Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

DH and me on Mounjaro weightloss injections

261 replies

WaffleDogg20 · 06/09/2024 06:57

God I’m so fed up.

Usually my husband and myself diet together. We’ve done every diet under the sun and we support each other through it.

This time I decided to start mounjaro and he hasn’t. He’s not comfortable with his body what so ever and claims he’s the biggest he has ever been but won’t join me on this and doesn’t seem to be making any changes.

It feels like he’s jealous of me losing weight. He says I talk about it all the time but I don’t, he rolls his eyes when I mention anything iv lost, he never asks me how much iv lost or how am I doing. He’s not acknowledged any change in me. I tried a pair of jeans on today that I couldn’t even get up a few months ago and now I can do up! I told my daughter first and then went downstairs to tell him and all he said was “I heard you upstairs”.

iv been on it a month now and lost nearly 2 stones. Iv been unable to tell him or speak to him about how im feeling because he just says “you do talk about it a lot” I bloody don’t.

It’s really really getting me down. He’s making me feel embarrassed and ashamed for losing weight and being proud of myself. I don’t know what to do 😞

OP posts:
Tattletwat · 06/09/2024 11:32

User6874356 · 06/09/2024 10:51

What risks? The side effects are minimal and there are benefits in addition to weight loss. He has more risk associated with being overweight

Sounds more like he’s jealous

It really isn't unreasonable not to want to use weight loss injections.

Injecting yourself with substances for weight loss is distasteful to some, it isn't to me but I can see the viewpoint.

And there are lots of possible side effects you aren't a doctor so don't say they are minimal as you don't know how some is going to react.

Mumsnet has got really weird towards people who just don't want to do it.

SilenceInside · 06/09/2024 11:25

No one is going to get malnutrition in a month. You have no idea whether the OP has already spoken to the doctor in charge of prescribing, or what actions she might have taken.

Princessandthepie · 06/09/2024 11:17

JusteanBiscuits · 06/09/2024 11:10

2 stone in a month is a huge amount. I would speak to prescribing Doctor as you will end up malnourished.

2 stones when your starting weight is over 20 stones is not verging on malnutrition!

JusteanBiscuits · 06/09/2024 11:10

2 stone in a month is a huge amount. I would speak to prescribing Doctor as you will end up malnourished.

mm81736 · 06/09/2024 11:10

Trixiefirecracker · 06/09/2024 08:07

Unfortunately we are all looking for quick fixes but what needs to happen is a complete readjustment to how we see food as nutritious fuel for the body and a whole change to a healthy lifestyle that continues throughout life. Once you stop the injections will this still happen or will you just rapidly gain the weight again? I think as a quick fix it might help initially but can see many people yo-yoing on and off it for years. The change of mindset towards food is the only thing that will work long term but no one wants to do that as it involves way too much willpower.

Mounjaro does not melt the fat away, you use it via eating less and moving more.
If hhe reason you can't lose weight is that you are constantly hungry and your body is deficient in thr hormones that tell you that you are full and hence you are craving food all the time.I have skinny adult children who rarely feel hungry and could quite happily forget to eat for a dayHow do you fix that?
MJ levels the playing field with those that are lucky enough to naturally have been dealt a differentbiological hand.zThe reason you don't like it is that you want to feel smug and as though it is something you have done rather well at, rather than pure dumb luck

SilenceInside · 06/09/2024 11:08

@oakleaffy fatty liver disease and thyroid cancer are not on the Mounjaro patient information leaflet as possible side effects. Pancreatitis is, as an Uncommon side effect. For people who are obese, and haven't managed to lose weight in the past, the risks of possible side effects outweigh the ongoing risks of being obese.

Jimmyneutronsforehead · 06/09/2024 11:07

TorroFerney · 06/09/2024 10:26

I’ve heard others say though that they just don’t feel hungry?or feel fuller more quickly Or don’t care about food, the food noise thing. So it must be doing something to alter appetite otherwise what’s the point?

Breaking habits.

The food noise goes, but people are still creatures of habit. It's easier to build new habits if you haven't got the constant cravings or noise.

And actually reversing insulin resistance has been shown that long term it does still reduce or stop the cravings and food noise so that you can continue with minimal weight regain. People who don't have insulin resistance won't get the same sugar cravings as someone who does have insulin resistance.

The medication is also really effective at helping to reduce the visceral fat surrounding organs, especially the liver, which allows the liver to regenerate healthy cells and ultimately makes your ability to break things down within your body a lot easier. Getting rid of that visceral fat is so important for healthy organ function and it's usually the type of fat that is clung to by other means of weight loss.

Mounjaroooooh · 06/09/2024 11:03

I'm just coming to the end of my 5mg pen, the suppression at first was amazing, I didn't want to eat much and didn't have the food noise, that wore off after the 2nd jab and my willpower had to kick in as I didn't want to eat normally and gain again. I'm due to take my first 7.5mg on Sunday, I'm hoping the suppression lasts longer and the food noise is silenced for a bit longer. We are all different though, there's not one size fits all, some have stayed on 2.5mg (loading dose) as that's working for them

User6874356 · 06/09/2024 11:02

oakleaffy · 06/09/2024 09:48

All drugs have side effects, and have to be broken down by the liver.

''Fatty liver disease, Pancreatitis and thyroid cancer'' are mentioned as potential side effects.

Lots of pharmaceuticals are toxic long term.

They also have benefits. Better heart health seems to be a side effect of this. Also the main effect of losing weight- hugely beneficial to health

User6874356 · 06/09/2024 11:00

TorroFerney · 06/09/2024 10:26

I’ve heard others say though that they just don’t feel hungry?or feel fuller more quickly Or don’t care about food, the food noise thing. So it must be doing something to alter appetite otherwise what’s the point?

It does reduce appetite and food noise. The effect does vary from person to person and depends on dose as well. You can still make bad food choices and can get hungry some days. It’s not a magic bullet but it is an incredibly useful tool.

Jimmyneutronsforehead · 06/09/2024 10:58

Crunchymum · 06/09/2024 10:31

Surely losing 2st in "almost a month" isn't normal, natural of healthy?

I know they aid weightloss, I know they have been literal life savers for some people but 28lbs in 4 weeks is ludicrous.

Well that really depends on how much weight you have when you start.

OP has stated her start weight was particularly heavy, and as you lose weight the amount you lose does slow down any way, so for her losing weight this fast was probably significantly healthier than the alternative of not having the medication and retreading old steps that haven't worked before so won't work now.

Mounjaroooooh · 06/09/2024 10:57

Crunchymum · 06/09/2024 10:33

And to those of you who say people don't know you are on MJ. People know.

Sudden and noticeable weightloss is usually down to to one of two things? Illness or weightloss injections.

Actually no. My two biggest losses were at the beginning, it's been the same on every diet I've been on, 2 big losses then evening out. Now I'm averaging 2 lbs per week and I've got a few more stone to go so it's not sudden or very noticeable, and it's going to take a while. But that's fine by me, I've usually given up by now

User6874356 · 06/09/2024 10:56

Sparklfairy · 06/09/2024 10:43

It's very normal/natural if your starting weight is nearly 27st like OP. This 1-2lb a week bollocks, Mounjaro or not, is not some across the board figure that applies to everyone.

Does anyone remember the swathe of programmes on TV circa 2000, Celebrity Fit Club, fat camp etc? There was always, always one that was much heavier than the others, usually a man, and his weekly weightloss would always be 2x that of the others. It's really unhelpful to come swooping in with judgements when you don't actually understand. You need to think of it more as % of bodyweight rather than a strict lb figure.

Full disclosure, I'm not on injections. I'm not even overweight. But I applaud those who are taking control of their weight and the misinformation from naysayers is really horrible.

Absolutely. It’s easier to lose weight at a higher weight because your body uses up so many calories just to maintain at such a high weight.

well done op on your success so far. I have lost 5 stone on Mounjaro (over about 10 months). I have about another stone and I will be at a healthy bmi. It has changed my life and helped me get out of my rut.

xsquared · 06/09/2024 10:54

It's really good that you are seeing results op, but a shame that your dh doesn't share your enthusiasm.

If you can afford it and he's tried all the non medical ways of losing weight, then why wouldn't he be on board?

I have a friend who specialises in bariatric surgery, prescribes weight loss injections and runs a very successful clinic. His clients have left very positive reviews with before and after photos, and have commented about how life giving their treatment has been, and as a result have the confidence and energy to lead a healthier active life.

Someone upthread said it wasn't healthy to take weight loss drug, but from a patient's point of view, taking the injection and seeing results is surely far healthier than remaining obese to the point where you're in pain or discomfort doing basic everyday activities?

Princessandthepie · 06/09/2024 10:52

@Crunchymum I've lost a stone in 1 month, I'm still in the same size 18 clothes, not one person has mentioned my weight, congratulated me or complimented me.
My belly is still wobbling, thighs still thundering at my current weight of 14 stones and 6lbs 🤷‍♀️

I didn't inject and wake up as thin as Kate Moss, I still have a way to go.

But if I was to discuss it and told you I've cut out alcohol and I'm calorie counting (which is 100% true), would you stand in front of me and tell me I'm lying or just gossip about me behind my back??

User6874356 · 06/09/2024 10:51

Pigeonqueen · 06/09/2024 07:12

Is he concerned about the risks associated with it? Maybe he’s actually worried about what you’re doing to yourself long term.

What risks? The side effects are minimal and there are benefits in addition to weight loss. He has more risk associated with being overweight

Sounds more like he’s jealous

Crunchymum · 06/09/2024 10:49

Apologies, I didn't see the OP's starting weight.

The loss makes much more sense.

SilenceInside · 06/09/2024 10:45

Or a VLCD like the Cambridge diet, or perhaps fasting too. Not always weight loss injections.

The OP is pretty unusual if she has lost more than 20lbs in a month, although being a bigger starting weight often sees a large drop in the first week or so, followed by more steady losses. If you look at the % of your starting weight, that is usually more representative than the raw total of pounds lost. I lost 9lbs in my first week, but that was a one-off, and now my weekly losses are in a more sustainable range.

@WaffleDogg20 I just would stop talking to him about the injections and weight loss in general, he is clearly not currently interested in trying to lose weight. I don't think it's jealousy, but it probably makes him feel bad that he is not losing weight, upset and self-critical perhaps. I would celebrate losses on the threads here on MN and if you have any trusted non-judgemental friends in real life with them.

Princessandthepie · 06/09/2024 10:45

Crunchymum · 06/09/2024 10:31

Surely losing 2st in "almost a month" isn't normal, natural of healthy?

I know they aid weightloss, I know they have been literal life savers for some people but 28lbs in 4 weeks is ludicrous.

My old slimming world rep once had someone who lost a stone in a week but I guess no judgement as they did it thr hard way?

But if you're really over weight, then that extra weight will drop off quicker, someone who is 20 stones will and can lose weight to begin with quicker than someone who is 10 stones because it's so excessive.

Sparklfairy · 06/09/2024 10:43

Crunchymum · 06/09/2024 10:31

Surely losing 2st in "almost a month" isn't normal, natural of healthy?

I know they aid weightloss, I know they have been literal life savers for some people but 28lbs in 4 weeks is ludicrous.

It's very normal/natural if your starting weight is nearly 27st like OP. This 1-2lb a week bollocks, Mounjaro or not, is not some across the board figure that applies to everyone.

Does anyone remember the swathe of programmes on TV circa 2000, Celebrity Fit Club, fat camp etc? There was always, always one that was much heavier than the others, usually a man, and his weekly weightloss would always be 2x that of the others. It's really unhelpful to come swooping in with judgements when you don't actually understand. You need to think of it more as % of bodyweight rather than a strict lb figure.

Full disclosure, I'm not on injections. I'm not even overweight. But I applaud those who are taking control of their weight and the misinformation from naysayers is really horrible.

Crunchymum · 06/09/2024 10:33

And to those of you who say people don't know you are on MJ. People know.

Sudden and noticeable weightloss is usually down to to one of two things? Illness or weightloss injections.

Crunchymum · 06/09/2024 10:31

Surely losing 2st in "almost a month" isn't normal, natural of healthy?

I know they aid weightloss, I know they have been literal life savers for some people but 28lbs in 4 weeks is ludicrous.

Mounjaroooooh · 06/09/2024 10:27

Sparklfairy · 06/09/2024 10:05

He is jealous OP. He could always justify his weight or diet failure when you were both 'in it together'. For whatever reason he doesn't want to do Mounjaro, but your success has shone a bit of a light on his own size and that he's not doing anything about it. It's not about judgement - the previous thoughts that he had that it was somehow 'ok' because you were in the same boat, he can't think those anymore. It's like he's sort of being forced to hold himself accountable, and he doesn't like it.

We tell ourselves all sorts of lies about why we can't lose weight, or that we'll lose it and put it straight back on etc. He's watching something that actually works in front of his eyes, and he can't avoid it. It's uncomfortable for him, and now out of pride he probably doesn't want to 'copy' you down the same road Hmm

It's probably best not to share your wins with him at all, because his reaction will really make you feel down about yourself.

I agree with your last sentence, that's why I haven't shared with anyone that I'm taking Mounjaro plus some of the comments on this thread that it's cheating

TorroFerney · 06/09/2024 10:26

ThatsNotMyTeen · 06/09/2024 08:50

But as others said losing weight on MJ does still take work and effort. I could still have croissant for breakfast, chips for linch and a takeaway for dinner on the drugs. And wouldn’t lose weight. I have to still make healthy choices or I won’t lose weight.

personally I don’t care if people congratulate me or not and tbh most people don’t know I’m on MJ anyway. I keep my medical treatment private.

I’ve heard others say though that they just don’t feel hungry?or feel fuller more quickly Or don’t care about food, the food noise thing. So it must be doing something to alter appetite otherwise what’s the point?

Sparklfairy · 06/09/2024 10:05

He is jealous OP. He could always justify his weight or diet failure when you were both 'in it together'. For whatever reason he doesn't want to do Mounjaro, but your success has shone a bit of a light on his own size and that he's not doing anything about it. It's not about judgement - the previous thoughts that he had that it was somehow 'ok' because you were in the same boat, he can't think those anymore. It's like he's sort of being forced to hold himself accountable, and he doesn't like it.

We tell ourselves all sorts of lies about why we can't lose weight, or that we'll lose it and put it straight back on etc. He's watching something that actually works in front of his eyes, and he can't avoid it. It's uncomfortable for him, and now out of pride he probably doesn't want to 'copy' you down the same road Hmm

It's probably best not to share your wins with him at all, because his reaction will really make you feel down about yourself.

Swipe left for the next trending thread