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To dread getting a haircut

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Quacksalver · 04/09/2024 14:55

To the point where having an anal wart frozen a few weeks ago was easier/preferable?

No complaints about service - hairdresser was pleasant, and I'm more than pleased with the cut. I think it must be the eye-contact in the mirror, it makes me panic a bit. Not massively keen on being touched either, but don't find it as uncomfortable as the former.

Anyone else feel this way? How do you cope?

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Hurdygurdygirl · 04/09/2024 19:10

I hate it too. I'm glad I'm not the only one. I find it easier to have a dry cut only but can't find anywhere at present that will do this. I hate having it washed, which takes far too long and all the head massage makes me want to get up and run away. Some of them have very bright lights which are awful when you have migraine and can't put your dark glasses on.
I can cope with the chat, but overall now I panic at the thought of going to a hairdresser so have been doing my own.

Rory17384949 · 04/09/2024 16:22

Would you feel happier with a mobile hairdresser that came to your house?

Justploddingonandon · 04/09/2024 16:21

I used to hate it until I found a really nice hairdresser who has an autistic son ( so is quite understanding of my quirks), works in a small salon with one other person so always fairly quiet, and knows what I want ( helps I've had the same hairstyle for 10 years).

spikeandbuffy24 · 04/09/2024 16:18

I used to but I've found a salon I love. Everyone chats or I can wear headphones, he asks if you want to face the mirror or turn away and face into the room. Feel comfortable there and there's a dog!

TheYearOfSmallThings · 04/09/2024 16:14

To the point where having an anal wart frozen a few weeks ago was easier/preferable?

Grin
supersop60 · 04/09/2024 16:13

"do you mind if we don't chat? I've got a bit of a sore throat/hard of hearing/ similar"
Easy.

Marinel · 04/09/2024 15:59

I hate it too. Mostly because I hate staring at myself in the mirror for an extended time.

But my hairdresser is lovely and I get on really well with her, which makes it bearable. I am always glad when it's over though!

I have short hair and cut my own hair during Covid (no choice). I used clippers and thinning shears. The results were okay but it was a lockdown only experience, I wouldn't do it forever.

loudbatperson · 04/09/2024 15:54

I have found a salon that does "mirror less" haircuts. The mirror is covered right up till the end. It's so much more comfortable for me, as I am a major mirror avoider.

Maybe see if you have a local salon that offers this?

ComtesseDeSpair · 04/09/2024 15:54

Put your phone or tablet in a ziploc bag, bring duct tape, ask if you can tape it to the mirror in front of you so that you can watch a show / movie without having to look downwards, and so it covers up your face in the mirror so you don’t have to stare at yourself. I’ve seen this loads of times done at my hairdresser, both with kids, and with adults having very long intricate services so as to pass the time. Most stylists want you to be comfortable, just explain you hate the process and they aren’t going to find it weird.

alrightluv · 04/09/2024 15:52

I'm a trained hairdresser but do something else now. I taught dh to do the back and I do the rest. Not that I hate going just saves time and money. He's very quick too.
Maybe I should do it again as a sideline at home. No small talk stylist 🤣

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Quacksalver · 04/09/2024 15:46

I really would like a different style, but never feel I can articulate what I want.

Could you take in an image of what you want? Easier than trying to explain. You at least need the motivation of getting a cut you're happy with at the end of it. I bet you like it more in a couple of weeks, when it's settled/grown in a bit.

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GoldenLegend · 04/09/2024 15:45

I hate the way the hairdresser listens to what you want then does what THEY want. Latest appointment: taking less off than I asked so I’d have to go back sooner. Only I haven’t been back at all.

PointsSouth · 04/09/2024 15:43

“Do you do that head massage thing?”

“Yes, of course!”

”I’ll pay you not to.”

MidwichCuckoo · 04/09/2024 15:40

I think at my hairdresser they wait to see whether people want to talk, rather than force chit chat on people, so it's ok

Meezer · 04/09/2024 15:38

How about finding a hairdresser that comes to your house?
So no stress of going to the salon, or sitting in the window etc.

And once you trust her, you can do without a mirror whilst she is working (so no eye contact either)?

It is often cheaper too.

extrabubble · 04/09/2024 15:37

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Pilotingmyownlife · 04/09/2024 15:37

I have a home hairdresser cuts out most of the issues and cheaper. Only thing is you have to clean up after (but that's a small sacrifice).

Hillarious · 04/09/2024 15:35

I last went two hours ago. I really don't like it. I have a hearing impairment, so have difficulty hearing what the hairdresser is saying over all the hair drying going on around me. I should enjoy it, as the hairdresser is the dad of a friend of one of the DC, and he is really nice. I really would like a different style, but never feel I can articulate what I want.

So, I just focus on how great it feels now, two hours after having the cut, sound in the knowledge that I won't need to go again for a while.

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Quacksalver · 04/09/2024 15:30

im guessing it’s a very very rare occurrence you go to the hairdresser op?

Not very often extrabubble. I sort of hack bits off with (hairdressing!) scissors for a while, then start thinking how nice it would be not to have to wear my hair in a ponytail all the time which usually results in making an appointment. I didn't used to mind it so much.

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Quacksalver · 04/09/2024 15:24

I actively go to different barbers each time, or not the same place for like a year anyway, to avoid developing a relationship with anyone.

Haha, this statement makes so much sense to me. The what have you been up to questions. Mind goes blank!

If I pick a Turkish barbers I might be lucky enough to get someone who doesn't have the best English and that tends to cut back on the casual chat! Another pro tip. 😉

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Quacksalver · 04/09/2024 15:24

I actively go to different barbers each time, or not the same place for like a year anyway, to avoid developing a relationship with anyone.

Haha, this statement makes so much sense to me. The what have you been up to questions. Mind goes blank!

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DaughterNo2 · 04/09/2024 15:23

I take a book. I have the polite convo about what I want cut wise, hair washed, then I pick up the book…. It signals that you don’t want to chat (to my hairdresser at least) 🤣

longdistanceclaraclara · 04/09/2024 15:22

I HATE it. Last went August 23. Really need to go again. I am autistic and it just to much one on one with strangers for me.

EasyPeelings · 04/09/2024 15:20

I solve the problem by cutting my own hair. Saves me a fortune as well.

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