I’ll start off by saying it’s going to sound childish but for some reason it’s rubbed me the wrong way.
Grandparents have two grandchildren, an older boy and a younger girl. Older boy is clearly the favourite, grandad talks about him proudly whenever he visits and every year puts a Facebook post out on his birthday of a picture of him and saying happy birthday. Lo and behold this morning there is a post by Grandad of our nephew with his grandparents, wishing him a happy birthday and saying how lucky they are to have him.
My girl has just had a first birthday, not a peep out of father-in-law on social media. Now I know social media is not the be all and end all, but in a tech driven world - it’s not unreasonable to think Facebook will still be around in 15 years. I imagine grandkids may be curious and go through the profiles or grandparents as they get older. I can’t help but think that it will make my girl sad one day to see her grandad gave a shit about her older cousin but isn’t really fussed about her.
He sees other grandchild every day as they live in close proximity. We are further away so tend to visit twice a month. Grandmother adores our girl, it’s lovely to see, clearly she loves both grandkids dearly. Grandad can be sweet with her for 5 mins but doesn’t seem overly fussed, isn’t fussed about giving her a hug and when she was younger, he could easily visit with grandmother and leave not having held the baby. However he was all over nephew as a young baby so it’s definitely not a confidence thing.
AIBU to think that this will be noticed by my daughter as she gets older and make her feel sad? Is it something I should nip in the bud now? I feel so sad for my girl, she and her cousin should be treated equally IMO.