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Aibu for being frustrated with a colleague

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ForOliveShaker · 03/09/2024 12:07

So, we had lunch delivered yesterday and it’s a rare treat for us at work to get this. It was sushi and wraps and cakes.

A colleague of mine, who is somewhat greedy I feel. Took one of the boxes that things were delivered in and says to me “I’m going to take some of this home for tea” she took 12 wraps so 6 full ones, 10 sushi and a few cakes.

I ended up telling my team leader but didn’t want to be horrible about it but it was sort of greedy in my opinion to take that much when it was supposed to be for our spread today. I would understand if it was a case of food poverty or something, but the issue is she goes for regular dinners that are pricey and gets regular take outs.

AIBU for being annoyed here.

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RunAwayTurnAwayRunAwayTurnAway · 07/09/2024 08:11

You must be the office busy body and martyr.

ByQuaintAzureWasp · 07/09/2024 08:09

ForOliveShaker · 03/09/2024 12:15

I told my team leader in the morning bc she left and was packing the box when everyone has gone home and didn’t realise I was still there.

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If she was taking ut when everyone has gone home it must gavd been left over after lunch. In which case you are a tell-tale. You are sticking your nose in where you shouldn't.

YerArseInParsley · 07/09/2024 08:09

ForOliveShaker · 03/09/2024 12:07

So, we had lunch delivered yesterday and it’s a rare treat for us at work to get this. It was sushi and wraps and cakes.

A colleague of mine, who is somewhat greedy I feel. Took one of the boxes that things were delivered in and says to me “I’m going to take some of this home for tea” she took 12 wraps so 6 full ones, 10 sushi and a few cakes.

I ended up telling my team leader but didn’t want to be horrible about it but it was sort of greedy in my opinion to take that much when it was supposed to be for our spread today. I would understand if it was a case of food poverty or something, but the issue is she goes for regular dinners that are pricey and gets regular take outs.

AIBU for being annoyed here.

The food was delivered on Monday for Tuesdays lunch but on Monday night before the food was due to be put out the next day, she filled a box for herself and took it home when she thought everyone had left for the night leaving less food for her colleagues on Tuesday?

If so, what happened on Tuesday? Did your boss say anything? I'm guessing the food was refrigerated on arrival on Monday?

Maireadh · 07/09/2024 07:54

So was it delivered on Tuesday and refrigerated, untouched, for a party on Wednesday? If so the colleague was greedy to take some of it home on Tuesday night.

But if you’d put it out for lunch on Tuesday then all gone home and it was leftovers, I don’t see why the colleague couldn’t take it.

DoreenonTill8 · 07/09/2024 07:48

MartinCrieffsLemon · 03/09/2024 13:06

This is why we need clarification on the timeline

Was it:

  1. Food delivered last night for today? (Gross if it was sitting out all night as it sounds)
  2. Food delivered yesterday and eaten yesterday and then just left on the side to be binned by the cleaners?
  3. Food delivered yesterday and consumed yesterday but OP was expecting leftovers to be used again today after they'd been left on the side? (Gross again)
  4. Food delivered yesterday for yesterday that colleague boxed up whilst everyone was out but BEFORE they ate?
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Absolutely this!! I don't think I'd want day old sushi that had been left out!

Nazzywish · 07/09/2024 07:48

ForOliveShaker · 03/09/2024 12:15

I told my team leader in the morning bc she left and was packing the box when everyone has gone home and didn’t realise I was still there.

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It was leftovers would you have preferred for it to go in the bin.? You made yourself look silly there complaining OP.

If this was before/ during lunch then fair enough to complain but leftovers...no.

Civilservant · 07/09/2024 07:45

YABU for unclear information!

Scandie · 07/09/2024 07:41

Does she go out though? Or is it smth she says?
Was there enough for all to have something there?
I AM thinking food poverty - and stories of dinners out, takeout etc masking and creating a narrative of being okay?
Did YOU have what you needed to eat?
you said everyone else had gone so I presume so, in which case: who cares? She may have had her reasons. She may just be a CF. But so what if it’s the latter?
I’d rather she WAS a CF and NOT potentially masking a sad situation.

GaryLurcher19 · 03/09/2024 16:21

We all need OP to give us that timeline! We can't know how cheeky the CF is without the details. 😄

MartinCrieffsLemon · 03/09/2024 13:06

cosyleafcafe · 03/09/2024 12:56

Well I think @ForOliveShaker needs to clarify whether it would have gone in the bin if this person didn't take it.

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This is why we need clarification on the timeline

Was it:

  1. Food delivered last night for today? (Gross if it was sitting out all night as it sounds)
  2. Food delivered yesterday and eaten yesterday and then just left on the side to be binned by the cleaners?
  3. Food delivered yesterday and consumed yesterday but OP was expecting leftovers to be used again today after they'd been left on the side? (Gross again)
  4. Food delivered yesterday for yesterday that colleague boxed up whilst everyone was out but BEFORE they ate?
ActualChips · 03/09/2024 12:58

OP wrote that the leftovers were meant for a spread today.@cosyleafcafe @mrsm43s

Two days old sushi, soggy wraps and stale cake.

SatansBobbleheadedDashboardOrnament · 03/09/2024 12:56

Re your suggestion of a spread today... Were you planning to refrigerate the leftovers? I'm not sure I'd touch a two-day old wrap. Certainly wouldn't eat the sushi. The cakes if properly stored should have been alright, she shouldn't have taken those home if the plan was to eat those today.

cosyleafcafe · 03/09/2024 12:56

MartinCrieffsLemon · 03/09/2024 12:53

But it sounds like everyone had gone home

So it was left to presumably just go in the bin when the cleaners came in?

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Well I think @ForOliveShaker needs to clarify whether it would have gone in the bin if this person didn't take it.

mrsm43s · 03/09/2024 12:54

Surely leftovers are fair game and would have otherwise have been binned?

She's a bit of a CF if she took it before everyone in the office had their lunch, but if she took it at the end of the day (as it seems) then I don't see the problem tbh.

I wouldn't do it personally, because left over cakes, wraps and sushi that had been out since lunchtime wouldn't be appealing to me, but if she's happy to eat it, then surely it's better than it going to waste?

MartinCrieffsLemon · 03/09/2024 12:53

cosyleafcafe · 03/09/2024 12:51

Even if it's leftovers, it would be rude to take that much without checking if anyone else wants some.

But it sounds like everyone had gone home

So it was left to presumably just go in the bin when the cleaners came in?

cosyleafcafe · 03/09/2024 12:51

Even if it's leftovers, it would be rude to take that much without checking if anyone else wants some.

SatansBobbleheadedDashboardOrnament · 03/09/2024 12:51

She sounds like a greedy madam, but if it was leftovers after everybody else had gone home, surely it would have gone in the bin? Are you pissed because you wanted to take some of it home and she got in there first?

ActualChips · 03/09/2024 12:49

You wanted to do a 'spread' of old sushi and stale cake?🤢

HaudYerWheeshtYaWeeBellend · 03/09/2024 12:46

So you’re complaining about leftovers?

itsmabeline · 03/09/2024 12:44

Leftovers are fair game.

KreedKafer · 03/09/2024 12:43

So did she take her share of the food home instead of eating it in the office? Or did she eat in the office and then also fill another box to take home?

SquatWeightaMinute · 03/09/2024 12:37

I'm confused but agree with others;

taking left overs - ok
taking before the lunch even happened - really not ok!

needsomewarmsunshine · 03/09/2024 12:36

I'm being dense, but this doesn't make any sense without time line.

GaryLurcher19 · 03/09/2024 12:35

Number 4 would be her checking it was free and letting others know. That would be fine as it reduces waste, but I assume that didn't happen because OP would have been asked if she wanted to take any too.

GaryLurcher19 · 03/09/2024 12:33

OP, we need clarity on the timeline. 😁

I think your colleague is a CF either way but how much of a CF she is depends on whether it was leftover or not, whether she checked it was free to take and, if so, whether she let others know they could take some.

If she:

1, Took it before the lunch was had = CFing Thief!

2, Took it after lunch without asking or sharing = CF

3, Took it after asking but without sharing = Bit of a CF

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