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Did I do the wrong thing?

106 replies

BurtTheDurt · 03/09/2024 10:24

Last week I was on the train, it was a few stops until it terminated. A group of 3 girls got on, I’d guess they were barely into their teens. It was busy so I was stood near the door, about 8 feet away. A ticket inspector who had been making his way down asked for their tickets which they showed to him. It quickly became clear they’d been bought the tickets by an adult which means they’re cheaper but the adult wasn’t accompanying them. The inspector began really telling them off, saying they would need to get off at the next stop or give their details. I could see they were panicking and one became tearful. I decided in the moment to step forward and say I was with them and that I’d moved further up so they could chat without me overhearing. The inspector seemed a bit annoyed but moved on. The girls thanked me and I moved back to my original spot.

I mentioned this to a family member in passing when we met for lunch. They said I shouldn’t have interfered and why would I approach a group of teenage girls anyway (I’m 41F with my own teen DD if it makes any difference. I thought I was being helpful and I’d honestly hope someone else would do the same if it was my DD. Did I overstep here?

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twohotwaterbottles · 03/09/2024 10:32

Well done OP. Kindness and compassion every time. I would've done the same. Keep being you

AmandaHoldensLips · 03/09/2024 10:29

I would have done the same.

Septemberalready · 03/09/2024 10:29

It was a really kind thing to do.
It's not as if you just jumped in straight away. You stepped in when you saw the situation deteriorating and used your judgement.

MonsteraMama · 03/09/2024 10:28

I think it was a nice thing to do. They probably shouldn't have done it, but it probably also wasn't their decision to do so or just an honest mistake.

Mumistiredzzzz · 03/09/2024 10:26

I think it was really kind of you. Maybe they, and the adult, didn't realise the adult needed to be with them. But whatever the reason you obviously helped them out.

Soubriquet · 03/09/2024 10:26

I think it was a nice thing to do. They shouldn’t have done it no, but the guard was unnecessarily harsh and I wouldn’t have wanted my teen daughter being detained at a train stop