got on with your best friend in the past? Has he always made comments about her or did they start when she announced her wedding?

Is there any chance at all that something has happened between the bride and your husband, OP? Given that he seems to be handling her upcoming wedding so badly...

From the outside it sounds as if this man values himself before you and your child.
He invents arguments to try and stop you from going out / doing things without him
He can’t change.
If you are married ,separating is not as easy but I don’t think he is capable of making anyone happy except himself.
He represents a future of misery and lost opportunities if you stay.
He resents your friend and is trying to sabotage your friendship

Go the wedding & have the best time.

Can you leave little one with someone else for the night eg. mom?

(re hen do) I wouldn't want my child to be left with someone who gets annoyed/ angry only because a poorly child does not go sleep on time...

I'd have a proper chat and maybe even counselling with DH but yeah, his behaviour doesn't sound great. I always pull DH on comments etc. , please don't let him ruin things for you.

Why are you with this man? He sounds like a total arse. I wouldn't be having this.

If you do decide to leave your H, it sounds like you have a lovely supportive best friend and Mum who will help you. You deserve so much better and I’m pretty sure that it won’t be a complete shock to your close friends and family if the relationship ends with this selfish pig.

You don’t really need ‘something bad enough’ to leave him. If you took all the occasions he has been awful and gave them a value of £100 each - just how much money would you have now? Does that give you another perspective? Only you can decide when enough is enough. It’s no one else’s business- they are not living your life!

My ex did this. Turned out that he had slept with the bride to be. It all came out a few weeks after the wedding. It was a bit too Jeremy Kyle for me.

The next guy you meet will also come with his challenges and what are you going to do then, dump him too?

Yes, absolutely!

Was he a dickhead before you married him?

Strawberrysaucee · Today 10:16
I told my friend.
She was lovely and supportive - my mum is coming with me now.

He will not like this. He did not get his aim - problems for you, pleading, ruining it for you or you standing down.
Be prepared for demands for Mum to stand down for him, or other activities to spoil it for you.

Try not to engage about the wedding, less he knows the better, but pre empt.

Good - she will be much better company than him.

He sounds a colossal twat. I would think about dumping him. This is no way to live for you or your child.

That last sentence. He’s a narcissist. He will deliberately ruin stuff for you whenever the focus isn’t on him.

Haven't RTFT, and I hate to ask, but is there any chance there's ever been something between him and your friend?

Gosh he really is a text-book turd isn't he.

OP, once the wedding is out of the way (and I agree with pp's that he will try to sabotage you going) I would seriously consider divorcing him.

He is an abuser and it will not change, in fact it will worsen.

Having just 1 child, renting, and in receipt of your own monthly salary means you are in a far better position than most who post on here. Just think about never having to deal with his moods and deliberate obstruction to anything that makes you happy. He is a shit head who deserves to be royally dumped.

I wish I had read this advice when younger

He is jealous of your relationship with your close friend and angry that he is not in control of you when it is YOUR friend / family.

You are going to need your friends and family OP so keep close to them and do not let him isolate you.

If you leave, you will be OK. You have your job, you will have child maintenance , you can get UC.