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littleredbumblebee · 02/09/2024 22:48

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went on a caravan holiday last week for 5 nights and my son who is 11 played with some kids from other families and had a great time- all good

On the last night one of the smaller boys was running around with no shirt on and he has spots, one of the other families asked and his mum said oh he has chicken pox but we though getting away would do him good.

I told her my son had never had chicken pox and said I bloody hoped my son was not going to come down with them. One of the other parents also said they should not have brought the kid. Basically it ended up with them going inside the caravan in a huff. The next day we all left

So today the day before my son is use to start at high school he woke up covered in spots and now has chicken pox and won’t be in for his first week at high school. Tonight he is now crying saying he won’t name any friends now and he won’t know his way around and no amount of comforting will calm him down. Very few kids for his school are going to this high school and he is so upset he will have missed out on making friends.

We have been in touch with his form tutor who has been great and has said they will support him and catch him up but I could bloody scream. How can some people be so bloody selfish.

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User6874356 · 03/09/2024 09:17

WiseBrownOwl · 02/09/2024 23:04

Does no one remember the basically chicken pox parties if the 80's Confused

Got it out the way quick and everyone got it at the same time, win win, if you ask me.

Chicken pox can kill and leave children permanently disabled. Yes that’s obviously extremely rare but not worth the risk when there is a vaccine.

Fimbledore · 03/09/2024 09:16

SeashellCandle · 02/09/2024 23:15

Yes op why don't you go back in time and get your son the CP vaccine?! The one that isn't on the immunisation list and costs £££. Some posters on here are unbelievable.

What's genuinely baffling is the sheer entitlement of people who think if they can't have it for free then they would simply cut off their nose to spite their face. It's a one time investment into lifetime protection for your child against a potentially serious virus (or a disruptive one at the very least). Nobody can claim they cannot afford the hundred pounds or so if they REALLY WANTED to. If your car breaks down or you want a new household gadget or you get a fine or you end up spending an extra night on holiday, then you manage to find the money.

If you look at it logically, a child coming down with chicken pox might mean at least 2 weeks of family disruption. One family member may not be able to work and would have a loss of income that easily equals or exceeds the cost of the vaccine. If a child comes down with chicken pox before a holiday and things get cancelled, you also lose far more than the cost of the vaccine. It's a no brainer really.

You know some people can't afford to run a car or go on holiday, right?

MotherJessAndKittens · 03/09/2024 09:16

£150 and 2 vaccines for those banging on about getting it done. Also there is a vaccination schedule in everyone’s GP notes so if you get a vaccine outwith the NHS schedule it’s best to let GP know and it will be added to your notes. It’s easy for them to print it out if you need a copy for jobs, holidays etc

Temporarynamechange102 · 03/09/2024 09:14

Vaccinate? Ffs. Get a grip people.

user7853156780 · 03/09/2024 09:13

I think you are being a bit UR OP.
its very unusual to get to 11 and not had chicken pox surely? Just bad luck/good luck that he’d not caught it before. And either way, much better than getting it as an adult. He will be fine to go to school once the spots have scabbed over.

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 03/09/2024 09:12

This is bad luck but I’m reiterating what others have said why didn’t he have the vaccination?

Me and DB had this in the 70s as young kids so there was probably no vaccination around then. I recall a measles, mumps rubella vaccine but I got measles anyway either before or after it. The one thing my DM either wanted or didn’t want DB to get was mumps.

thekrakenhasgone · 03/09/2024 09:11

Marnieloves · 02/09/2024 23:03

It’s good that he got it now - better than in adulthood when it’s much more serious. No big deal.

Absolutely this. There's never a convenient time for it to happen and it's so much better for him to get it in childhood. I think it can cause infertility if he got it as an adult. So now he has immunity.
I'd be thanking them.
It's why people used to (possibly still do) have chicken pox parties for kids

Namechanger385u4p · 03/09/2024 09:10

That sucks OP.

Off topic but if anyone is interested, many pharmacies charge £120, i can suggest somewhere in S london if needed :)

TheGoogleMum · 03/09/2024 09:10

The family was very inconsiderate exposing others to chickenpox.

Whyhaveibeencutoutofmamsnot · 03/09/2024 09:10

rainbowstardrops · 03/09/2024 08:57

Post after post slating you for not having him vaccinated (you've explained why) instead of focussing on the shitty family that allowed their child with chicken pox that was still contagious, amongst other people. Some who could be vulnerable.
I feel for your lad OP because it's really shitty timing. Hope he feels better soon.

Unfortunately you can't change the behaviour of other people as we all found during lockdown when people wouldn't stop socialising (yes you Boris etc)

SallyWD · 03/09/2024 09:09

Yes it's annoying but not a big deal in the scheme of things. It's bad timing but was bound to have happened sooner or later.
I certainly wouldn't be hunting down the parents...

BorisJohnsonsPhysique · 03/09/2024 09:09

OneFastDuck · 03/09/2024 09:05

You should have had him vaccinated if he got to 11 without getting it.

They recommend 6/7 as the age to vaccinate I think if you've not caught it. It's easily done, in boots or similar.

I'd have imagined most big kids would've had it. I would've kept mine away from babies/ old people/preschoolers but older than that is on you.

DS had it at 2 and gave it to newborn DD. She was too small to build the immunity so had it again at 2 herself. It's part of childhood.

Tough luck to those immunosuppressed adults, eh?

BarbaraHoward · 03/09/2024 09:08

OneFastDuck · 03/09/2024 09:05

You should have had him vaccinated if he got to 11 without getting it.

They recommend 6/7 as the age to vaccinate I think if you've not caught it. It's easily done, in boots or similar.

I'd have imagined most big kids would've had it. I would've kept mine away from babies/ old people/preschoolers but older than that is on you.

DS had it at 2 and gave it to newborn DD. She was too small to build the immunity so had it again at 2 herself. It's part of childhood.

RTFT - the first dose of the vaccine put him in hospital.

NoTouch · 03/09/2024 09:07

It is not the best timing, but he was going to catch it sooner or later. Could be worse and he caught it during an exam time later.

OneFastDuck · 03/09/2024 09:05

You should have had him vaccinated if he got to 11 without getting it.

They recommend 6/7 as the age to vaccinate I think if you've not caught it. It's easily done, in boots or similar.

I'd have imagined most big kids would've had it. I would've kept mine away from babies/ old people/preschoolers but older than that is on you.

DS had it at 2 and gave it to newborn DD. She was too small to build the immunity so had it again at 2 herself. It's part of childhood.

PorridgeIsNotSlimmingTheWayIMakeIt · 03/09/2024 09:04

Ah OP that's rotten luck. On the plus side, though, it's best to get chicken pox out of the way in childhood. Despite being vaccinated, I got it in my late 20s and have never felt so ill in my life. Apparently the symptoms tend to be worse when you're older. I was off work for 2 weeks and still barely had the strength to return.

Try to think of it as another baddy ticked off the list. It will be good for him in the long run!

supportpangolin · 03/09/2024 09:04

Beautiful3 · 02/09/2024 23:12

Better he catches it now, than as an adult. Because shingles is far more painful and more likely to be admitted to hospital.

Having caught chickenpox, he will now be at risk for developing shingles in the future, though it most commonly occurs in people 50 yrs old or older.

People aged 70 to 79 are eligible for the two-dose NHS shingles vaccine (Shingrix). Private Shingrix vaccinations are available through some pharmacies and require two doses. It costs in the region of £400 to £459 for the two doses.

Superdrug:

"The shingles vaccine is suitable for patients aged 50 years and over who have either had chickenpox or have received the chickenpox vaccine in the past.

If you have neither had chickenpox nor the vaccine, you are not at risk of developing shingles and the vaccine won’t be suitable for you. In this case, you could benefit from the chickenpox vaccine.

You will be unable to have the shingles vaccination if you have had one or more episodes of shingles in the last 12 months."

Seeline · 03/09/2024 09:03

I'd be surprised if he caught it on holiday from the timings you've listed.
CP has an incubation period of 10-21 days, but 14-16 days is the most common.
Even at 10 days, it seems unlikely that your DS caught it from the boy on holiday.

Isobel201 · 03/09/2024 09:03

Calm down, its just a week off school. Hunting down the family won't do anything in the long run. Whilst you do that, do you want to hunt down the person who brought Covid 19 in as well? Ridiculous threat title.

Whyhaveibeencutoutofmamsnot · 03/09/2024 09:00

berksandbeyond · 03/09/2024 08:44

It’s a bit shit yes, but 11 is very late to get chickenpox- you had a good run but ironically probably would have been better for him to get it much younger. Surely you wanted him to have it as a child, as shingles is nasty!

What are you talking about. Shingles is nasty but arises when someone who had chicken pox years ago is unwell with something else and the chicken pox virus comes out of it hiding place and causes a nasty painful rash and becomes a danger to pregnant women and immunocompromised

rainbowstardrops · 03/09/2024 08:57

Post after post slating you for not having him vaccinated (you've explained why) instead of focussing on the shitty family that allowed their child with chicken pox that was still contagious, amongst other people. Some who could be vulnerable.
I feel for your lad OP because it's really shitty timing. Hope he feels better soon.

parkrun500club · 03/09/2024 08:56

The OP is overreacting, but seriously - the chicken pox vaccine isn't given on the NHS (it might be now, but it's a very recent thing). The private vaccine is expensive.

It's not a serious illness for most kids. It's more of an inconvenience for parents because you have to take time off to look after them until they can go back to nursery/school.

You'd think since covid that people would be a bit more aware about infection control.

Alittlebitwary · 03/09/2024 08:50

WiseBrownOwl · 02/09/2024 23:04

Does no one remember the basically chicken pox parties if the 80's Confused

Got it out the way quick and everyone got it at the same time, win win, if you ask me.

Although it's a common childhood virus, it can still be very serious. My two year old was hospitalised with sepsis from an infected chicken pox. And she's a normal kid, not vulnerable particularly.

So no, I wouldn't purposely send out my kids to infect others.
Had I known about the vaccine sooner I'd have got it for both my kids!

OP it seriously pisses me off when other people are selfish pieces of shit and don't care about the consequences or infecting other people. I once went to a party where the birthday girl had been sick the night before and the mother only told us halfway through the party. Lo and behold the kids got sick, then I got sick. So about 2 weeks off work in total and a fucking awful time.
If it happened to them, they'd be fuming too. Totally avoidable.

And the advice for chicken pox is SO clear. Stay at home until they've scabbed! I hate inconsiderate people.

On the other hand, he's had it now, it is what it is, hope he feels better soon!

Lemonadeand · 03/09/2024 08:50

Rocksaltrita · 02/09/2024 22:57

Why didn’t you have him vaccinated? Hardly costs anything and standard in many countries.

It’s £150 at Boots. That may be hardly anything to you, but perhaps don’t assume others are in that position.