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DH and me on Mounjaro weightloss injections

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WaffleDogg20 · 06/09/2024 06:57

God I’m so fed up.

Usually my husband and myself diet together. We’ve done every diet under the sun and we support each other through it.

This time I decided to start mounjaro and he hasn’t. He’s not comfortable with his body what so ever and claims he’s the biggest he has ever been but won’t join me on this and doesn’t seem to be making any changes.

It feels like he’s jealous of me losing weight. He says I talk about it all the time but I don’t, he rolls his eyes when I mention anything iv lost, he never asks me how much iv lost or how am I doing. He’s not acknowledged any change in me. I tried a pair of jeans on today that I couldn’t even get up a few months ago and now I can do up! I told my daughter first and then went downstairs to tell him and all he said was “I heard you upstairs”.

iv been on it a month now and lost nearly 2 stones. Iv been unable to tell him or speak to him about how im feeling because he just says “you do talk about it a lot” I bloody don’t.

It’s really really getting me down. He’s making me feel embarrassed and ashamed for losing weight and being proud of myself. I don’t know what to do 😞

OP posts:
oakleaffy · 06/09/2024 10:03

crumblingschools · 06/09/2024 09:00

@NeedSomeAnswersPlease but that is really obvious that boredom can lead to overeating, don’t need an injection to tell you that.

Boredom for sure!

It's very easy to eat sugary fatty salty snacks as they are so 'moreish' {To me anyway!}

Mum used to say when we were kids ''If you are hungry, have a slice of bread and butter'' or an apple.

If one is genuinely hungry, simple {nice} bread {or toast} and butter is edible.

But often one isn't genuinely hungry and one just wants the sweet/salt/fat hit.

Salted caramel ice cream from a gelato seller- delicious!

Appealing to the taste buds - ''A minute in the mouth- a month on the hips!'' {another of mum's sayings}

WaffleDogg20 · 06/09/2024 09:56

ASpritzOfMyFavouritePerfume · 06/09/2024 07:57

And the studies about long term effects - doubt these have been tested since 40 years ago. Do you have no worries about what the impact will be in 40 years?

I was hitting 27stone. I doubt I would have been here in 40 years if I didn’t do something.

OP posts:
Mangolover123 · 06/09/2024 09:56

However you lose weight is an achievement, nothing is a magic wand.
You need to weigh up the costs, the side effects and it still take a bit of willpower.

I am not on the injections and decided against them but it doesn't mean I won't reconsider.

I am going the Fast800 and I am finding that very good to follow. I am probably over the 800 calories more like 900/1000 calories per day but the food noise and cravings have stopped. I have had 1 biscuit in 5 weeks and no sugar cravings - this was my downfall. I fast between 8pm and 12pm. The recipes in the books are delicious. I am 12 lbs down in 5 weeks but I am a slow loser.
It is a med style diet with good amount of protein. This will be my new way of eating and I am going to keep it up.

So hats off to 2st, I am quite envious. Keep up the good work.

InfradeadToUltraviolent · 06/09/2024 09:50

There's a middle position.
You can recognise that white knuckle weight loss is all but impossible for many severely overweight people, and that these drugs can be literal lifesavers, while simultaneously knowing that modern medical science has done a lot of the heavy lifting for them: that's the whole point of these drugs.

If a morbidly obese friend dropped five stone on Mountjero I'd be genuinely delighted for her.
If she dropped the weight using will power and lifestyle changes alone I'd be delighted for her and also massively impressed.

Princessandthepie · 06/09/2024 09:49

I thought you meant each but if they can afford it, it's up to them how the spend their own money.

oakleaffy · 06/09/2024 09:48

All drugs have side effects, and have to be broken down by the liver.

''Fatty liver disease, Pancreatitis and thyroid cancer'' are mentioned as potential side effects.

Lots of pharmaceuticals are toxic long term.

Buddenbruchs · 06/09/2024 09:45

Princessandthepie · 06/09/2024 09:32

@Daisypod thank you

@Buddenbruchs injections are not £500 a month

X 2 they are, Op and her hubby.

Princessandthepie · 06/09/2024 09:41

@FallenMadonnawiththeBadBoobies yes how very true!

Imagine all the pearl clutching now for those that have realised they may have congratulated an injector who didn't tell them they were injecting! I wonder if the congratulator feels cheated? 🤣

CameraGown · 06/09/2024 09:41

FallenMadonnawiththeBadBoobies · 06/09/2024 09:38

I'm truly fascinated that some people believe that congratulations from others for losing weight is a relevant factor at all. People want to lose weight because they will be healthier, happier and less likely to be judged harshly by others.

The latter point is perfectly clear from this thread. Fat people = lower moral standards. Slimming by suffering = just penance. Slimming by taking an easier way = cheating.

Mad isn't it.

Mounjaroooooh · 06/09/2024 09:41

FallenMadonnawiththeBadBoobies · 06/09/2024 09:38

I'm truly fascinated that some people believe that congratulations from others for losing weight is a relevant factor at all. People want to lose weight because they will be healthier, happier and less likely to be judged harshly by others.

The latter point is perfectly clear from this thread. Fat people = lower moral standards. Slimming by suffering = just penance. Slimming by taking an easier way = cheating.

Quite.

Slated for trying to do something about our weight/health when all else has failed, I don't hear the same level of vitriol for those injecting themselves for vanity reasons i.e. botox/lip fillers etc.

FallenMadonnawiththeBadBoobies · 06/09/2024 09:38

I'm truly fascinated that some people believe that congratulations from others for losing weight is a relevant factor at all. People want to lose weight because they will be healthier, happier and less likely to be judged harshly by others.

The latter point is perfectly clear from this thread. Fat people = lower moral standards. Slimming by suffering = just penance. Slimming by taking an easier way = cheating.

ThatsNotMyTeen · 06/09/2024 09:35

Buddenbruchs · 06/09/2024 09:26

Tbf I think the people getting the help should be the obese poor. Who can’t afford the gym, in low paying jobs, surviving off cheap, processed food. They’re the folk that fill up the hospital wards with the horrendous side effects of T2 diabetes etc. I find it mind boggling that pps can afford £500 per month on these injections and yet the ones who seriously need it have to jump through hoops to get it on the NHS and can’t afford it privately.

Tbh, I seriously need it. I had a BMI 50 when I started these.

I am happy to pay though and would even if the NHS were prescribing freely.

Princessandthepie · 06/09/2024 09:32

@Daisypod thank you

@Buddenbruchs injections are not £500 a month

Mounjaroooooh · 06/09/2024 09:32

Depends on the dosage the last pen I ordered (7.5mg) was £150

Buddenbruchs · 06/09/2024 09:31

CameraGown · 06/09/2024 09:29

£500 a month? Where from

Several posters have talked about getting it for their partners as well. I thought it was about £250 per month per patient ?

Flibflobflibflob · 06/09/2024 09:31

I’m on injections, I’m a slow loser but tbh I just don’t ever talk about it or mention it. Possibly because it’s taking ages and the changes are slow so theres not much to say. He should be encouraging you regardless but I would just stop talking about it. It may not be the injections it may just be that living with anyone on a diet or losing weight can get a bit boring. He’s used to be being part of it so you inevitably discuss what you are eating or how much you have lost.

CameraGown · 06/09/2024 09:29

Buddenbruchs · 06/09/2024 09:26

Tbf I think the people getting the help should be the obese poor. Who can’t afford the gym, in low paying jobs, surviving off cheap, processed food. They’re the folk that fill up the hospital wards with the horrendous side effects of T2 diabetes etc. I find it mind boggling that pps can afford £500 per month on these injections and yet the ones who seriously need it have to jump through hoops to get it on the NHS and can’t afford it privately.

£500 a month? Where from

Skyrainlight · 06/09/2024 09:28

ASpritzOfMyFavouritePerfume · 06/09/2024 07:21

Ok, going to get totally flamed for this but here goes.

If someone had lost loads of weight as a result of weight loss injections I wouldn't see it as any where near the achievement of grafting through rectifying diet and moving more.

Having said that, I actually don't disagree with the injections as weight gain is extremely complex.

But would I congratulate someone losing weight from injections in the same way as someone taking a traditional route? Just got to be honest and say no I wouldn't.

I agree. I wouldn't congratulate someone for losing weight with weight loss drugs either.

Buddenbruchs · 06/09/2024 09:26

MelainesLaugh · 06/09/2024 08:00

I’m in the same boat that I’m on MJ and my DH won’t even consider it. We’ve both put on so much weight he would benefit, I’ve even offered to pay.

Its frustrating what a stigma there is attached to them.

Tbf I think the people getting the help should be the obese poor. Who can’t afford the gym, in low paying jobs, surviving off cheap, processed food. They’re the folk that fill up the hospital wards with the horrendous side effects of T2 diabetes etc. I find it mind boggling that pps can afford £500 per month on these injections and yet the ones who seriously need it have to jump through hoops to get it on the NHS and can’t afford it privately.

Daisypod · 06/09/2024 09:26

I think @Princessandthepie has summed up perfectly how these injections have helped.
As fat people we are used to being judged, even when we do something positive to loose weight.
To those saying it isn't an achievement and we haven't worked for it in the same way, would you feel the same about someone who had taken anti depressants to help them overcome depression as opposed to just doing it in their own? Being overweight all your life is complicated and as well as the insulin resistance there are many physiological issues involved which the injections can help give you clarity to work on.
Anyway op, you're doing marvellously but your dh obviously isn't ready to try this, it can be a very big thing for some people, it took me several months of thinking about it before taking the plunge.

Skyrainlight · 06/09/2024 09:26

Not everyone agrees with weight loss drugs which is probably why he isn't on them. I wouldn't be celebrating someone taking a drug to lose weight either when I don't think it's healthy. I'm sure if you lost it naturally he would celebrate with you.

Mounjaroooooh · 06/09/2024 09:14

Franjipanl8r · 06/09/2024 09:12

Some things you have to do on your own through self motivation and weight loss is one. No amount of talking about it is going to help, cut your DH some slack.

Really? Who knew?

Franjipanl8r · 06/09/2024 09:12

Some things you have to do on your own through self motivation and weight loss is one. No amount of talking about it is going to help, cut your DH some slack.

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So you take pot shots at other people who have struggled with their weight all their lives to make them feel bad for not taking them.