To think this comment about women with no female friends is problematic?

There is a reason I have no friends, I don't want any. I spent years trying to people please when I was younger only to be used, abused and thrown away when they got a better offer. It got to the point where I didn't see the point in friends. Now, I'm very independent, I don't really need any people in my life tbh. I've never been lonely, the people I do have in my life are because I actively choose them to be there.

If you live on a cattle ranch in the Australian outback surrounded by cowboys and cowboys alone or similar then, yeah, not a red flag to only have male friends but otherwise I do find it concerning.

Horrendously bullied at an all-girls school, probbly because of undiagnosed autism, I have found it very hard to make or sustain female friendships for most of my adult life. However, now I am well past retirement age and with more self-confidence than I have ever had in my life, I have made several close friendships with other women, and revelling in it.

I think it says a lot about her. She sounds unpleasant and the statement reflects badly on her.

She might have been very badly bullied by girls at school and find it very difficult to trust women. Just one reason I can think of.

I think it is a red flag, as it would be if a man had only female friends.

Ahh another example of some shit used by women to put down other women. It's exclusionary bullshit, promoted by the type of person who peaked at 15. How does one propose a women with no female friends makes any female friends if they have all declared her a red flag before knowing anything about her?

Can someone explain what 'pick me' means please. Genuine question I've not dared ask before.

Why?

Yes I agree and don't think YABU at all.

I love my fellow women and will always support my female mates. Strong women who support other strong women are the best thing in society as far as equality amongst the sexes is concerned in my view and experience.

On the down side I am old enough to have encountered some pretty unpleasant and unexplained issues with women that don't align my beliefs.

I enjoy the company of both men and women yet I won't deny some women I've known are petty and bitchy in ways men are not. Men manage to be arseholes in different ways.

Yeah I would agree with that, I had a mum friend and we used to talk about demographic challenges and other interesting stuff. Women dismissing other women is ridiculous.

I mean I wouldn't judge an acquaintance that had no female friends (not that I'd know anyway!), but I agree with the statement that its a red flag so if I met someone and there was a chance of developing a friendship I'd be very wary to be honest.

I mean I wouldn't judge an acquaintance that had no female friends (not that I'd know anyway!), but I agree with the statement that its a red flag so if I met someone and there was a chance of developing a friendship I'd be very wary to be honest.

I find anyone who only has friends of one sex a red flag.

Sensible not a red flag.

I have a few female friends but I have more male friends and my best friend is male.

I don’t see the issue at all.

Yes and no. Someone with no friends could just be really independent, or very quiet and shy, so a bit invisible to others, and that's not a red flag, imo. And having mostly men as friends could be from working in a mostly male-dominated business, or from hobbies where you meet a lot of men.

If it's accompanied by "I can't stand to be around other women, they're so difficult/dramatic" and general disdain, they're usually the problem themselves...

I'm only friends with cats.

I think it depends, people who have zero help with childcare whilst working often are just really time poor. It’s extremely hard to build friendships like this, especially if you have to build new ones.

I don't think people would see you as a red flag. It's more people that make friends with men but consider other women beneath them.

Er thank you….

This. I don't have any friends, through choice. I cba with the emotional drain that has always been my experience that friends (male and female) are. DH is my best friend, and I'm pretty close to my parents, and adult dds. I don't have the time or energy for anyone else.

People who don’t need friends and only need their husband and “my little family” are a far bigger red flag than those who only have male friends imo.

You can’t navigate life and have proper perspective if you only rely on your family.

I don’t really have friends (moved etc) I would love some of any sex. I’d be a bit sad that someone thinks I’m a walking red flag.

Honestly, anyone I've met who had no friends, apparently due to circumstances; it always transpired in time there was a reason.

When someone says to me they don't have female friends my assumption is that they have experienced exclusion by women and girls because they are gender none conforming

You may think they are misogynistic, but it is misogynistic stereotypes that often create that person