here is the situation- have been offered a big promotion, but involves moving 5-6 hours drive away from home.
I have 2 DCs - one in year 5, other about to start year 7. Their dad is my ExH. We currently share 50/50. He won’t let me take the kids.
exH was abusive and controlling during marriage and continues to be so. He openly says his aim is to make my life as difficult as possible.
he professes to adore the kids ( and they love him) but he is constantly nasty to me and makes co-parenting impossible. Life is a constant battle with him. He also is jealous of my close relationship with my kids ( I’m their mother after all!).
he is lazy with the kids and when they are with him he does the minimum and they’re expected to fit in with him. ( trips to the pub with his friends with no kids during weekends). His sole aim with 50/50 was to avoid paying maintenance and to spite me. He never takes them to their clubs
im tempted to call his bluff and take the job. It would mean I’d see kids every other weekend for a year. Then I’m hopeful I could use the experience to get a job back in my home city.
but I worry about my kids. He actively undermines me and I worry he will destroy my relationship with them.
the new job would mean more money for me and the kids and the chance for me to rebuild my future after a devastating divorce.
i also don’t think I can take much more of the continued abuse and nastiness from him.
Am I crazy to think of doing this?