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To think dogs shouldn't be off lead in public if they don't come when you call

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ladylasagne · 04/09/2024 10:34

So I should start by saying I love dogs, I think they're great. I generally have no issue with them being off lead in public if they are well behaved and obey a call to heel.

Today I was out doing my morning run. I was running along a well used footpath, that is popular with lots of people. I saw a lady with two dogs off lead (fairly little terriers) running all over the place, paying no mind to her shouts for them to come. I slowed right down as I approached (I was already pretty slow as I'm really not fast runner). When I was about 10 meters away (or 30-40 ft if you're old school), these dogs start running full speed towards me. Whichever way I moved, they would change direction to still be heading for me, so I just stopped and stood still hoping to avoid an accident, and both dogs crashed into my legs. It really hurt, but luckily I'm pretty solid because it was a hard enough impact that it could've done damage to anyone frail or vulnerable using that path. I dread to think how painful it must have been for the poor dogs. I stepped around the dogs and walked on until I was far enough away to start running again.

As I walked passed this lady, she said sorry (so she obviously knew she was in the wrong on some level!). Maybe I should have left it at that, but I couldn't bite tongue and so I said to her "don't let them off the lead if they don't come when you call", she replied "yeahhhh sorry". I didn't swear, I didn't shout, but I just couldn't let it pass without saying something. Whenever I see people doing this with dogs, I just think it's a matter of time before the dog runs in front of a car or ends up getting hurt as a result of irresponsible dog ownership, and it really upsets me.

20 minutes later, I'm running back along the path in the other direction. Surprise surprise, same dogs running around off lead, same lady pointlessly shouting at them. I slowed down to a walk and just walked past because I didn't want a repeat of the incident. The dogs were running up to me, I had to repeatedly step over and around them while trying to get past again. I said nothing to this woman (what more can I say really?!?) but I was shaking my head (very british) and just held my arms up in the air (half in despair, half to demonstrate to the dogs that I have nothing on me of interest - it works sometimes, not this time). This lady obviously recognised me, and just starts shouting "they have as much right to be here as you". I continued to say nothing, walked passed, and eventually was able to start running again.

So my question is, was I wrong to say to her that her dogs shouldn't be off lead if they don't come when you call? Should I have just keep my mouth shut, and accepted that I now have a bruise on my leg because of her dogs being allowed to run all over the place?

Thanks in advance ladies. I want opinions but please be kind, I do feel quite sensitive at the moment. The woman really shouted at me, I'm a very delicate, sensitive person inside and I did find it quite intimidating. Also, I ran a different route today because last week a lovely man in a van who is now regularly parked along my usual route shouted something out the window at me (didn't hear it fully but it involved the word 'chunky', so probabaly not a compliment) and I was really upset. He still parks there sitting in his van eating his Ginsters pasty for breakfast, and I still don't feel up to running past him again yet. I just want to be able to run in peace, I'm fat and it's a cheap way to exercise!

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Crystallizedring · 04/09/2024 12:34

I love dogs too but not when they are out of control. My DD was knocked to the ground by a dog when she was little (don't worry he's just being friendly) and another growled when we walked past. She's 18 now and still scared of dogs.
I had at least 3 dogs run up and shove their faces in my son's pushchair when he was a baby with the owners uselessly calling them back.
I have seen some really responsible owners too, either with dogs on leads or with excellent recall. But there are always some who just shouldn't own a dog.

Runssometimes · 04/09/2024 12:33

Downtrod · 04/09/2024 11:16

How are you supposd to train them off the lead if you dont let them off the lead?

We started in the house. Then in the park early so fewer distractions on a long lead, then without the lead for short periods, clipping on, walking a bit, letting loose and playing so attention focussed on us, clip on, walk more then off again. Then busier times in park and practice same thing, then larger areas where he could run ahead and explore and same thing, recall, walk, off lead, play, recall for treat and off again. You build up slowly so the dog gets lots of chances to realise back on the lead doesn’t mean end of walk or fun and ensure they have plenty of time to get it right hence no distractions and build up to busy areas.

i got my dog as a very boisterous one year old lab, he was large and bouncy. He needed a lot of exercise but had no compunctions about stealing balls, picnics or running off as had been passed around a fair bit. And he didn’t care what I thought initially as I think he thought he’d only be with me for a few weeks. I had to work at bonding with him, understanding what he loved most which unusually for a lab wasn’t treats but playing with a tennis ball, and build up.

80% recall training took about 6 months, 95% about a year.

He never learnt to obey recall if there was water about. Basically if we didn’t want him in it he had to be on the lead.

it’s hard work but possible and is the minimum standard for a dog owner if you want to let your dog off leash. My dog would have been very unhappy if he was never allowed off and so it was my job to ensure we could give him that whilst still respecting other people’s space.

Swingsandslides · 04/09/2024 12:32

RunningJo · 04/09/2024 12:24

You are NOT being unreasonable, as a runner and a dog owner I get so annoyed by people who can't control their dogs!. I think you did well not to reply to her 'they have as much right' comment. My dog has great recall, if I see anyone approaching I will always put him on his lead - I love dogs but I don't assume everyone else does. As a runner I am always wary passing dogs anyway

Since when did dogs have the ‘right’ to be anywhere? They are dogs. They have no ‘right’ to be anywhere. They have a right not to be harmed by humans. That is it. That’s where their rights begin and end.

ladylasagne · 04/09/2024 12:30

brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr · 04/09/2024 11:34

All dogs on leads at all times in public places.

I do not want your twatty dog anywhere near me. Least of all running up to me, or appearing suddenly between my child’s legs at a picnic table. The owners always seem to be dicking around with their phones while the dogs behave like twats. Probably posting #furbaby shots to social media.

I find it so sad when I see dog owners on their phones ignoring their dogs. No wonder the dog is running around for attention 🙁I think a twatty dog is nearly always the result of an even twattier owner.

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McGregor33 · 04/09/2024 12:30

Fluufer · 04/09/2024 12:21

Sorry but why does anyone need to own an animal that rips other animals apart? That isn't "snapping".

My old dog hated other dogs and would definitely attack, especially if they roamed into the garden which is secured. But let me tell you, with humans there was never an issue. The biggest softie ever and brought up around multiple children, happily rolling around the floor etc.

We ended up with a dog reactive dog through irresponsible owners allowing their untrained off of the lead. My then dog friendly dog was attacked by 3 Yorkshire terriers and even then, my dog was on the lead.

HeySummerWhereAreYou · 04/09/2024 12:28

charcoalhairmask · 04/09/2024 12:26

There's out of control dogs everywhere now, dog poo, hanging plastic bags of poo, barking, dogs even sitting at tables at cafés being fed and even dogs that kill people. It's out of control and a licence should be brought in and the national dog population reduced.

Exactly this... As I said, people need to go on a 9-12 month long college course (3-4 hours a week,) that costs them around £1000 if they want to own a dog. Like I said before, if you can't afford £1000, you cannot afford to keep a dog and pay all the vet bills, etc. This will cut down a lot on your amount of people who have dogs.

People who let them off leads, and let them do what they want/fuck around as much as they like are dim and irresponsible oiks. And if something DOES happen, you can bet it will be someone else's fault! 🙄

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charcoalhairmask · 04/09/2024 12:26

There's out of control dogs everywhere now, dog poo, hanging plastic bags of poo, barking, dogs even sitting at tables at cafés being fed and even dogs that kill people. It's out of control and a licence should be brought in and the national dog population reduced.

PADDY17 · 04/09/2024 12:25

I am so so sick of this lately. I have an elderly border collie who is very well trained but I would never let her off the lead while out walking in public. I will admit that I do bring her out to my local green at 6 am and let her off the lead as there is nobody else around at that time.
I would also shorten her lead when we see children or other dogs and especially runners passing by as dogs are naturally inclined to run after somebody running. She is trained to walk right in beside me when we are passing other people or animals but even the best trained dogs have their off days so I am never going to take that chance.
But when other off lead dogs run up to her and especially small yappy dogs, she is at a disadvantage because she is on her lead. This causes her a great amount of stress. Dogs should be on a lead in publics. No matter how well trained they are.

Or if you want to let your dog run around off lead, bring them to specific places where this is permitted and that other dog walkers have the same mindset.

Fluufer · 04/09/2024 12:25

HeySummerWhereAreYou · 04/09/2024 12:23

Errr yeah it it.

Confused

You sound a LOT like one of those parents who lets their children do what they want and then blames others if/when they get hurt, and I am not engaging with you any more.

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No. Snapping is snapping. Ripping things apart is ripping things apart. Fact that you think that is ok says a lot about you...

RunningJo · 04/09/2024 12:24

You are NOT being unreasonable, as a runner and a dog owner I get so annoyed by people who can't control their dogs!. I think you did well not to reply to her 'they have as much right' comment. My dog has great recall, if I see anyone approaching I will always put him on his lead - I love dogs but I don't assume everyone else does. As a runner I am always wary passing dogs anyway

ladylasagne · 04/09/2024 12:23

TwinklyAmberOrca · 04/09/2024 11:23

One of my dogs is going rather deaf so her recall is terrible. BUT... she does NOT approach people or other dogs. She knows to stand still.

They're working dogs so NEED to be walked off lead as they need to exercise properly.

It's not so much the recall but people need to train dogs NOT to approach other people or dogs unless they are told they can.

I didn't even think of working dogs, that must be really stressful for them when they're trying to concentrate. It's a good point about not approaching other people/dogs in the first place, for the dog's protection as much as anything I suppose, not everyone is friendly.

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HeySummerWhereAreYou · 04/09/2024 12:23

Fluufer · 04/09/2024 12:21

Sorry but why does anyone need to own an animal that rips other animals apart? That isn't "snapping".

Errr yeah it it.

Confused

You sound a LOT like one of those parents who lets their children do what they want and then blames others if/when they get hurt, and I am not engaging with you any more.

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McGregor33 · 04/09/2024 12:22

As someone who has a large reactive dog, this is one of the situations I hate and you best believe that when my big on lead dog becomes very vocal at the smaller dogs were frowned upon. I can imagine how it looks to people on the outside although if they looked closer they’d see mine on lead and a rogue dog off lead all in my dogs space!

Fluufer · 04/09/2024 12:21

HeySummerWhereAreYou · 04/09/2024 12:20

I would imagine - or hope - that the vast majority of people would not be so stupid as to let their child waltz up to someone's gate and poke their fingers through. Especially as they don't know what could be lurking in the garden - like ya know, a big fucking DOG. That is breathtakingly irresponsible parenting.

Seems to me that people who CBA to look after their dogs properly, and stop them affecting other people lives, are the same people who CBA to look after their children properly either, and don't give a shit what they do... But they will blame everyone else if they are hurt.

So if some dim irresponsible parent lets their child poke their fingers through a random gate and a dog snaps at them/harms them, it's somehow the dog's fault, and it needs putting down?

Yeah, fuck that. Hmm

Sorry but why does anyone need to own an animal that rips other animals apart? That isn't "snapping".

HeySummerWhereAreYou · 04/09/2024 12:20

Fluufer · 04/09/2024 12:11

Jesus. The Spaniel obviously should have been under control, but that big dog should be pts. What if it was a child's fingers for God's sake.

I would imagine - or hope - that the vast majority of people would not be so stupid as to let their child waltz up to someone's gate and poke their fingers through. Especially as they don't know what could be lurking in the garden - like ya know, a big fucking DOG. That is breathtakingly irresponsible parenting.

Seems to me that people who CBA to look after their dogs properly, and stop them affecting other people lives, are the same people who CBA to look after their children properly either, and don't give a shit what they do... But they will blame everyone else if they are hurt.

So if some dim irresponsible parent lets their child poke their fingers through a random gate and a dog snaps at them/harms them, it's somehow the dog's fault, and it needs putting down?

Yeah, fuck that. Hmm

charcoalhairmask · 04/09/2024 12:18

Not only are you not being unreasonable, but actually all dogs should be on the (non-extendable) lead in urban/inhabited areas.

Even then, sometimes that's not enough ; I was on the Tube at the weekend and some idiot had their tiny teacup dog on the lead and it nearly got crushed in the closing door as the owner wasn't paying attention to it whatsoever 😨. After we left the stop the dog then sniffed around people's bags and legs uncontrolled by the owner, the way they do when they are about to pee on something.

The whole dog thing is way, way out of control now. It's gone too far.

ladylasagne · 04/09/2024 12:17

Downtrod · 04/09/2024 11:16

How are you supposd to train them off the lead if you dont let them off the lead?

You can do long line training to start and also take them to secure fields where you can let them off lead. There's about 5 secure fields within a 20-30 minute drive of my area that you can hire for £10 an hour. If you let them off lead and they're not responding, then you should put them back on lead. Otherwise all they're learning is that when you let them off they can run away and ignore you.

Also this woman was using about 10 different commands/phrases to get them to come so either hadn't trained them and/or doesn't know how to.

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TheCultureHusks · 04/09/2024 12:16

Starting to think every village needs a pup van.

Off lead, out of control? The pup van is full of chicken treats. If you didn’t work on recall when you had the chance, the pup van doors open… in they go… never to be seen again.

Fluufer · 04/09/2024 12:11

HeySummerWhereAreYou · 04/09/2024 12:08

@Jklow1254

Unfortunately I’ve found the type of people who do this don’t care about what their dogs are doing, just that “they’re friendly”. But what if the dog they are running up to isn’t? Who’s fault would it be if the off lead dog got mauled?

Well, yeah...

I know this woman who's got a spaniel with long ears, and a couple of years ago, she'd got him off his lead - in this kind of narrow side street- between some back gardens to houses, and the main high street ... He ran off down to this back garden that had a gate, (kind of like wrought iron with gaps in it.)

He started sniffing around the gate, poking his face through, and there was a big bull terrier on the other side. This bull terrier grabbed his ear and ripped 3/4 of it off. Result: a £3000 vet bill for her to get the ear fixed. Her dog wasn't insured. (And I am not sure they'd have covered it anyway, as she was careless enough to have him out in a public place off his lead!)

She had the fucking audacity to try and get the money for the vet bill of the owner of the pit bull ... When he basically told her to do one, she took him to the small claims court. She completely got her arse handed to her on a plate. There was not a single reason why this man with the bull terrier should have had to pay her vet bill.

I have no idea whatsoever why she thought this owner should have paid this bill. Her dog was on the loose - off its lead in a public road - and he went right up to a gate where there was a big bull terrier behind it in the garden. Bull terrier was just protecting his property. It was entirely 100% her fault. Stupid cow still lets him run about off his lead. Confused

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Jesus. The Spaniel obviously should have been under control, but that big dog should be pts. What if it was a child's fingers for God's sake.

Fluufer · 04/09/2024 12:10

And all the bloody poo. Perhaps if all dogs were tied to their owners, fewer people would "miss" the turds or "forget" the poop bags.

HeySummerWhereAreYou · 04/09/2024 12:08

@Jklow1254

Unfortunately I’ve found the type of people who do this don’t care about what their dogs are doing, just that “they’re friendly”. But what if the dog they are running up to isn’t? Who’s fault would it be if the off lead dog got mauled?

Well, yeah...

I know this woman who's got a spaniel with long ears, and a couple of years ago, she'd got him off his lead - in this kind of narrow side street- between some back gardens to houses, and the main high street ... He ran off down to this back garden that had a gate, (kind of like wrought iron with gaps in it.)

He started sniffing around the gate, poking his face through, and there was a big bull terrier on the other side. This bull terrier grabbed his ear and ripped 3/4 of it off. Result: a £3000 vet bill for her to get the ear fixed. Her dog wasn't insured. (And I am not sure they'd have covered it anyway, as she was careless enough to have him out in a public place off his lead!)

She had the fucking audacity to try and get the money for the vet bill of the owner of the pit bull ... When he basically told her to do one, she took him to the small claims court. She completely got her arse handed to her on a plate. There was not a single reason why this man with the bull terrier should have had to pay her vet bill.

I have no idea whatsoever why she thought this owner should have paid this bill. Her dog was on the loose - off its lead in a public road - and he went right up to a gate where there was a big bull terrier behind it in the garden. Bull terrier was just protecting his property. It was entirely 100% her fault. Stupid cow still lets him run about off his lead. Confused

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ladylasagne · 04/09/2024 12:06

summersingsinme · 04/09/2024 11:12

Totally agree - it's better for everyone concerned. I saw an unpleasant exchange while at the beach the other day. A family - two kids, two dogs (one large, one small). My DH had to point out to the dad that his big dog had done a poo (pretty sure the guy knew as we heard his daughter tell him but was just going to ignore it). The large one also approached my DD, who is wary of dogs after having been knocked over several times as a toddler. It nearly put her off playing in the sea.

Then a little while letter another couple came up the beach with two dogs, both on leads. As they approached the family, one of the women called out that her dog was not friendly and they should recall theirs, they couldn't and there was a minor altercation between the dogs and a lot of shouting between the owners.

I love dogs, and enjoy seeing them gallivanting around, but it has to be safe for everyone and in the case of most dogs, that means being on a lead in public.

Oh dear, this sounds like an ugly situation to witness. I'm sorry your DD is wary of dogs too, I used to be terrified of them until my teens. I hope she's able to have some positive experiences with them in the future to counteract it a bit. It's a good point that it can be lovely seeing them running round playing, but only when it's safe for everyone involved.

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Sartre · 04/09/2024 12:03

Also will say there are unleashed dog parks so if owners want their dogs to be out without a lead, that’s where they should be heading.

Sartre · 04/09/2024 12:02

I’m a runner and this happens to me all of the time, especially if I ever choose to run in a park rather than through the streets. It tends to be smaller dogs which makes it even more dangerous because they could easily trip me up (harder to spot and tend to come out of nowhere). The owners usually laugh about it thinking it’s adorable behaviour but it wouldn’t be adorable if I injured their dog or got injured myself. Very irritating.

HeySummerWhereAreYou · 04/09/2024 12:00

I completely agree. I more than agree. I don't think they should be allowed off the leads at all when they're out in public. There's so many people, probably 80% IMO, who I see with dogs off leads, who don't have control over them, (not full control anyway.)

When I go for a walk (and I go 4-5 times a week to various places around my rural area,) I see people letting their dogs off the leads, and the dogs sometimes come jumping up me, running at me, growling, barking, sniffing, pestering, and sometimes nearly knocking me over ... One dog nearly knocked me into the canal! It's just ridiculous ...

There's far too many very irresponsible dog owners now. I think you should have to go on a one year course at college to be a dog owner now. (That costs like £1000.) If you can't afford the course you can't afford to have a dog. Hopefully, that'll put people off - because many people wouldn't be bothered.

I live in a village with about 150 properties and about 425 people, and every 3 or 4 weeks, a fucking dog goes missing ... It's run out of the garden, or the house, and goes tootling off around the village... Somebody picks it up and puts on the facebook page asking 'does anybody know who this dog belongs to?' Some posts are asking if anyone has seen their dog!!! . They need catching by the council, and the owner should have to pay a £500 fine, for not securing their dog properly. 3 strikes and the dog is seized and not returned to the owner. (Because some dogs in my village seem to wander off and 'go missing' quite frequently!) Hmm

I remember this one time - I was going for a walk down this country path through some woodlands. It was about a 2 mile walk ... This couple behind me had this bloody dog, (OFF THE LEAD!) and it was walking 50 to 100 feet ahead of them the whole time.

He was constantly running around me and circling me and stopping in front of me. Continually stopping, disrupting, and jarring my walk ... Just literally circling me for 2 out of every 3 minutes... It wasn't aggressive, or growling or barking. It was just there. It was making sure I knew it was there and it was just running circles around me and stopping in front of me...

It drove me so batshit, that after 20-25 minutes, I just stayed where I was for 10 minutes and let them walk ahead ...Then 15 minutes later. I caught up with them and their dog, and it started it again. So I gave up and just walked back and went home. People need to control their mutts!

People really DO need to have dogs on leads in public, because even when they are well trained, NO-ONE can possibly have full control of them. Not really. Not 100% of the time.

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