Would you have your own bedroom if you had space

DH sleeps in the spare room. 40 years of early shifts means he still wakes up around 5am.

My dream house would have 2 master bedrooms which are mirror images of each other so nobody gets the "better" bedroom.

Absolutely! DH often sleeps in the spare room and I love it, I’d kill to have this solely as my bedroom, sharing is hard. I feel like I share the whole house, why can’t I have one little space to myself?
I miss living alone to be honest, damn biological clock making get married and procreate

I'm really considering this, we actually sleep really badly together, we have a spare room but with no bed, I'm just looking at beds now ...

I have my own room and I wouldn't go back to sharing with DH now. Health issues and his snoring were the main factors that led to him moving into the spare room but we both sleep better now.

I do have my own room, I sleep better alone with no snoring in my ear it's worked out great

We have the space, and we have our own rooms. I love it. There is no way I will ever share my bed again.

Not would - I do! Moved into the spare room when I had covid 4 years ago and never moved back. The kids still play musical beds in the early hours and I hated moving to the spare room with them as it was waking me up. I am so much better rested this way.

Yep separate rooms here one night owl, one early bird

sleep makes us happier people having to sleep in the same room did not

Hell yeah.

Nope, best part of the day is snuggling into DH when we both get into bed. Yup, sounds soppy, but resting my head on his chest (with his arm around me) is my place to totally relax 😂

We sleep apart because men are gross and smelly

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They are and I don't miss that bit at all

Love DH with all my heart but would definitely have my own room if I could.

For you, maybe, but not for everyone. Everyone's different. I like sharing a bed with my DP and I wouldn't want to have separate rooms, personally - but I'm sure if people find it hard to get a decent night's sleep when sharing a bed (or even just sharing a bedroom) then the relationship's probably healthier when they're sleeping apart and waking up refreshed, no?

The master bedroom is a shared room but the en-suite is used only by me (and sometimes teenage daughter if she’s out looting cosmetics) my husband has his own bedroom with his games consoles and Lego. If a stranger saw our house they would think we had two teenage boys!
I have an extra living room downstairs that I use for my hobbies. wall to wall, floor to ceiling shelves full of books and a mini bar. It’s a thing of beauty!

We have spare bedrooms so could sleep separately but rarely do. If he has a cold we do. I can't bear colds. We do now each have a bathroom and it is bliss. Mine has a dressing area attached with wardrobes. I love it. My bathroom is spotless- no one else uses it. DC not even allowed in it.

Lack of sleep on both our parts was the beginning of the end of our marriage, we started to resent each other and bicker before we decided on separate rooms so sleeping apart has now improved our marriage and not destroyed it like some posters seem to think, we are now happy, well rested, content and have a better sex life too!

Posted twice for some reason.

Why?

If you have the space and prefer to sleep separately what's the problem?

For a lot of couples, the ability to have your own space might actually work wonders for the relationship.

Not permanently no. I'd like a separate dressing room so I don't have clothes, make up etc in our room. I'd also like a spare room for when one of us is ill or can't sleep but generally I like sharing a room/bed.

I'm curious why some people hold sleeping (literally) with their partner to be so important. What we do together when we're awake is what matters, and that goes better if we've both had a decent nights sleep!

No way. Separate rooms is the beginning of the end imho.

Yes.

I don't know if we'd sleep separately all of the time, but I'd like the option.

Yes, absolutely. DH and I have separate bedrooms, have done for 15 years! Marital bliss is separate beds! All his clothes etc are in "my" room as I have the master bedroom, DD has the second biggest room, and DH has a smaller one with a double bed, bedside table, and bookcases. We'll share in a hotel etc as I'll just wear earplugs but they're uncomfortable all the time.

I wouldn't want to share a bed again with any man (or woman) in the world!

Why scary?

I like sharing a bed with my partner, but I can completely see why sleeping separately works better for some people.

It's not sleeping separately that would indicate a problem with a relationship, it would be the reason that they slept separately that might indicate a problem.

For example - 'We sleep apart because one of us snores / is a ridiculously light sleeper / has hot flushes / can only fall asleep if the radio is on / keeps very different hours' do not indicate a problem. However, 'We sleep apart because men are gross and smelly / because he really fucking annoys me if I have to look at him in the mornings / because I want to avoid ever having to have sex with him / because he wants to avoid ever having to have sex with me / because he likes to sit up all night messaging camgirls' would indicate a problem.