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To think she got her just desserts

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roundthepound · 03/09/2024 19:46

So, 20 + years ago I was part of a large loose friendship group mostly based around going out and partying. There was one woman part of this group who was such a grifter. Borrowing money and not paying it back, pleading poverty to get people to cover her costs when out, forgetting her purse, there was even a point stuff when ornaments etc went missing from a few houses after a party and I'm sure it was her. She also dated guys specifically to get work done on her house. An electrician, then a decorator etc. She was a real piece of work.

Anyway, the group drifted apart but I heard similar stories about her over the years, including cynically befriending a well off elderly couple whose son lived abroad.

Fast forward to this week and turns out she had managed to get the surviving widowed elderly man to change his will in her favour in return for ongoing care for a number of years. All very hush hush and just their secret.

He died recently and she was telling everyone how she was at last rich and had good times ahead and so on. Turns out the elderly man had her number all along and the house had been transferred to his son abroad years ago with all the money and the new will had her named as getting £100!

I just liked the thought of karma coming back for once.

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Idontjetwashthefucker · 10/09/2024 13:58

CultOfRamen · 10/09/2024 11:04

You sound like a gossip

🙄

CultOfRamen · 10/09/2024 11:04

You sound like a gossip

AdoraBell · 09/09/2024 21:03

Karma always turns up at the best time.

Pyjamatimenow · 09/09/2024 21:02

Yes that’s quite delicious

Garlictest · 09/09/2024 20:58

MiaFeysImprobableBosom · 09/09/2024 08:42

Huh? I wouldn't normally comment on a spelling issue, but surely it's "deserts" as in what they deserve?

Hah! Every MN day is a learning day! Thanks.

AgileGreenSeal · 09/09/2024 15:33

Grifter became griftee 🤭

Idontjetwashthefucker · 09/09/2024 15:29

MiaFeysImprobableBosom · 09/09/2024 08:42

Huh? I wouldn't normally comment on a spelling issue, but surely it's "deserts" as in what they deserve?

I think it can be either looking at Google

Justleaveitblankthen · 09/09/2024 15:00

Sporadica · 09/09/2024 07:47

Is she homeless now?

Nope; she's apparently living rent-free in the OP's head.

Comment of the week.
Bar none! 👏😁

Sethera · 09/09/2024 09:18

Sporadica · 09/09/2024 07:47

Is she homeless now?

Nope; she's apparently living rent-free in the OP's head.

😂

burnoutbabe · 09/09/2024 08:54

perfectstorm · 09/09/2024 08:37

There's a legal concept of "proprietary estoppel" for exactly this situation - so if she provided care for years on the understanding she would inherit substantially in return, she could argue that her detrimental reliance on the promise resulted in disadvantage and loss to herself (though she'd need to prove a lot of care was provided, and that doing that meant she didn't take on other work, for example). She might still be entitled to something.

Indeed. Often used in land farming cases where someone worked for years in the land for no Salary due to future promises.

MiaFeysImprobableBosom · 09/09/2024 08:42

Garlictest · 09/09/2024 08:03

Not sure what to think about your story, but am disproportionately pleased you used the right version of "desserts"!

Huh? I wouldn't normally comment on a spelling issue, but surely it's "deserts" as in what they deserve?

perfectstorm · 09/09/2024 08:37

There's a legal concept of "proprietary estoppel" for exactly this situation - so if she provided care for years on the understanding she would inherit substantially in return, she could argue that her detrimental reliance on the promise resulted in disadvantage and loss to herself (though she'd need to prove a lot of care was provided, and that doing that meant she didn't take on other work, for example). She might still be entitled to something.

Happyinarcon · 09/09/2024 08:35

But surely she saw the will and knew all this in advance? Especially if she was the one who pushed to get it changed? It means she would have had no access to any of the solicitor meetings.

TulipCat · 09/09/2024 08:30

People like this usually make mistakes somewhere in their duplicitousness. Hers was arrogantly assuming nobody could play her at her own game. It's the height of stupidity to rely on being left things in someone's will, because if even if you see a will in your favour, they can easily write a new one without you knowing.

SmoothieMaking · 09/09/2024 08:07

👌

Garlictest · 09/09/2024 08:03

Not sure what to think about your story, but am disproportionately pleased you used the right version of "desserts"!

lapochette · 09/09/2024 07:59

She got what she deserved. Anyone who tries to scam vulnerable, elderly people are vile. Was she a carer for the elderly gentleman? If so I'm sure she was paid for the hours she did, people like her would never do it for free.

SwiftiesVSLestat · 09/09/2024 07:51

You seem to know a lot about this person you don’t really speak to and about all their secrets and things that were meant to be ‘hush hush’.

Sporadica · 09/09/2024 07:47

Is she homeless now?

Nope; she's apparently living rent-free in the OP's head.

Partylikeits1985 · 09/09/2024 07:46

Sounds like the old man pulled a fast one. But if she deserved it then that’s ok I guess.

MyspecialMug · 09/09/2024 07:42

I'd enjoy watching this as a movie, and to see where she is now.

PyongyangKipperbang · 08/09/2024 23:41

I suspect that he was supposed to keep it hush hush to stop his son finding out about it, but she (like all truly stupid people who think that they are being clever) cant help but tell people just how clever they are being.

Fucking hilarious. Good for him!

JohnCravensNewsround · 08/09/2024 23:34

It is good when people get their come uppance.

redtrain123 · 08/09/2024 23:30

If it was ‘hush hush’ and ‘their secret’ , how did you know?

Is she homeless now?

it’s a bit crass to say how wealthy you are so soon after the man’s death.

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