Wedding guest dress - it’s cream

The polka dot dress would be a lovely races or picnic dress.
You have a lovely figure but the blue dress doesn't do you much good...
You do seem to have a similar style as the Duchess.

I love the cream/dotty one and I think it looks far better on you than the blue. Unless the wedding theme is cream with black dots I can’t see any problem with it personally.

The blue one is very Kate Middleton. (I'm not a fan of the buttons)

I think you look stunning in both. I'd probs go blue for a wedding.

Neither are frumpy or boring etc etc. they're both elegant and classy.

The blue is my favourite I think. And I think you'd be more comfortable in it.

The blue is very frumpy.

how old are you OP? You have a great figure and although the polka dot looks nice I think you could find something better. The white with the dits isn’t the problem is just dull.

Giving Mormon / Amish vibes to me, sorry!

Agree with others, you look great so could pull off something much nicer than this!

I think I agree, just a bit too close

Beautiful. Perfect for a wedding. Not bridal at all

I think you’ve gone from one extreme to the other. The colour of the 2nd dress is lovely but the dress itself isn’t. It’s the combination of the waistline, the buttons, the collar and the sleeves - I think the top half of the dress looks like a shirt for work. If you feel comfortable then great but I think you can do better

I like the polka dot dress and no way will anyone would mistake you for the bride in it. Do you have a jacket and/or handbag in a contrasting colour? I’m not so keen on the blue dress as the polka dot one suits you so well.

The pale blue dress is anything but stunning. It does the OP no favours and is really frumpy.

This is stunning! 🤩

I think it looks cheap as the dots are too big. Definitely doesn't look classy and elegant, sorry. Maybe ask the dress shop if they've anything of the same sort of cut but in a different colour/print?

t's not about upstaging the Bride on the day, or being mistaken for the bride, it's sometimes about colour balance in photos and where the eye is drawn. And the photos will last forever.

They may well last for ever but I think you’ll find most people rarely look at them after the first few years of marriage!

You sound like an angry one, also. If you were as 'cool' as you think you are, you would recognise that not every bride on the surface of the earth will feel the same as you – and that doesn't make you better than them.

It's not about upstaging the Bride on the day, or being mistaken for the bride, it's sometimes about colour balance in photos and where the eye is drawn. And the photos will last forever.

The best rule of thumb is...."If you have to ask if a dress is acceptable for a wedding then the answer is no". Why risk it if there's a chance of the bride, groom or their family silently cursing you every time they look at their wedding album because you stick out in the group photo.

It's a lovely dress, you need another event to wear it to where you can feel great in it and your husband can appreciate you looking fab in it. Xx

It's beautiful and you look stunning...but not for a wedding. As someone who has done wedding photography, it will make you stand out more than necessary in group photos.

I do love the blue dress (not as much as the white dress, but it's more wedding appropriate!) - the colour is pretty and it suits you a lot!

Oh god I can't win 🤣 , sure I've done green too and a friend definitely had dark green bridesmaids.

I’ve worn red to two weddings, 30 and 18 years ago. I had a absolutely no idea about the scarlet woman associations until I joined Mumsnet.

I was safely in red that day

@Geminijust, this is the sign of a Scarlet Woman, surely you know that? Also, wearing green is unlucky and black is a no no because of the funeral associations. Female wedding guests must turn up in something exceptionally dull or they will be social outcasts forever more.

Back in the real world, after over 40 years of marriage I can scarcely remember what I was wearing at our wedding, far less anyone else. I haven't looked at the pictures for several decades. I do remember the people who were there and how pleased I was to see them and have them there to celebrate with us. That is surely what matters.

The polka dot dress is fine (and much nicer and flattering than the blue dress)

I wore a similar polka dot dress to a wedding with smaller and more dots. Not only did I get compliments from the bride, she actually asked to borrow it for a wedding she was going to a few months later

Only you know the wedding you are going to so will know what the reaction is. But in my experience of weddings in recent years, brides don’t care about the colour of your outfit. And that’s the only opinion I would care about

I wouldn't. It has too much white in it. I wouldn't be particularly bothered about what others wore to my wedding (recent bride myself) BUT knowing some people really care about this would make me want to not be 'that person'. My rule is: if you feel the need to check in with a bunch of randoms, or the bride, you know this too.

I don't know why this question always causes such weird Brexit-like, all or nothing responses.

Ooo I'm a cool girl too. Couldn't give a flying fuck.

Oh, and this refers to the part where the OP asks for opinions on what guests should wear.

It is definitely not a recent thing. And definitely not a Mumsnet only thing. The etiquette around not wearing white was around in the 90s at least.

That's what I'm thinking. Not been to a wedding for at least 10 years, most of mine were 80s/90s and I never gave a thought to what other guests wore unless outrageous, overly short, sexy etc diverting attention from the bride.