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Original poster

Too big of an age gap?

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confusedthirtysomething2 · 02/09/2024 19:31

I mentioned to my sister and close friend that I dated a 32-year-old when I was 19/20 (we started dating a week before my twentieth birthday. We went on holiday together and stayed friends after we split up. I didn’t feel groomed or exploited but friend seemed to think I was. He was emotionally immature and I’ve always been an “old soul” apparently (whatever that means).

I personally think that if two people are over the age of consent and if your partner isn’t old enough to be your parent, it’s fine.

Friend and sister STRONGLY disagree. AIBU?

OP posts:
CoralReader · 02/09/2024 19:37

12 years isn’t much

Original poster
confusedthirtysomething2 · 02/09/2024 19:36

Just to add, I’m 35 now and I really couldn’t imagine saying a 23-year-old but I wouldn’t judge a friend for it.

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A1ia · 02/09/2024 19:34

If you were happy, then all is good. It sounds like it ran its natural course and you split up without too much trauma. All good to me....

But, then again, when I was 23, I was dating a man who was 51. When I was 25, I dated a man who was 55. When I was 26, I met a man who was then 49 and we have been together for 8 years - married with a child. Age is but a number.