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To ignore unclean teeth?

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TheMauveBeaker · 04/09/2024 21:34

Friend has a 15 year old son. Personal hygiene is very good other than the teeth! Though they are straight, no need for braces, they are very yellow, almost brown. I was shocked when I saw him last week, hadn’t met up with them for a while, and I was taken aback by the brown teeth.

He’s a nice lad, whole family is lovely, but his teeth look like they need attention - they honestly looked like they hadn’t been cleaned for weeks. Feel like it’s such an easy problem to fix and that someone should say something but (a) not sure I’m brave enough; and (b) not sure how to broach the subject.
DH says I should say nothing and I know that’s the easy option. However, teeth are one of my ‘things’, probably because I haven’t been blessed with very good ones!
AIBU - ignore the teeth, it’s not your child/problem
IANBU - say something (what?) it needs sorting now to prevent problems later

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Lavender14 · 04/09/2024 21:46

Some people can genetically be more prone to tooth decay and staining op. It may not be something he's in control of. Also certain medications etc can have an impact. Would he have any sensory issues related to tooth brushing you might not be aware of?

I think you need to just ignore its between him his mum and his dentist.

thereiscustardinthejamtart · 04/09/2024 21:45

I initially thought it was your son’s friend (in which case don’t say anything), but I see it is your friend’s son. I think you could say something to your friend, maybe obliquely. I would say anything to the lad though.

spikeandbuffy24 · 04/09/2024 21:44

@thereiscustardinthejamtart it's because there's a thing about redheads having yellow teeth (I'm a redhead so I've heard it all before)

XenoBitch · 04/09/2024 21:44

Teeth are not naturally white, and some people have darker teeth than others.
If his breath is ok, then it could just be plain old staining.

My mum cleans her teeth religiously and sees a hygienist several times a year. She still has teeth that are a lot darker compared to others peoples.

xyz111 · 04/09/2024 21:43

It's not like they wouldn't have noticed! All you'll do by saying something is make them feel embarrassed. Is he neurodivergent? Some people have sensory issues with teeth brushing.
Anyway, it's none of your business!

TheMauveBeaker · 04/09/2024 21:40

Yes could be. Think in my head they’re becoming browner whenever I think about it!

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MoreCardassianThanKardashian · 04/09/2024 21:39

Poor kid. I understand your feelings absolutely.

Thing is, they have eyes so will be aware. I'm not sure that you saying something will help or make something happen that wouldn't otherwise you know.

TheMauveBeaker · 04/09/2024 21:39

Not ginger, but quite fair.

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thereiscustardinthejamtart · 04/09/2024 21:36

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WTF?

spikeandbuffy24 · 04/09/2024 21:36

They could be clean and it's just staining?

Pablosdog · 04/09/2024 21:36

Not your circus not your monkeys. Say nothing!

Iblowgoats · 04/09/2024 21:35

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