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To hunt down these bastards who exposed my son to chicken pox

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littleredbumblebee · 02/09/2024 22:48

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went on a caravan holiday last week for 5 nights and my son who is 11 played with some kids from other families and had a great time- all good

On the last night one of the smaller boys was running around with no shirt on and he has spots, one of the other families asked and his mum said oh he has chicken pox but we though getting away would do him good.

I told her my son had never had chicken pox and said I bloody hoped my son was not going to come down with them. One of the other parents also said they should not have brought the kid. Basically it ended up with them going inside the caravan in a huff. The next day we all left

So today the day before my son is use to start at high school he woke up covered in spots and now has chicken pox and won’t be in for his first week at high school. Tonight he is now crying saying he won’t name any friends now and he won’t know his way around and no amount of comforting will calm him down. Very few kids for his school are going to this high school and he is so upset he will have missed out on making friends.

We have been in touch with his form tutor who has been great and has said they will support him and catch him up but I could bloody scream. How can some people be so bloody selfish.

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Beezknees · 02/09/2024 23:11

BabyDoge · 02/09/2024 23:08

Why do people keep saying it's not expensive? It's £150 for both doses, that's a lot of money!

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So suck it up and pay, or deal with the fact that your child may catch it if you can't afford it.

KimKardashiansLostEarring · 02/09/2024 23:11

ThisBlueCrab · 02/09/2024 23:10

Certain counties in the UK do not support the chicken pox vaccine so you cannot have it privately.

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Edit -Sorry misread!

Hugggy · 02/09/2024 23:10

Chicken pox I mean, not the vaccine

ThisBlueCrab · 02/09/2024 23:10

Rocksaltrita · 02/09/2024 22:57

Why didn’t you have him vaccinated? Hardly costs anything and standard in many countries.

Certain counties in the UK do not support the chicken pox vaccine so you cannot have it privately.

Hugggy · 02/09/2024 23:10

My mum had it as an adult and was apparently very poorly.

Beezknees · 02/09/2024 23:09

PolePrince55 · 02/09/2024 23:07

He goes the Vaccine police 🤪

Really silly comment. If you're concerned about a particular illness and there is a vaccine available, get it. It's common sense.

KimKardashiansLostEarring · 02/09/2024 23:09

Hohofortherobbers · 02/09/2024 23:04

There are worse times of his life to have it, and he was going to catch it sooner or later.

It gets nastier as you get older I believe. Not guaranteed to catch it. I’d say first week of high school is actually probably one of the worst times he could have caught it in his whole life.

BabyDoge · 02/09/2024 23:08

Ivehearditbothways · 02/09/2024 23:06

So? You pay for it. You can get it at Boots. It’s not expensive and when your kid has never had chicken pox, you get the vaccine to save them this.

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Why do people keep saying it's not expensive? It's £150 for both doses, that's a lot of money!

Butwhybecause · 02/09/2024 23:08

Better now than later on.
I'm surprised he hasn't caught it before now.

It takes a while for the new Y7 to settle down and I'm sure he'll make friends and catch up with the help of his new form teacher. In the meantime, keep him calm, reassure him - and stop him scratching!

Pinkstripepurplespot · 02/09/2024 23:08

Ivehearditbothways · 02/09/2024 23:06

So? You pay for it. You can get it at Boots. It’s not expensive and when your kid has never had chicken pox, you get the vaccine to save them this.

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Don’t be so mean. The vaccination is £150. That’s not an inconsequential amount of money, especially when you have multiple children.

KimKardashiansLostEarring · 02/09/2024 23:07

That’s incredibly shit timing!! Poor kid. Not helpful but if my kids hadn’t had CP by school age I’d have got them vaccinated! All of mine are vaccinated.

PolePrince55 · 02/09/2024 23:07

He goes the Vaccine police 🤪

Beezknees · 02/09/2024 23:07

MyToesAreHotNotInaSexyWay · 02/09/2024 23:05

They don't usually vaccinate against chicken pox in the UK

Its not ideal but your son will catch up with the friends making in a couple of weeks

You can pay for it. If you feel that strongly about it which OP clearly does, pay for it.

Ivehearditbothways · 02/09/2024 23:06

MyToesAreHotNotInaSexyWay · 02/09/2024 23:05

They don't usually vaccinate against chicken pox in the UK

Its not ideal but your son will catch up with the friends making in a couple of weeks

So? You pay for it. You can get it at Boots. It’s not expensive and when your kid has never had chicken pox, you get the vaccine to save them this.

Ivehearditbothways · 02/09/2024 23:06

Why didn’t you have him vaccinated? After he got through the early years with never catching it, didn’t you think to just get the vaccine?

MyToesAreHotNotInaSexyWay · 02/09/2024 23:05

They don't usually vaccinate against chicken pox in the UK

Its not ideal but your son will catch up with the friends making in a couple of weeks

OkPedro · 02/09/2024 23:04

Yes op why don't you go back in time and get your son the CP vaccine?! The one that isn't on the immunisation list and costs £££
Some posters on here are unbelievable.

Your poor son and his first week of high school! It's great you've been in touch with his tutor. My son started secondary last week. He came home today saying he's made a couple of friends.. apparently most didn't even talk to each other for the first week.. I'm sure he'll settle in quickly 🤞

SeashellCandle · 02/09/2024 23:04

Why wasn't he vaccinated if you feel so strongly about it?

Chicken pox was going around DD's nursery last year so we decided to have her vaccinated. Fortunately she didn't catch it at the time and now it's one thing less to worry about.

Hohofortherobbers · 02/09/2024 23:04

There are worse times of his life to have it, and he was going to catch it sooner or later.

WiseBrownOwl · 02/09/2024 23:04

Does no one remember the basically chicken pox parties if the 80's Confused

Got it out the way quick and everyone got it at the same time, win win, if you ask me.

Marnieloves · 02/09/2024 23:03

It’s good that he got it now - better than in adulthood when it’s much more serious. No big deal.

Chocolateorange22 · 02/09/2024 23:03

I think YANBU to be miffed by it. However it's a common childhood virus so you must have expected to come across it at some point surely? Timing sucks a bit but it is what it is. My DD came out in spots on her 4th birthday. Felt a bit down about cancelling her plans but I wouldn't go hunting down the person who gave it to DS two weeks before. We wanted to get our kids vaccinated as have a DH who is vulnerable but were given the incorrect advice by a pharmacist it appeared. Needless to say DH ended up in hospital with it from the kids because somehow he'd never had it before.

The family could have been a bit decent and pre warned you as chickenpox isn't great for unvaccinated pregnant women or vulnerable adults.

DoggoQuestions · 02/09/2024 23:02

That really does suck. But reassure your son, friendships are fluid at the beginning of Y7. Missing the first week won't stop him making friends.

But I have to agree with PP. Why did you not get him vaccinated? Especially as older. It's common knowledge that it's a disease that is generally fine when really young, but can be serious if older.

Hugggy · 02/09/2024 23:02

Better to have it now than as an adult. But I agree not good timing. Hope he's not feeling too bad

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