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To think this is asking a lot?!

159 replies

Foodfrezy · 03/09/2024 20:51

Person A works 10 hours a day and drives.

Person B works 2 hours a day but doesn’t not drive.

B would like A to come and collect them after work several times a week, visit a family member and then drop them home.

This will be a 40 mile round trip for A in the evening after work when they’re tired (not to mention the extra time and petrol costs).

A said they can’t do this several times a week after work due to the time/cost etc

B is not happy about this. Due to the countryside location, B’s only other option is a taxi which they cannot afford. B says they cannot work more due to their mental health but because they’re self employed what they can claim via universal credit is very limited.

YABU: A should do the 40 mile round trip for B a few times a week

YANBU: B needs to fit in with when A feels able to do the 40 mile round trip or make their own arrangements to see family member.

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Foodfrezy · 03/09/2024 21:00

A and B are siblings.

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Cantbebotheredwithausername · 03/09/2024 20:57

What is the relationship between person A and B? Is there a specific reason why person B feels entitled to lifts, other than B's inability to find other options?

Todaysbetterthanyesterday · 03/09/2024 20:57

Depends who it is. Your child? How old? Too many variables to say from your limited info.

family member visits no, other person let’s call them c (😂) can visit b themselves.

Arlanymor · 03/09/2024 20:56

Why is B treating A as a taxi?

Goody2ShoesAndTheFilthyBeast · 03/09/2024 20:55

Yes. It is asking a lot.
B needs reminding that driving them at all is a favour, not their right.

roseymoira · 03/09/2024 20:55

Impossible to say without the wider context. Who are these people, what is the relationship? Presumably there is a back story why one feels entitled to ask for help with lifts?

yeesh · 03/09/2024 20:54

B is a cheeky fucker

softmauve · 03/09/2024 20:53

B needs to sort their own life and travel, presumably they are an adult

Whattablet · 03/09/2024 20:52

Hate all this person A and B shit. Is it you and your mum/dad? What?