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When is late not coming?

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ArmchairOlympian · 04/09/2024 19:14

How long do you wait before giving up?

Im waiting for someone to collect my sofa after selling on Facebook. They’re 15 minutes late. Should I give it up and get on with my evening?

so annoying.

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BoredAuditor · 04/09/2024 20:55

OhmygodDont · 04/09/2024 20:33

I’m that petty I’d rather use it on a bonfire than let people be late and waste my time waiting for them to then let them have it 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Haha, OK. You've just made me laugh out loud. And I like your honesty 😀

FuzzyDiva · 04/09/2024 20:50

I think a huge number of FB buyers don’t turn up but if you aren’t doing anything, I’d give them longer to see if they are late or lost.

LlynTegid · 04/09/2024 20:44

OhmygodDont · 04/09/2024 20:33

I’m that petty I’d rather use it on a bonfire than let people be late and waste my time waiting for them to then let them have it 🤷🏻‍♀️

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No you value time. I don't call that petty.

I host a daily work call. No 'give it a couple of minutes' nonsense, it starts on time. People know this and turn up on time.

48Hourss · 04/09/2024 20:35

15 mins isn't much time, 30-45 mins I'd class as a no show. But if they knocked at 8pm I'd open the door as I couldn't be arsed trying to get rid of it again when there's a perfectly good buyer stood there waiting to take it.

OhmygodDont · 04/09/2024 20:33

BoredAuditor · 04/09/2024 20:31

"Learn to be fucking on time"?!?

You have no idea why they're late.

Gosh, the attitude of some people beggars belief.

Even if they are just lousy timekeepers you have nothing to lose by answering the door and letting them take it. You want the settee gone to - so let it go. Literally.

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I’m that petty I’d rather use it on a bonfire than let people be late and waste my time waiting for them to then let them have it 🤷🏻‍♀️

BoredAuditor · 04/09/2024 20:32

housethatbuiltme · 04/09/2024 20:20

I get being irritated by not being able to relax but that won't change if they show up in an hour anyway.

By not letting them take the sofa YOU are getting stuck with the sofa, you then have to go through this again or pay to get rid of it... it is rude to be late for no reason or no show but lets not pretend its not doing you a favor.

This

BoredAuditor · 04/09/2024 20:31

OhmygodDont · 04/09/2024 20:19

I presume the logic much to mine would be if they are then inconvenienced they might learn to be fucking on time.

Unless I really needed it gone. If I wasn’t fussed I’d ignore the door waste my time ill
waste yours 🤷🏻‍♀️

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"Learn to be fucking on time"?!?

You have no idea why they're late.

Gosh, the attitude of some people beggars belief.

Even if they are just lousy timekeepers you have nothing to lose by answering the door and letting them take it. You want the settee gone to - so let it go. Literally.

Choochoo21 · 04/09/2024 20:23

15mins is nothing.

It can take that to find somewhere to park/find the right street.

If someone says they’ll be there at 7, I assume it’ll be anywhere from 7-7:30.

I wouldn’t call anything up to 30mins late.

After 30mins then I would say they are late but I would assume they just got lost or something.

housethatbuiltme · 04/09/2024 20:20

I get being irritated by not being able to relax but that won't change if they show up in an hour anyway.

By not letting them take the sofa YOU are getting stuck with the sofa, you then have to go through this again or pay to get rid of it... it is rude to be late for no reason or no show but lets not pretend its not doing you a favor.

OhmygodDont · 04/09/2024 20:19

Procrastinates · 04/09/2024 20:03

I don't get the logic either. Seems bloody bonkers to me.

Just go about your evening presumably if they turn up now they won't be interrupting you doing anything of note so just let them take the sofa.

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I presume the logic much to mine would be if they are then inconvenienced they might learn to be fucking on time.

Unless I really needed it gone. If I wasn’t fussed I’d ignore the door waste my time ill
waste yours 🤷🏻‍♀️

IsThisIt2021 · 04/09/2024 20:12

id give it 30 mins and if no contact stating they can’t find the house etc, then I’d assume they aren’t coming.

On a side note, wish I could find these sofas. I’m sick of looking on Facebook and seeing scam post after scam post!

KnickerlessParsons · 04/09/2024 20:08

ArmchairOlympian · 04/09/2024 19:18

If she turns up at 8pm I wouldn’t answer the door. I’ll give her until 7.30. Fuming as my evenings are so short and I’m just hanging around.

Why wouldn't you answer the door? I thought you wanted to get rid of the sofa.
Just turn the tv on, sit and relax and wait until they turn up.

Procrastinates · 04/09/2024 20:03

BoredAuditor · 04/09/2024 19:48

How is my comment beating you?? Seriously, if you're at home why wouldn't you open the door?

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I don't get the logic either. Seems bloody bonkers to me.

Just go about your evening presumably if they turn up now they won't be interrupting you doing anything of note so just let them take the sofa.

Beautiful3 · 04/09/2024 20:00

I'd wait half an hour. If they were an hour late, I'd do it, just to get rid of the sofa.

BoredAuditor · 04/09/2024 19:48

ArmchairOlympian · 04/09/2024 19:33

Thanks - so many reasons to beat the OP but over this subject seriously?

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How is my comment beating you?? Seriously, if you're at home why wouldn't you open the door?

NiceCutRoundDomeDormice · 04/09/2024 19:46

ArmchairOlympian · 04/09/2024 19:33

Thanks - so many reasons to beat the OP but over this subject seriously?

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Jesus, who pissed in your Chardonnay?

LlynTegid · 04/09/2024 19:42

It should be the case that 15 minutes is reasonable no more, but most people seem to have too much acceptance of lateness.

You made the right decision.

GlassRat · 04/09/2024 19:40

I don't get why you wouldn't answer the door, presumably you need to get rid of this sofa and she's taking it off your hands.

OhmygodDont · 04/09/2024 19:36

After 15 minutes if no message I’d expect them not to arrive and go about my day.

Id also make sure to block them later on so they cannot try and get anything in future.

Original poster
ArmchairOlympian · 04/09/2024 19:34

She hasn’t turned up, I’m considering it a failure and moving on.

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CharlotteBog · 04/09/2024 19:34

If you've got somewhere to be then I would have let the buyer know because 15 isn't that late.

It you need to be out of the house then I would have said "I am out after 7.30pm so please don't come after that time."

If you're at home then I understand it might be a little tricky with being interrupted but I'd just get on with the evening.

I presume you want the sofa to be gone.

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ArmchairOlympian · 04/09/2024 19:33

BoredAuditor · 04/09/2024 19:31

Why wouldn't you answer the door? That's just cutting your nose off to spite your face

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Thanks - so many reasons to beat the OP but over this subject seriously?

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BoredAuditor · 04/09/2024 19:31

ArmchairOlympian · 04/09/2024 19:18

If she turns up at 8pm I wouldn’t answer the door. I’ll give her until 7.30. Fuming as my evenings are so short and I’m just hanging around.

Why wouldn't you answer the door? That's just cutting your nose off to spite your face

jyfvjy · 04/09/2024 19:30

An hour i'd say

Galadriell · 04/09/2024 19:30

I'd not be too worried at the 15 min point. 30 mins then yes.