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Wedding guest dress - it’s cream

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Thehonestbadger · 05/09/2024 06:34

But it’s covered in polkadots, does this make it acceptable?

love this dress and the lady in the shop described it as the ‘perfect’ wedding guest dress but obviously she wants to sell it. I just keep thinking it’s a lot of cream.

Wedding guest dress - it’s cream
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Thehonestbadger · 05/09/2024 07:17

It was written off on the basis they didn’t have my size. I’m wearing a size bigger in the pic but I could drive to another store close by and get the smaller one I think

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carrotcard · 05/09/2024 07:16

It's not about people mistaking you for the bride. I don't know why people bring that up all the time. But the photos are going to look silly unless you stand at the back. People's eye is going to be drawn to you. Part of the beauty of a wedding photo with a traditional light coloured bride outfit is that the eye is naturally drawn to the lighter colour. This means the couple stand out so they don't always have to be bang in the centre the photographer can get creative.

Smittenkitchen · 05/09/2024 07:16

I think in terms of how it looks on the day in person, it's not too close to white. If you wore a (non-white/cream) jacket for the main pictures it would be fine.

PrincessHoneysuckle · 05/09/2024 07:15

Thehonestbadger · 05/09/2024 07:14

@Fairyliz 😂 it’s me wearing it but I’ve had two kids so I can promise you it do have wobbly bits it’s just a flattering cut.

So I’m gonna share my favourite dress of the day but neither DH nor the shop lady seemed to like it (it’s light blue)

That's lovely

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Thehonestbadger · 05/09/2024 07:15

I meant to crop my feet out 😬 sorry

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PrincessHoneysuckle · 05/09/2024 07:14

Too much cream.The cut is lively though I'd look for another one that's similar

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Thehonestbadger · 05/09/2024 07:14

@Fairyliz 😂 it’s me wearing it but I’ve had two kids so I can promise you it do have wobbly bits it’s just a flattering cut.

So I’m gonna share my favourite dress of the day but neither DH nor the shop lady seemed to like it (it’s light blue)

Wedding guest dress - it’s cream
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Didimum · 05/09/2024 07:14

Sorry, I wouldn’t wear that to a wedding. As I bride, I would not have cared if a guest wore this personally, but a fair few brides would. You have every other colour to choose from, I think it’s decent to be respectful and just not wear white, ivory or cream.

ErrolTheDragon · 05/09/2024 07:12

It's fine, I don't think anyone sane would 'judge' you for wearing that dress, I doubt many brides even notice what guests are wearing (unless it's something very weird which that isn't).

But with your great figure there must be lots of other dresses which you would like better - you sound ambivalent about it. As it felt amazing on, maybe look for similar fabric and style but in a colour that you know suits you.

Apolloneuro · 05/09/2024 07:11

I don’t think it’s ok for a wedding.

I reckon your husband likes it because it shows off your gorgeous figure!

i think you can do better (sorry I think the dress is horrible)

SardinesOnGingerbread · 05/09/2024 07:10

Gorgeous figure! Dress is lovely, but if you feel ambivalent about it, keep looking.

User79853257976 · 05/09/2024 07:04

I wouldn’t wear it. It doesn’t look bridal but there is no point risking it.

Purplecatshopaholic · 05/09/2024 07:03

Lovely dress. Looks great and fine for a wedding assuming you love it, not just your DH. People on here are really weird about what is deemed acceptable for a wedding - if you love it, wear it. If it’s more your DH’s choice than yours, maybe go for something else.

ThomasPatrickKeatingsDegas · 05/09/2024 07:02

I work in fashion. The dots are far too big and will make you look like a cartoon character. Also although you have posters saying it’s fine, the rule is wear nothing that could be construed as white, and show up white in photos even if it has a pattern. It pulls focus away from the bride in photography.

As you can see it’s a bit over 50% saying don’t do it in your poll, and I can guarantee if you wear it the same amount of guests will be silently judging you on the day. It’s one day, one event that’s not about you. Find something else (and that will show off your lovely figure better than a middle aged frumpy work dress)

Nothanks17 · 05/09/2024 07:01

Please don't wear this to a wedding. Wear it for another occasion, but I wouldn't wear it to a wedding.

Side note - I wouldn't ever wear that myself but it does look fab on you! Get two dresses - why not

MimiSunshine · 05/09/2024 07:00

I think it looks like a lovely races day dress but personally I wouldn’t wear it to a wedding.
no it’s definitely not going to upstage the bride but I’d just feel self conscious wearing a predominantly cream dress to a wedding so if you feel self conscious in it then don’t wear it.

OhMaria2 · 05/09/2024 06:58

Thehonestbadger · 05/09/2024 06:40

@LostittoBostik i thought the polkadots probably made it ok but I’ve not been to a wedding in years and years so wanted to check!

Thank of the wedding photos. It's going to look way too bright

Youmwarayoum · 05/09/2024 06:57

It’s a beautiful dress but I still wouldn’t wear it to a wedding. Anyone who wears an overly white or cream dress to a wedding is very much a look at me person IMO. It’s only one colour to avoid so not hard to do.

You look lovely though, and I would scrap the black shoes for grey. Black is too harsh with the dress.

urbanbuddha · 05/09/2024 06:50

I think it’s lovely but if you’re not sure about it can you find something else with the same cut and fit.

Fairyliz · 05/09/2024 06:50

Daft question but is that picture actually you wearing it, not one off a website?
If so you could wear a potato sack and look amazing; you have a lovely figure and posture.

Pistachiochiochio · 05/09/2024 06:50

Are you wearing a jacket with it (not cream, ideally same colour as the dots)?

If so I think it's fine.

Candleabra · 05/09/2024 06:49

I think it’s lovely

Lovethat · 05/09/2024 06:49

It's gorgeous and not bridal at all.

TENDTOprocrastinate · 05/09/2024 06:48

Nope. Find another colour. I’d be a bit annoyed if I was the bride.

BusyMum47 · 05/09/2024 06:48

@Thehonestbadger

I think it's fine - with black shoes/sandals & maybe jacket or shawl etc, it'll look lovely! 👍

If it fits/suits you well & you feel comfy & confident, it's a winner!!