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Anyone else feel like they’re always waiting?

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waitingalways1 · 05/09/2024 19:23

It’s hard to explain.

I feel like I am always waiting for something to happen. I have no idea what I’m waiting for and I don’t think there actually is anything I am waiting for but it’s a really unnerving feeling.

First it was waiting for the wedding then the honeymoon, then for the first baby to be conceived and then be delivered, then mat leave to be over and then next baby conceived, then mat leave to end then to move house, then final baby to be born and mat leave to end. All of these things have happened in a short ish period of time.

Does anyone else feel like this? I really want to overcome it as I feel like it’s a real barrier to happiness.

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GuiltyForEver · 05/09/2024 19:44

For me it has always been 'jam tomorrow ', and to be honest the jam has never really arrived, and now I'm late 60s I don't think it ever will. It's sad, and it's not saying that I have not had a happy, fulfilling life, but there are so many 'what ifs' and 'should haves'.

Don't be me.

Crushed23 · 05/09/2024 19:39

True happiness comes from living in the present. It’s taken me 34 years to realise this.

I don’t meditate, but I reflect a lot, sometimes journaling, and generally focus on what gives ME joy.

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waitingalways1 · 05/09/2024 19:32

@Bestyearever2024 thank you. You're very very right. It's quite depressing when you think about it. I will have a look at some mediation thanks

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waitingalways1 · 05/09/2024 19:31

@DancingPhantomsOnTheTerrace I can totally relate to this. It's such a strange feeling isn't it?

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Bestyearever2024 · 05/09/2024 19:27

Living in the future, like living in the past, takes all joy out of life

Teach yourself to live in the now. The absolute now, this second. The present is the only real thing there is

Mediation will help. Its hard work because you have to keep forcing your mind out of the future and into feeling and living now

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DancingPhantomsOnTheTerrace · 05/09/2024 19:25

Yes I definitely know what you mean.

Right now I feel like I'm waiting for my youngest to finish nursery and start school because it will make everything easier both practically (both children being in the same place) and financially, and for me to finish the professional qualification I'm doing (both of these are 2 years away).