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Is supervised visits off me or a family member of mine still safe guarding f?

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Questionqueen · 04/09/2024 17:10

I stopped my abusive ex from our son for obvious reasons... HES ABUSIVE!
He's reached out to my brother asking if my brother could have my son at his house while he pops round to visit. I DO NOT TRUST THIS "man" AS FAR AS I CAN THROW HIM SO WILL NOT BE HAPPENING!!!!

However, if this ever were to happen with me in the house would it be safeguarding my child still or not? I am absolutely hoping I cannot do this because I do not want him anywhere near my son!

OP posts:
HelloMiss · 04/09/2024 17:20

What does he threaten you with SS for? What is he seeing you do?

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Questionqueen · 04/09/2024 17:19

HelloMiss · 04/09/2024 17:18

How old is your kid?

I don't see why this matters in this case. He's a baby

OP posts:
HelloMiss · 04/09/2024 17:18

How old is your kid?

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Questionqueen · 04/09/2024 17:17

The lovely chap is 44 this month

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Questionqueen · 04/09/2024 17:17

Sorry I have been unclear.
I've reported his abuse to DV services but they did not refer me to SS because there is no safeguarding issue. I removed my child from him so they believe I absolutely did the right thing.
He threatens to report me to SS for absolutely nothing and so it made me think in fact him being around my child was not ok. He needs to be gone. And so I acted accordingly and professionals agree.

He's now crept out the wood works after 5 weeks to ask my brother if he could see my son. I do not want him to and my argument of keeping away is that I am safeguarding my child. So me saying no to him having my son at my brothers with him and my brother there would I be right to say no I am not doing this because I'm safeguarding my son?

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HelloMiss · 04/09/2024 17:12

Does he have parental responsibility of the child?

How old is he?

MiriamMay · 04/09/2024 17:12

Are social services involved?

Kitkat1523 · 04/09/2024 17:11

Not sure what you are asking OP 🤔
does he have PR
have the courts directed no unsupervised contact?

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