To ask what would you do?

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autienotnaughty · 02/09/2024 16:35

Spoke to sil yesterday she brought up dn birthday which is next month she invited dc to the party (soft play) then back to theirs for a get together. All good. Kids are all 4-6 years old and get on well.

That night dh gets a text from one of his oldest friends they are doing a bbq at theirs to introduce their new baby. Same day same time, all dh friendship group are going plus partners. Dh wants to tell sil we can't make it to nephews party as we are already going to bbq.

I want to ask mil if she will take dc to the party while we go bbq. The we all meet back at sils. We would have around 3hours at bbq. Dh is worried we would look rude leaving early and bbq may not have started by that time.

Wwyd?

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Bearbookagainandagain · 02/09/2024 16:40

I would make it so your DC goes to the event that would be most valuable to them (if you can arrange it). So bbq for you, and birthday party for them, as you suggested.

ComtesseDeSpair · 02/09/2024 16:39

Will SIL mind you accepting the friends’ offer after you’d already accepted hers. If not, I think it’s fine for MIL to take the DC to that and you and DH go to the party. Otherwise, I don’t think there’s going to be any way in which this doesn’t look like you got a better offer and her feeling slighted.

When DH and I are double booked (which has been a lot this summer for some reason!) we often just split and go to one thing each individually. Depends on whether you’d prefer to be with your DC and DH’s family, or DH’s friends.

EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 02/09/2024 16:39

I think your plan is good it leaves nobody feeling like second best. Overall though you need to honour the commitment to SIL and not make her feel like there was a better offer

BunsenBurnerBaby · 02/09/2024 16:38

I would go with kids to the party. DH go to his friends.

Domino20 · 02/09/2024 16:38

Attend the first invitation accepted l.

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