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About boyfriend visiting a quaker house?

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Celia24 · 05/09/2024 06:24

We've been together for a year. When we met and religion came up I told him I was atheist and asked his views he said he was agnostic but didn't actively believe or practice.

Last week, the topic came up again casually and he suggested he was spiritual although didn't fully commit to saying he believed in God. He also said he didn't really agree with atheism as it was too severe.

Then while in London this week he visited a quaker house in an amazing building he came across! He joked he didn't know they even still existed and mentioned 'you'd have no need for one as an atheist'.

I'll be honest, he has never told me if he was religious in any way and I feel a bit annoyed by this. I want to have children and I don't want to raise them in a faith because that isnt my belief though I respect others.

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Icedblondeoatlatte · 05/09/2024 06:34

Celia24 · 05/09/2024 06:32

Yes @araiwa but it's the fact we just had the conversation and he said 'you'd have no need for one as an atheist' in a way to suggest he now does

Despite not setting foot in one ever

I think he just means he’s more open minded

CrazyGoatLady · 05/09/2024 06:34

Quaker here.

Maybe do some research about Quakers and what they believe?

Also, visiting a Quaker meeting house once does not a religious person make. It sounds like maybe he is curious, but there's a difference between having an interest in something spiritual or exploring different ideas and concepts and actually being religious or following a religion.

People can be spiritual or believe in God without being religious. Many Quakers do not see themselves (or their faith) as an organised religion as the emphasis is on your personal relationship with God and how you live your life.

Kindly, it sounds like you are making a lot of assumptions about something you know very little about.

Icedblondeoatlatte · 05/09/2024 06:33

araiwa · 05/09/2024 06:29

And?

I've visited all sorts of religious building as some are beautiful/ historic/interesting

I've never caught religion in any of them

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Edingril · 05/09/2024 06:33

The world won't end if he goes

Celia24 · 05/09/2024 06:32

Yes @araiwa but it's the fact we just had the conversation and he said 'you'd have no need for one as an atheist' in a way to suggest he now does

Despite not setting foot in one ever

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Soditsally · 05/09/2024 06:32

If you respect others .. then leave him be to visit how ever he wants .. I've visited multiple faith denominations out of respect and interest , doesn't mean I then start to worship any of them

araiwa · 05/09/2024 06:29

And?

I've visited all sorts of religious building as some are beautiful/ historic/interesting

I've never caught religion in any of them

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