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To not go to bed when OH suggested/told me to!

29 replies

Enough999 · 02/09/2024 07:49

Does your OH tell you when to go to bed?

If they do, is it reasonable that they get angry, swear at you, and tell you are childish when you don't comply?

Have other issues, another example, was chopping veg, told, by OH, from sofa, that I wasn't doing it correctly. I said gently...I'm fine thanks, they continued...I had to repeat myself at least three times, that I knew how to chop x, but thanks. Again, told I was unreasonable.

Feeling done, again, in this relationship.

OP posts:
Lacdulancelot · 02/09/2024 07:57

He’s not in charge.
Go to bed when you want, preferably without him.

ProfessionalTeaDrinker · 02/09/2024 07:57

Remind me I've been moaning I'm tired and should probably go up to bed before I find myself watching rubbish til 1am? Yes. Shout and swear at me for choosing not to? No.
He does backseat cook sometimes and gets swiftly told to back off unless he'd like to do it himself or find the cooking tools shoved somewhere painful.....I'm not usually my best self when meal prepping 😂

Georgyporky · 02/09/2024 07:53

YABU for putting up with this. Get rid of him.

Chocolateorange22 · 02/09/2024 07:53

DH might gently tell me the time at say 11pm if I've lost track of it reading a book or whatever and have an early start the next day (11pm is late for me). He would never demand I went to bed or shout/control me about it.

He would also never tell me how to chop veg. He'd be scared that he'd be told to do it himself then would have to cook it. He's just happy to be fed, how it's prepared he wouldn't care less. I'm also left handed so it looks odd to the majority of the population anyway.

I'm afraid your relationship sounds extremely controlling