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Aibu for being frustrated with a colleague

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ForOliveShaker · 03/09/2024 12:07

So, we had lunch delivered yesterday and it’s a rare treat for us at work to get this. It was sushi and wraps and cakes.

A colleague of mine, who is somewhat greedy I feel. Took one of the boxes that things were delivered in and says to me “I’m going to take some of this home for tea” she took 12 wraps so 6 full ones, 10 sushi and a few cakes.

I ended up telling my team leader but didn’t want to be horrible about it but it was sort of greedy in my opinion to take that much when it was supposed to be for our spread today. I would understand if it was a case of food poverty or something, but the issue is she goes for regular dinners that are pricey and gets regular take outs.

AIBU for being annoyed here.

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SugarHorseSpooks · 09/09/2024 20:51

YerArseInParsley · 09/09/2024 19:45

I love a zombie thread, I like nothing more than finding out what happened months later. Did she leave him? Did he change his ways? Did they move abroad? Did she finally tell MIL to f off?

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i must admit its sometimes a lot better as its the full details rather than bits

YerArseInParsley · 09/09/2024 19:45

Bodeganights · 07/09/2024 08:53

My bad, read the date wrong.

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I love a zombie thread, I like nothing more than finding out what happened months later. Did she leave him? Did he change his ways? Did they move abroad? Did she finally tell MIL to f off?

GRex · 09/09/2024 18:17

Eskimalita · 09/09/2024 17:34

You’ve not been clear about WHEN she took it

She has, in a follow up. End of the day when she and OP were the last two there!

StormingNorman · 09/09/2024 17:40

Wow! I’m cringing for her.

Eskimalita · 09/09/2024 17:34

You’ve not been clear about WHEN she took it

IndigoLaFaye · 08/09/2024 12:43

Unless people were left without enough food to eat this wouldn’t even register for me.

Hakunatomato · 07/09/2024 18:21

At least your supervisor now has measure of you, and how you are petty enough to tell tales and talk behind others backs.

chestnutlovers · 07/09/2024 14:01

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GRex · 07/09/2024 13:15

ForOliveShaker · 03/09/2024 12:15

I told my team leader in the morning bc she left and was packing the box when everyone has gone home and didn’t realise I was still there.

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If everyone had gone then it was leftovers for the bin. No idea what your issue is with that.

Do you regularly eat sushi and wraps that were left out overnight?

MintyNew · 07/09/2024 13:13

Yabu for writing such a confusing and nonsensical thread. First she turned to you and said this, then you say she didn't realise you were there.

OraettaMayflower · 07/09/2024 13:09

ForOliveShaker · 03/09/2024 12:15

I told my team leader in the morning bc she left and was packing the box when everyone has gone home and didn’t realise I was still there.

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Why didn’t you say something to your colleague at the time? You come across as if you’re telling tales. If your boss asked where all the food went then say but otherwise 🤐

easylikeasundaymorn · 07/09/2024 13:05

ForOliveShaker · 03/09/2024 12:15

I told my team leader in the morning bc she left and was packing the box when everyone has gone home and didn’t realise I was still there.

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What a drip feed! completely different scenario if this was at the end of the day rather than before anyone else had had a chance to eat!

If it was stuff that would last another day and had been properly packed away in a fridge and then she took it out, then she is perhaps being slightly unreasonable but not hugely, everyone had had the chance to eat as much as they wanted, and if anyone wanted to take some home themselves or put it away for tomorrow then they had had the chance.

If it had all just been left out, then good on her for taking it, surely nobody would eaten stale sandwiches and sushi that had been left at room temp the next day anyway? If anything she was doing people a favour by cleaning up.

SugarHorseSpooks · 07/09/2024 12:58

if the food is left over then it saves waste if no one else wants any extra

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LookItsMeAgain · 07/09/2024 12:50

@ForOliveShaker - when during the day did your colleague take the food?

Was it shortly after it was delivered (before anyone else had an opportunity to select from the offerings)?
Was it at lunchtime as others were selecting and they were taking a box full for their dinner at that point leaving less for others to select from?
Was it after lunchtime, when what was left would be considered 'left overs' and might possibly have either gone in the bin or back in the fridge for the day after??

Timing of when this happened is actually important to whether you were the CF here or your colleague was.

SugarHorseSpooks · 07/09/2024 12:46

ForOliveShaker · 03/09/2024 12:15

I told my team leader in the morning bc she left and was packing the box when everyone has gone home and didn’t realise I was still there.

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what was going to happen to the left overs ?

burnoutbabe · 07/09/2024 12:33

Wouldn't the key thing here be

Was the food just left out after lunch? ie no one had cleared it away already - its very rude to just leave it for the cleaners to deal with. At our place one would either encourage people to take stuff home OR say "lets wrap this up for storage to eat tomorrow lunchtime" - ie get some new cling film or an air tight box.

if you can't keep it safe overnight, then its binned after ensuring no one wants to take it home.

UserNameOfShame · 07/09/2024 12:33

Well, thanks for coming back and clearing that up for us OP 🙄

Clear as mud.

ManchesterLu · 07/09/2024 12:32

It's fair game if people are boxing up leftovers, as it's better than food going to waste, but only if it's finished with by the people it was actually meant for, and even then, everyone still left in the office should be given a fair share, if they want it.

Monkeysatonthewall · 07/09/2024 12:26

After reading the original post I thought the colleague basically came in and packed lots of stuff while people were finishing to eat.

Now it sounds like she took stuff that would've gone off by Monday had she not taken it home.

For some reason, some OPs like to drip feed.

LBFseBrom · 07/09/2024 12:26

ForOliveShaker · 03/09/2024 12:15

I told my team leader in the morning bc she left and was packing the box when everyone has gone home and didn’t realise I was still there.

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I would love to know what the team leader said to you. We'll never know what she thought but didn't vocalise.

In future it might be a good idea for the team leader to say people are welcome to take things home that are leftovers from the lunch, just to be clear. A lot of people won't bother but it is good if someone does use it, better than wasting.

betterangels · 07/09/2024 12:01

ForOliveShaker · 03/09/2024 12:15

I told my team leader in the morning bc she left and was packing the box when everyone has gone home and didn’t realise I was still there.

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The way you wrote this, they were leftovers and you're sticking your beak in when colleague is taking food which would otherwise have gone to waste, presumably.

YABU.

GeorgesMarvelousCalpol · 07/09/2024 11:55

Bodeganights · 07/09/2024 08:53

My bad, read the date wrong.

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Do you need your eyesight checked @Bodeganights? This is the second thread I've read where you've called "ZOMBIE", for something that is 3 or 4 days old!

daisychain01 · 07/09/2024 11:48

Bodeganights · 07/09/2024 08:36

Zombie thread, no 3 this morning. Very weird.

It isn't a Zombie thread - the OP started it on 03/09/2024.

NigelHarmansNewWife · 07/09/2024 11:46

NonsuchCastle · 07/09/2024 10:24

You told your team leader? What an immature, spiteful thing to do.

Because effectively stealing before anyone had actual eaten was perfectly acceptable?

If it was left over after everyone had eaten then it's fine for someone to take it imo.

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