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She should be provided with an alternative education

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mychilddeservesaneducation · 02/09/2024 16:24

(NC in case this is outing with links to previous posts).

DD is about to start year 10. Due to trauma relating to bullying, she's been refusing school for almost a year (she has panic attacks and can't cope with being in lessons / corridors / assembly halls etc). When this first started, we asked the school to consider allowing her to work in a small room or something but they refused. It's normal timetable or punishment for 'truancy' (even if she's in school they count it as 'internal truancy' if she doesn't turn up to a lesson, which happened frequently as she was hiding in the toilets crying as she was too scared to go in).

She's basically had no education since almost this time last year, except a few workbooks at home that we've bought. School won't set work if she's not in school, they won't offer small group teaching if she is in school and for the last term, we stopped sending her in as the stress and punishments were making her severe anxiety worse. Their line is she needs to be in school and in lessons and if she's not, it's an unauthorised absence. We've been threatened with court for her poor attendance.

We've had limited support from an attendance key-worker and have tried a phased return to school a few times but failed as she just panics. The GP hasn't been able to help much and CAHMS refused a referral request. We've paid for some private counselling but can't afford to continue.

After so long, should the school (or council?) not be offering an alternative education for her like online tutoring or pupil referral unit (not sure if this is appropriate to her needs)? The school will just not help at all. We cannot afford online schooling and DH and I have to work full time to pay the bills, so home Ed would be difficult too. I'm so stuck as to where to turn and any advice will be much appreciated.

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EndlessLight · 10/09/2024 17:16

@BackForABit threatening JR doesn’t always work, which is why I said if that doesn’t work, OP needs a pre-action letter.

For JR proceedings themselves, for failure to provide section 19 provision, the proceedings are in the child’s name. Therefore, DC can be assessed for legal aid in their own right.

That doesn’t cover the pre-action letter. For that, it is in the parent’s name, so they are only eligible for legal aid for the pre-action letter if the parents meet the financial eligibility criteria. SOSSEN’s pre-action letters are free of charge for failure to provide section 19 provision - although there is a wait.

BackForABit · 10/09/2024 15:59

EndlessLight · 10/09/2024 12:54

Going through the normal complaints process is not a reasonable remedy in this situation. It is far too slow. Chase the LA again. Email the Director of Children’s Services reminding them of their legal duty and the timescales. Inform them if they fail to provide provision ASAP, you will be forced to pursue judicial review proceedings. If that doesn’t work, you will need a pre-action letter. SOSSEN can help with this, but there is a wait so you may want to look elsewhere.

Be careful with SENDIASS. Some are good, but many are not. Many repeat the LA’s unlawful policies. They receive LA funding so aren’t completely independent and many will ultimately toe the party line.

This is all true. Our SENDIASS has been great but it is still clear how close they are to the LA.

I'd only add though that I've threatened JR several times and it's done nothing because LAs know lots of parents don't have the resources to instruct solicitors to fight JR. I've always been told you don't need legal representation for tribunal (done this myself several times) but you really do for JR??

EndlessLight · 10/09/2024 12:54

Going through the normal complaints process is not a reasonable remedy in this situation. It is far too slow. Chase the LA again. Email the Director of Children’s Services reminding them of their legal duty and the timescales. Inform them if they fail to provide provision ASAP, you will be forced to pursue judicial review proceedings. If that doesn’t work, you will need a pre-action letter. SOSSEN can help with this, but there is a wait so you may want to look elsewhere.

Be careful with SENDIASS. Some are good, but many are not. Many repeat the LA’s unlawful policies. They receive LA funding so aren’t completely independent and many will ultimately toe the party line.

BackForABit · 10/09/2024 10:33

mychilddeservesaneducation · 10/09/2024 10:24

I did that a week ago. Unfortunately I've had no response yet (besides an email to confirm they'd received it).

Sorry, I hadn't read the full thread. Nightmare- the no response thing happened to us with these letters too.

I think if you follow the LA complaint process (probably go to a "stage 2 complaint" now), eventually you can go to the Ombudsman who will investigate and potentially offer a small amount of compensation. Doesn't really help your DD though who's now missing her GCSE years.

As anxiety can be a disability and the school is failing to provide reasonable adjustments under Equality Act 2010 (such as access to smaller groups, relaxing of truancy policies, changing classes, providing work when she is out of school), could you complain to the school it's disability discrimination? It might actually be faster than attempting to go down SEN routes.

I'd speak to your local IASS (Google '[Your LA area] IASS') for free, impartial, legally trained advice.

mychilddeservesaneducation · 10/09/2024 10:24

BackForABit · 10/09/2024 08:22

I'd also strongly suggest sending in this letter ASAP to Director of Children’s Services at LA to cover yourself re prosecution and get ball rolling on alternative education: https://www.ipsea.org.uk/asking-the-local-authority-to-arrange-alternative-education-model-letter-22

The evidence can include: dates of GP visits, date CAMHS referral sent, details of the private counselling you sourced, a couple of specific incidences with your daughter at school, any pastoral meetings she has had at school.

I did that a week ago. Unfortunately I've had no response yet (besides an email to confirm they'd received it).

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rainbowstardrops · 10/09/2024 08:54

Yes. You've written exactly how I feel. Sadly at least two children from the same school have ended their lives in the past year.

Bloody hell!!! I'd be looking into taking this higher and higher if I were you!

BackForABit · 10/09/2024 08:22

I'd also strongly suggest sending in this letter ASAP to Director of Children’s Services at LA to cover yourself re prosecution and get ball rolling on alternative education: https://www.ipsea.org.uk/asking-the-local-authority-to-arrange-alternative-education-model-letter-22

The evidence can include: dates of GP visits, date CAMHS referral sent, details of the private counselling you sourced, a couple of specific incidences with your daughter at school, any pastoral meetings she has had at school.

Template letter 22: asking the local authority to arrange alternative education

These template letters can be used to help you make a request for alternative education

https://www.ipsea.org.uk/asking-the-local-authority-to-arrange-alternative-education-model-letter-22

BackForABit · 10/09/2024 07:53

Legally, yes they should provide suitable alternative education. Even with medical evidence they're not allowed to insist on things (like my LA did) like 'evidence myst come from a Tier 3 CAMHS consultant' [from a particular service that didn't exist yet!!!].

Honestly, is there any way you can home educate her? I know that's giving up, I know it's what these mainstream schools want and have been doing for decades, and I know that legally you don't have to do this, but in my experience it does often just make everyone happier and stabilise the situation.

mychilddeservesaneducation · 10/09/2024 04:43

Zanatdy · 06/09/2024 06:30

I feel for you and your DD. I doing the LEA will do anything. Could you put school fees for online schooling onto a zero interest credit card and pay off gradually over a number of years? Any family who could contribute. I know two families who did the online schooling as their DC couldn’t cope in mainstream. But it’s not cheap as you know. But I’d do all I could to try and pay for it

Unfortunately with our income, we wouldn't be eligible to get sufficient credit to put 2 years' worth of fees into a credit card. My current credit card has a limit of £1200 so wouldn't even pay for the first term!

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mychilddeservesaneducation · 10/09/2024 04:41

PoshTosh · 09/09/2024 23:59

Op any updates?

Nope! I had an email from the LA last Tuesday to confirm that my email (requesting alternative education under s19) had been received, but nothing since. I have tried to chase but was just told that my enquiry is in the system and will be dealt with in due course.

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PoshTosh · 09/09/2024 23:59

Op any updates?

Zanatdy · 06/09/2024 06:30

I feel for you and your DD. I doing the LEA will do anything. Could you put school fees for online schooling onto a zero interest credit card and pay off gradually over a number of years? Any family who could contribute. I know two families who did the online schooling as their DC couldn’t cope in mainstream. But it’s not cheap as you know. But I’d do all I could to try and pay for it

mychilddeservesaneducation · 06/09/2024 06:22

PoshTosh · 05/09/2024 20:09

OP I hope you and your DD have been alright today. Hopefully the LA will get back to you early next week.

Thank you ☺️.

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mychilddeservesaneducation · 06/09/2024 06:22

Phineyj · 05/09/2024 17:30

OP, just wondering, where is your daughter going during the day then if you're both at work? You say using online education's no good as she'd be home alone, but isn't she home alone mostly anyway, if she's been out of school for thr best part of a year?

Yes she's mainly been home alone for the last term. In the first months of this, we were dragging her to school on a part time basis to (unsuccessfully) try and get her in (which used up most of our annual leave for this year).
It's not ideal and I'm not keen for it to continue. So far, she's not had access to any proper learning as her school wouldn't allow her to access their work when she was at home. We've bought a few workbooks and she's used BBC Bitesize etc but it's not proper learning. We cannot afford a more structured online programme nor can we afford for one of us to give up work / reduce hours to be home to assist her with home Ed (she's not very motivated and needs encouragement to do the work).

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PoshTosh · 05/09/2024 20:09

OP I hope you and your DD have been alright today. Hopefully the LA will get back to you early next week.

ClockwiseHoneysuckle · 05/09/2024 17:58

GreenTeaLikesMe · 05/09/2024 03:25

There are over 800,000 children currently missing school for non medical reasons. There is zero hope of providing them all with the level of service expected on here because there are so many of them now and there are no resources to do it. Threatening judicial review all over the place seems to have become the knee jerk reaction for almost everything.

Agree. And a lot of the responses to threads like this are an indicator as to why we have councils literally going bankrupt - school transport for kids with tricky needs in rural areas has been cited as one of the biggest factors behind this.

The OP needs to facilitate some sort of schooling here - either move, or find a way to drive her daughter to another school (which might mean one parent has to talk with work and find a way to accommodate this), or find a way to finance online schooling (which might mean downsizing something, selling something, taking on extra weekend work). Her daughter needs to be in school of some kind, and it’s already been a year.

You really need to check your privilege. There are some breathtakingly airy assumptions here that people can just take time off work, that they all drive, that they can easily move, that they are not already working their socks off just to pay the bills and therefore can afford online schooling. Get realistic.

Bear in mind that elected governments have imposed duties on local authorities and schools that they simply are not complying with in OP's case. Why is it up to the parent who is already struggling with a traumatised child to do their jobs for them?

ClockwiseHoneysuckle · 05/09/2024 17:52

Blueybanditbingochilli · 03/09/2024 08:37

She’s anxious because she was bullied.

Well, yes. But do you imagine that is all there is to it? She is traumatised and having panic attacks. If anyone thinks she will just trip merrily into another similar school with no further anxiety, they are deceiving themselves. You can't assume that OP has the funds for private therapy or that that on its own without extra support in and out of school will be enough; nor can you assume that a doctor will be willing to prescribe medication or that it will be effective.

You refer to councils being inadequately funded, which is of course true, but the answer to that does not lie in assuming that parents can pick up the bills for them, particularly given that it is frequently the case that one or both is unable to work due to their child's needs. You also have to look at the bigger picture: is it better that we invest in the education of children like OP's now so that ultimately they can achieve qualifications and become productive members of society, or should we ignore them and commit to the far greater expense involved in having them dependent on benefits or in the criminal justice system for the rest of their lives?

ClockwiseHoneysuckle · 05/09/2024 17:42

Blueybanditbingochilli · 03/09/2024 07:28

And we wonder why councils are going bankrupt.

Are you seriously objecting to OP's local council being required to comply with the duties imposed on it by Parliament? Why should it be exempt?

Phineyj · 05/09/2024 17:41

@Blueybanditbingochilli I hope that you are not suggesting that there is anything wrong with children having their education and health needs met.

A lot of children with EHCP are autistic and the employment rate of autistic adults has been rather low historically. That is not a good thing for anyone, not least the taxpayer!

EndlessLight · 05/09/2024 17:34

EHCPs are Education, Health and Care Plans. They are legal documents that set out a child’s special educational needs as well as their social care and health care needs, the provision they reasonably require to meet those needs and the type of placement and name of placement they will attend (if they are to be registered at one).

It isn’t as simple as 1.5 pupils in every classroom have an EHCP. The picture is far more nuanced than that.

There are 25135 schools and colleges in England. 1850 of them do not have any pupils with EHCPs in the whole school.

9.1% of children and young people with EHCPs have EOTAS/EOTIS, are EHE, or are not registered at a school for another reason and 32.3% are in a SS.

In state mainstream primary schools, the percentage with EHCPs is 2.5%. In state mainstream secondary schools, the percentage with EHCPs is 2.4%.

Phineyj · 05/09/2024 17:30

OP, just wondering, where is your daughter going during the day then if you're both at work? You say using online education's no good as she'd be home alone, but isn't she home alone mostly anyway, if she's been out of school for thr best part of a year?

Phineyj · 05/09/2024 17:22

So 95% of children in average UK classrooms don't have educational or health needs outside the norm*. At least, according to the official statistics.

*It's probably higher than that as the small number of special schools tend to be accessed only with an EHCP that names them.

Blueybanditbingochilli · 05/09/2024 17:20

Phineyj · 05/09/2024 17:18

You don't need to be "severely disabled" to have an EHCP. They're for DC with educational or health needs outside the norm.

This might boggle your mind but I teach an academic subject that many people consider quite challenging and I have both GCSE and A-level students with EHCPs. And they will get good grades. As their needs are met.

Not perhaps that relevant to the subject of the thread, although the research on EBSA does show the majority of children in that position have un-met SEN needs.

What are the EHCPs for?

Phineyj · 05/09/2024 17:18

You don't need to be "severely disabled" to have an EHCP. They're for DC with educational or health needs outside the norm.

This might boggle your mind but I teach an academic subject that many people consider quite challenging and I have both GCSE and A-level students with EHCPs. And they will get good grades. As their needs are met.

Not perhaps that relevant to the subject of the thread, although the research on EBSA does show the majority of children in that position have un-met SEN needs.

Blueybanditbingochilli · 05/09/2024 16:12

Phineyj · 05/09/2024 14:27

The number of students with an EHCP is teeny. Less than 5%. Yes numbers of EHCPs have increased but overall something like 4% of the school population had them 10 years ago and now it's 5%.

@endless has the exact figures I'm sure.

Schools do NOT have a deluge of students with EHCP.

Less than 5% isn’t ‘teeny’. It’s slightly more than half a million children, or 1.5 in every classroom. How do we have enough severely disabled children to fill 1,000 schools? What is going on?

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