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Would you have your own bedroom if you had space

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spanieleyes22 · 03/09/2024 23:42

So a friend of friend is moving house and she has said that the main bedroom which is en suite and has a teeny balcony is going to be her room. She's having a dressing table and fitted wardrobes and the bathroom is hers alone. Her husband is taking a bedroom across the landing next to one of her sons and is sharing a bathroom with him. (Other children are up on next floor).

Would you if you could 🤣

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PayYourselfFirst · 04/09/2024 14:13

Kind of scary (for me at least) how many people don't actually want to sleep with their partner
Why scary?

Mine snores like a train, has a neurological condition which means he twitches all night.
He also works on a completely different schedule and is very loud.
Why is it scary to sensibly have my own lovely room,sleep peacefully and feel well?

Our relationship has improved dramatically and I have no idea why it's seen as a negative
I feel far more romantically inclined towards him now I don't experience the above plus farting,bad morning breath and stinky feet / bum scratching etc

BobbyBiscuits · 04/09/2024 13:44

It's literally not possible for me and DH to sleep in the same bed. His bad leg could be triggered which produces horrific nerve pain. I thrash around a lot in my sleep and wake every couple of hours, I've also got a bad hip so can't get comfortable easily. If I cuddled up to him he'd wake up in pain.
It's a bit sad as we used to be able to sleep together before both of our accidents.
But personal space is really important. I think when couples have to spend lots of time in the same room without having somewhere else to go it can lead to disagreements turning worse than they need to.

MsNeis · 04/09/2024 13:11

Not a bedroom per se, but I'd love to have my own room to work and I would add a comfy bed in there, just in case...

Boxofsockss · 04/09/2024 13:11

I would. Only off putting thing is it would be another room for me to clean!

Alltheunreadbooks · 04/09/2024 13:08

I think me and my OH both know we want separate rooms if we were to have the space, as it is it seems I'm always looking for an excuse to use our lovely sofa bed downstairs - big, lovely mattress, quiet.
OH is a big snorer, and if I don't fall asleep first I find it really difficult to with the noise.
Separate rooms are no reflection on the state of a relationship. It takes a lot of love and communication to accept that sleeping separately is probably much better for you.

PurpleCheese · 04/09/2024 13:07

In my marriage, yes. In the relationship I’m in now, no.

Welshmummytotwo · 04/09/2024 13:06

We don’t have the room (2 bed flat) but i absolutely have to have my own room due to having autism and my husband has a sofa
bed downstairs

Twoshoesnewshoes · 04/09/2024 13:05

Noooooo, love knowing DH is beside me

the80sweregreat · 04/09/2024 13:03

Yes, it's a brilliant idea if you have the space / room.

MountUnpleasant · 04/09/2024 13:01

We have separate rooms and always will.

CoffeandTiaMaria · 04/09/2024 12:59

I would never share a bed with a man after the bliss of having my own room and bed set up exactly as I want it!
No more snoring, farting, being kicked in his sleep or groped awake.

Mangolover123 · 04/09/2024 12:45

I do and I have!
Perfect, we each have a bedroom, ensuite and dressing room"
Occasional we have to bunk in with each other if we have a full house and that can be fun!

FuckThePoPo · 04/09/2024 12:44

I slept in the same bed as my husband happily for over 25 years and then suddenly my sleep became as light as a feather and my husbands snoring became an issue. We bed hopped for a while and in the end now sleep separately. My sleep isn't that much better actually however the stress has gone so for us it's been worth it! If people don't have issues they wouldn't need to fix them would they? 😂

Blackalice · 04/09/2024 12:44

I already do! Best decision we made.

LoobyDoop2 · 04/09/2024 12:44

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No you don’t, don’t be ridiculous. No reputable therapist goes around saying things like that. You’re either lying, or you’re very bad at your job.

ErrolTheDragon · 04/09/2024 12:44

Anyway, I have my own room. It's great - we have different sleeping habits, and both of us are liable to snore.

I've no objection whatever to sleeping with my DH, it's the being in bed together when one or both of us wants to be asleep but can't due to the other which is the issue!

firsttimemum1230 · 04/09/2024 12:44

I geniunely like sleeping next to my partner so no this wouldn’t work for me but what works for you might not others so go ahead and live life how you’d want

BobbyBiscuits · 04/09/2024 12:43

Hell yes. In an ideal world there'd be a double bedroom for each person, then they can spend time in the others room or bed when they want but go in their own space when they don't.

CannotBeBothered2025 · 04/09/2024 12:43

It's just the two of us and our two biggest bedrooms are identical in size. We both have a king size bed and it's amazing. I have a dressing table in mine and we share the wardrobes in my room as well.

I would never not have this set up.

AlisonDonut · 04/09/2024 12:42

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Lol. Course you are pal.

doodleygirl · 04/09/2024 12:42

We have spare rooms now the kids have left so if he starts snoring or is unwell we have options. I don’t think we would like to have official separate rooms.

ErrolTheDragon · 04/09/2024 12:40

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😂

EngineEngineNumber9 · 04/09/2024 12:39

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Why would I divorce someone who I love and trust and get on amazingly well with and have fabulous sex with just because we don’t like being next to each other while unconscious?

KateMiskin · 04/09/2024 12:38

bifurCAT · 04/09/2024 12:21

This needs to be a vote...

Kind of scary (for me at least) how many people don't actually want to sleep with their partner.

It's scary how many men snore.

EH10MUM · 04/09/2024 12:33

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