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"Stop being a Karen"

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ValsCupcakes · 05/09/2024 09:16

I heard this on Tuesday from a young, no more than 20, guy saying it to his girlfriend in the street in town.

Is this still going on? I'm out this afternoon at my friend's house. She is called Karen and is sick of it. I heard a woman phone into the radio too the other week saying her husband's satnav was an annoying female voice so he called it Karen.

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herecomesautumn · 05/09/2024 18:05

Eldrick47s · 05/09/2024 17:45

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Elizabeth_Eckford

"Eckford only spent one year at Little Rock Central High where she and the other black students were tormented throughout. In the years since, she has struggled through life, and twice attempted suicide. She was subsequently diagnosed with post-traumatic stress disorder"

My thoughts will always go to the millions of white peoples in america who have suffered at the hands of these wicked Karens. Anyone with an ounce of knowledge who the Karen (and their previous monikers) is will feel the same, rather than take offence over some muppet trivialising and misappropriating a term for what is a very dangerous individual, the american woman using and abusing her white privilege to inflict harm on others.

None of that is relevant here

I'm not American and don't particularly care about little
Rock and what happens there

The use of the term denotes the speaker as thick.

RhaenysRocks · 05/09/2024 18:02

This exact same debate was had on here some months back. Whatever the origins and prior use of the term it NOW means, in the UK, any woman over 30 who isn't a doormat. It's perfectly true that many women and men are unreasonable arrogant arseholes but this particular word is used to make any woman asking for decent service or a contractual fulfilment or basic consideration feel like they need to shut up. And it's perfectly right to be angry about that, regardless of any other historical background.

IcedPurple · 05/09/2024 17:51

Is spamming threads permitted on this forum?

BaronessEllarawrosaurus · 05/09/2024 17:50

Interesting repetition to shut down women complaining about misogynistic insults. And it is being used to shut down the discussion. For clarity I'm mixed race and been called Karen by a white man i objected to smoking in the non smoking area

MorrisZapp · 05/09/2024 17:47

Ok I get it 😂

Eldrick47s · 05/09/2024 17:45

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Elizabeth_Eckford

"Eckford only spent one year at Little Rock Central High where she and the other black students were tormented throughout. In the years since, she has struggled through life, and twice attempted suicide. She was subsequently diagnosed with post-traumatic stress disorder"

My thoughts will always go to the millions of white peoples in america who have suffered at the hands of these wicked Karens. Anyone with an ounce of knowledge who the Karen (and their previous monikers) is will feel the same, rather than take offence over some muppet trivialising and misappropriating a term for what is a very dangerous individual, the american woman using and abusing her white privilege to inflict harm on others.

Elizabeth Eckford - Wikipedia

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Elizabeth_Eckford

Murica · 05/09/2024 17:45

"Karen" is absolutely used as an insult against women for non racist reasons in the US.

marmaladeandpeanutbutter · 05/09/2024 17:42

Hoppinggreen · 05/09/2024 09:17

Its misogynistic bullshit designed to make women shut up.

This. An outrageous thing to use a common name in this way. I don't know how people can defend it without embarrassment.

MorrisZapp · 05/09/2024 17:38

Let's keep sexism in the UK alive and unchecked by listing injustices in American history is a mad take.

Eldrick47s · 05/09/2024 17:34

And yes OP you are being unreasonable by taking offence at a moniker that has been trivialised and misappropriated by muppets.

These are Karens (american women using their four centuries long white privilege in america to oppress non white people, in this case against one of the 48 million descendants of African slaves for going to a newly integrated school).

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Little_Rock_Nine

Little Rock Nine - Wikipedia

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Little_Rock_Nine

TarantinoIsAMisogynist · 05/09/2024 17:24

Josette77 · 05/09/2024 17:03

Absolutely.

Again though the demographic on MN is middle aged white women.

People on here get upset about this, but not actual racism.

I know what the origin of the word is, but do you genuinely think that the word "Karen" is currently being used in the UK to call out racist behaviours by white women?

Because that's not how I see it being used.

Languages evolve and words change their meaning depending on how they are used. And US English is not the same as British English. I don't know whether the word "Karen" has retained its original meaning in the US, but it definitely hasn't in the UK.

TarantinoIsAMisogynist · 05/09/2024 17:20

@Eldrick47s Are you not even slightly annoyed at the people who are (in your words) "trivialising and misappropriating the term Karen"?

Or are your anger and accusations of ignorance only directed at the women on the receiving end of the abuse?

White women weaponising their privilege against black people is a real thing. But so is the misogyny displayed by people who eagerly leap to use a new term to denigrate women they dislike.

And what about the white men who commit the racist violence? What's your word for them?

MsNeis · 05/09/2024 17:17

Eldrick47s · 05/09/2024 17:03

Oh please... I don't have enough space in my cranium to roll my eyes the way this sorry excuse for an article deserves...

MsNeis · 05/09/2024 17:15

Hoppinggreen · 05/09/2024 09:17

Its misogynistic bullshit designed to make women shut up.

Exactly. Same old, same old...

Eldrick47s · 05/09/2024 17:14

That 'Sheila from Croydon' was offended by some muppet trivialising and misappropriating the term Karen, that's on her for being so ignorant.

My thoughts would go to the millions of men, woman and children who suffered at the hands of Karens over 4 centuries in america, the most racist entity in human history.

https://www.nytimes.com/2020/05/27/opinion/racism-white-women.html

How White Women Use Themselves as Instruments of Terror

"We often like to make white supremacy a testosterone-fueled masculine expression, but it is just as likely to wear heels as a hood. Indeed, untold numbers of Lynchings were executed because white women had claimed that a black man raped, assaulted, talked to or glanced at them. The Tulsa race massacre, the destruction of Black Wall Street, was spurred by an incident between a white female elevator operator and a black man. As the Oklahoma Historical Society points out, the most common explanation is that he stepped on her toe. As many as 300 people were killed because of it. The torture and murder of 14-year-old Emmett Till in 1955, a lynching actually, occurred because a white woman said that he "grabbed her and was menacing and sexually crude toward her". This practice, this exercise in racial extremism has been dragged into the modern era through the weaponizing of 9-1-1, often by white women, to invoke the power and force of the police who they are fully aware are hostile to black men. This was again evident when a white woman in New York's Central Park told a black man, a bird-watcher, that she was going to call the police and tell them that he was threatening her life."

Overbearingndn · 05/09/2024 17:08

Eldrick47s · 05/09/2024 16:55

Indeed.

The Karen is an exceptionally dangerous individual.

The millions of non white people over 4 centuries in america who have been murdered, lynched, raped, often at the instigation of the Karen, who then gets her partner (the man) to do the deed.

What special word do you have specifically for men who commit these crimes?

I'd be interested to know this. What is the specific term African Americans use for racist white men?

MorrisZapp · 05/09/2024 17:05

Yay a link to Time. Which is American. And from five years ago.

Josette77 · 05/09/2024 17:03

Eldrick47s · 05/09/2024 16:55

Indeed.

The Karen is an exceptionally dangerous individual.

The millions of non white people over 4 centuries in america who have been murdered, lynched, raped, often at the instigation of the Karen, who then gets her partner (the man) to do the deed.

Absolutely.

Again though the demographic on MN is middle aged white women.

People on here get upset about this, but not actual racism.

Murica · 05/09/2024 17:00

Ha!
I knew some sanctimonious moralizer was gonna bring up Emmett Till. I surprised it took 15 pages.

So do we have a name for these men who do the actual killing?

MorrisZapp · 05/09/2024 17:00

Eldrick47s · 05/09/2024 16:55

Indeed.

The Karen is an exceptionally dangerous individual.

The millions of non white people over 4 centuries in america who have been murdered, lynched, raped, often at the instigation of the Karen, who then gets her partner (the man) to do the deed.

There is no way this is in good faith. Murders, lynching and rapes are done by men. You know this.

What special word do you have specifically for men who commit these crimes?

The idea that men do what women tell them to is laughable.

Eldrick47s · 05/09/2024 16:55

Josette77 · 05/09/2024 16:49

It is not racist in the US! Lol

Nevermind I get it..yes it is used towards racist white women.

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Indeed.

The Karen is an exceptionally dangerous individual.

The millions of non white people over 4 centuries in america who have been murdered, lynched, raped, often at the instigation of the Karen, who then gets her partner (the man) to do the deed.

TarantinoIsAMisogynist · 05/09/2024 16:52

Eldrick47s · 05/09/2024 16:37

100%. Yours is the first good post on this thread.

Unfortunately there are an astonishing amount of ignoramuses in the world, and this thread is flooded with them.

The "Karen" is a white american woman who uses and abuses her white privilege, offen instigating racial violence. The term Karen is merely the latest in a long line of monikers that African people in america have labelled such individuals. The moniker has since been misappropriated (an idiot in the OP's first post), but if you are not a white american woman who uses her white privilege at the expense of others, YOU ARE NOT A KAREN, so cease taking offence over something that has nothing to do with you.

The Karen is in literature (Scarlett O Hara), in film (the white woman in Birth of a Nation who runs screaming from "the big bad black man"... a 1917 film that inspired the second era Ku Klux Klan). She is an exceptionally dangerous individual who uses her white status to inflict harm on non white people.

14 year old Emmett Till was murdered after being confronted by a Karen.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/EmmettTill

Edited

I am fully aware of its origins, but what you are describing is not how the word "Karen" is actually being used in real life in the UK.

Read the OP - do those examples sound like it is being used to call out racist behaviour?

It's being commonly used by white misogynists as a generic insult for a woman expressing an opinion they don't like. It's used as a generic synonym for "mouthy bitch".

"if you are not a white american woman who uses her white privilege at the expense of others, YOU ARE NOT A KAREN, so cease taking offence over something that has nothing to do with you."

Regardless of whether someone is a "Karen" according to your definition or not, the fact is that they may find themselves being called one simply because they are female. Which means it does have something to do with them, and they have every right to take offence.

MorrisZapp · 05/09/2024 16:49

Eldrick47s · 05/09/2024 16:46

Read up on who a Karen is, an american woman who uses her 4 centuries long white privilege in america to inflict harm on non white people, before taking offence at a character that has nothing to do with you.

https://www.theguardian.com/world/2020/dec/27/karen-race-white-women-black-americans-racism

Edited

It's irrelevant and the origin is disputed anyway.

We're objecting to it's current, UK usage. Which is sexist.

Josette77 · 05/09/2024 16:49

Pocketfullofdogtreats · 05/09/2024 09:25

Before someone else says it, it is racist in the US. Its use here in the UK is against anyone female. It's against all of us. I really hate Wendy as well.

It is not racist in the US! Lol

Nevermind I get it..yes it is used towards racist white women.

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