Wedding guest dress - it’s cream

🙈 glad I've only just realised and haven't spent 25 years cringing 🤣. My mum & sister's MIL never made any comment about her friends choice of outfit (trust me, I would've known about it as neither were slow to speak up if they disapproved of something) so they were clearly oblivious too! Oh, and at my mum's second marriage, her MIL was wearing a (horrible) dress that was blue flowers on a white background. What an uncultured bunch we must be!

I think it must be a recent thing, since weddings became so ‘big’. In the 80s we invited lots of people, but they weren’t such lavish affairs and didn’t have so many rules about presents/money, what to wear, children/no children, etc.

Most people know the rule of not wearing white or cream, I’m surprised some people have never heard of it. I’m sure some people would have made comment to each other, but who cares. As you say the bride and groom are still your friends. It’s definitely not just something from mumsnet - it’s something I’ve known for years

I love polkadots, it's looks perfect for a wedding

It’s lovely, it looks great on you, and it is in no way inappropriate for a wedding. Plus, the pp who thought workwear is bonkers. Or works somewhere with a very upmarket, non-office dress code. Don’t go for the blue dress, which is fine but dull.

This has been preying on my mind all day wondering if there were actually people at that wedding all those years ago tutting at an oblivious me and my dreadful faux pas! Sad because I really enjoyed that wedding and loved that dress!

I have genuinely never heard of such a thing despite having organised a wedding of my own where it wouldn't have occurred to me to take offence at someone wearing white/cream, I didn't give any thought to what my guests wore, their presence was the important thing!. I guess I would've been mildly peeved if someone had turned up scruffy or looking like they cba but it certainly wouldn't have ruined my day!

I actually looked back at some photos of various weddings I've been to over the years and it seems this "rule" has eluded many of my circle too. For example, my sister is wearing a cream suit at my cousin's wedding in the 90s. Then, at my sister's wedding, one of her close friends is wearing a short strapless satin white dress with a bit of black stitched detail (looked lovely) and another friend has a white jacket with black piping over a black dress. It was a lovely day not at all ruined by these "ignorant" friends. Had I realised I could've spent the day giving them dirty looks as sister of the bride (I was safely in red that day) 🤣

Only on mumsnet eh?

That doesn't make sense?! You're saying that in reverse the spots <would> stop it from being a black dress? Therefore the spots also stop it being a cream dress in the reverse?

It's absolutely fine and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.#

It looks nothing like a wedding dress and is in no way inappropriate.

In real life, nobody cares what you wear to a wedding if you are not the bride, bridesmaids or mums!

Seriously nothing else to concentrate on, on your wedding day?

The irony of this post!

Details? Where's it from?

Well it's either that or they're just plain unpleasant 🤷🏻‍♀️

Exactly. As though anyone who has a different opinion is simply jealous. How small minded!

I suspect some of the posters slating the dress might be sat at home in Primark joggers feeling a bit jealous op

What a weird thing to suspect.

I suspect some of the posters slating the dress might be sat at home in Primark joggers feeling a bit jealous op. There's literally nothing wrong with it, a perfectly nice choice for a wedding, not at all bridal and I like the spots. You have a great figure and it's a classy dress. Go for it!

Same here. 30+ years ago. We had a great time and I can't remember who wore what!

How strange to think someone is "triggered" with a two line comment on a website forum. People talk about what they think here – it's sort of the point?

If you really think your 'coolness' in not being bothered if another women turned up in an actual wedding dress to your wedding is relevant to 99% of weddings and 99% of brides then ... yeah, no one can help you with that.

I think it more likely they’ll think you’re wearing a beach towel.

@Didimum I'm sorry you are triggered by me highlighting the very relevant opinion that cream or white at a wedding wouldn't offend me, hence the OP shouldn't dismiss the dotty dress on that basis. And also by the fact I'm cool. I hope you find peace within yourself. Namaste 🙏🏼

I think it's lovely, not at all bridal. And you style it with black accessories it will tone down the cream even more.

I love the polka dot dress on you OP (as a pp said you have fabulous shoulders) and with a black jacket or wrap and black accessories I think it’s perfect for a wedding. Dressing for a wedding is not about oooph and being sexy, it’s about elegance and class.

The polkadot dress is gorgeous on you, really suits your figure and the neckline highlights your lovely shoulders. I got married last year and i wouldn't have batted an eyelid at you wearing this for my wedding.

The blue is meh in comparison tbh. I love the spots! Not cartoonish at all

And yet another of these threads, there are countless colours, why pick cream?

I would say no- mainly because in the pictures, the eye will be drawn to the cream dress; and really it should just be drawn to the bride. It's a smashing dress though. With respect, if you think for one minute it's going to draw attention from the bride, don't wear it.

But a cute one 😁
I'm not a friend of large pattern at any time.