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to think all baby boys can’t be this way

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avocadotoastt · 01/09/2024 20:53

My DS has started crawling and can stand up
every single day without fail he either will fall back on his head, bounce his head on the wall or even sometimes launch himself off furniture. Obviously I try my hardest to prevent this but even laying him on the carpet for a few minutes results in injury. I know boys are more adventurous but it seems constant and it’s impossible to get anything done?

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Summertimer · 01/09/2024 22:14

poptake · 01/09/2024 22:06

You're just looking for differences. You could have 3 daughters and they'd all be wildly different and you wouldn't be able to nitpick about their sex. Please don't think any specific thing he does differently to your daughters is because he's a boy unless it is regarding his actual sex based differences. I have boys and they weren't especially adventurous, couldn't even get my youngest to sit up until he was 10 months old distracted with food. Though I've no doubt some hilarious veteran will tell me "oh yes boys are lazy" 🙄

It's personality. Not sex.

I get so annoyed with people saying that it’s laziness that’s the reason for anything like this. My cautious DC would not let go of the furniture. It was like a fingertip contact. HV accurately described him as a ‘careful little chap’. Also, he wanted to learn academic things not physical milestones. Still not sporty

CoffeeLover90 · 01/09/2024 22:14

Bit of a hard time being given but with only experiencing daughters, I can understand why you'd think this is a boy thing, especially with comments made by a lot of people (health professionals included)
My DS was a lot like you describe, couldn't go for a wee without returning to injury occurred or about to occur. Easier now he's older and I can explain possible outcomes.
But at the time, health visitor said boys advance sooner when it came to physical activity making it easier for them to have accidents. This after he ran into walls multiple times at 9 months old, among other things.
But the more parents I spoke to, I found that girls did this too. It's not a gender thing.
Hopefully it dies off soon.
I'm a girl BTW and at the age I am, you wouldn't believe the injuries and accidents I've had 😂

avocadotoastt · 01/09/2024 22:13

avocadotoastt · 01/09/2024 22:13

his 5 months old my daughter couldn’t crawl till 9. yes am possibly looking for differences but I never had any of this with her. this boys on a mission to keep me on my toes

9 months that is, not 9 years old

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avocadotoastt · 01/09/2024 22:13

poptake · 01/09/2024 22:06

You're just looking for differences. You could have 3 daughters and they'd all be wildly different and you wouldn't be able to nitpick about their sex. Please don't think any specific thing he does differently to your daughters is because he's a boy unless it is regarding his actual sex based differences. I have boys and they weren't especially adventurous, couldn't even get my youngest to sit up until he was 10 months old distracted with food. Though I've no doubt some hilarious veteran will tell me "oh yes boys are lazy" 🙄

It's personality. Not sex.

his 5 months old my daughter couldn’t crawl till 9. yes am possibly looking for differences but I never had any of this with her. this boys on a mission to keep me on my toes

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poptake · 01/09/2024 22:06

You're just looking for differences. You could have 3 daughters and they'd all be wildly different and you wouldn't be able to nitpick about their sex. Please don't think any specific thing he does differently to your daughters is because he's a boy unless it is regarding his actual sex based differences. I have boys and they weren't especially adventurous, couldn't even get my youngest to sit up until he was 10 months old distracted with food. Though I've no doubt some hilarious veteran will tell me "oh yes boys are lazy" 🙄

It's personality. Not sex.

Summertimer · 01/09/2024 22:06

My boy was always a super cautious child. As an adult teen, he’s attending uni health and safety compulsory online courses in preparation for heading off. I keep hearing “Well, obviously” “Who would do that?” and so on. It’s not gender based.

Sorry not to be able to offer any advice though OP

Strawberrycheesecake7 · 01/09/2024 22:05

My son did this for a while but eventually figured out it hurt and he didn’t like it. Now he usually lowers himself to the ground gently. Still has quite regular accidents when he gets carried away but it’s no longer every day.

Portfun24 · 01/09/2024 22:05

My son was like this. He walked at 9 months and I nearly lost the plot because from then on he was trying to climb on everything, I couldn't take my eyes off him for two seconds. He was in his cot at 7 months for a nap and I heard a thud and him screaming, ran upstairs and he had climbed out his cot and fell! The girls weren't like it but he was very determined and strong.

Thumberline · 01/09/2024 22:02

My second daughter was just like this. Pulling up to stand (and toppling over often with what ever she used on top of her) at six months. First steps at 8 months and now at 13 months she won’t go downstairs backwards because that’s for babies, she has to walk down them. Some people are super determined and my daughter is one of them.

avocadotoastt · 01/09/2024 22:01

IMBCRound2 · 01/09/2024 21:23

Boys are more adventurous- I know I’m pregnant and hormonal but I am actually crying im so livid at that sentence . What utter nonsense.

im also exhausted so please feel free to help me watch my girl so you know what terrifyingly adventurous looks . Absolutely terrifying.

are you actually crying? my daughter is currently refusing to go to bed and running wild so trust me I’m aware of how terrifyingly adventurous girls are! I do hope you are able to somewhat relax/rest as I know how hard pregnancy is whilst looking after your other child/children.

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MissScarletInTheBallroom · 01/09/2024 22:01

Nothing to do with being a boy. My daughter is much more boisterous than my son was at the same age.

tillylula · 01/09/2024 21:57

My DD1 was like this, DD2 not so much, I have a 1yo boy and he's worse than DD1

Ozanj · 01/09/2024 21:55

avocadotoastt · 01/09/2024 20:53

My DS has started crawling and can stand up
every single day without fail he either will fall back on his head, bounce his head on the wall or even sometimes launch himself off furniture. Obviously I try my hardest to prevent this but even laying him on the carpet for a few minutes results in injury. I know boys are more adventurous but it seems constant and it’s impossible to get anything done?

It’s normal. DS wasn’t even 3 months old when he army shuffled himself off the bed

Hummusanddipdip · 01/09/2024 21:54

Both my boys do this and both my mum and dh mum say they get it from me. Dh was the most placid little baby. I climbed EVERYTHING and fell off lots.

Definitely not a boy thing, just a baby thing

avocadotoastt · 01/09/2024 21:52

but basically I just wondered if it was normal behaviour or something I should worry about

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avocadotoastt · 01/09/2024 21:51

CandyLeBonBon · 01/09/2024 21:50

But boys aren't automatically more adventurous just because they're boys op.

There's some schools of thought that they get treated differently BECAUSE they're boys (and girls are told to 'be careful' etc because they're girls). It's not ALL boys who are like that. The same as not ALL girls are more careful and cautious.

I know they’re not, I just meant when ive told friends about DS falling they put it down to “boys being more adventurous and wild” I am very aware of boys and girl actions. As I said it’s come across wrong

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CandyLeBonBon · 01/09/2024 21:50

avocadotoastt · 01/09/2024 21:46

I should have added ‘boys are more adventurous’ I have daughters too and they’re wild I promise I didn’t mean it how it’s been taken

But boys aren't automatically more adventurous just because they're boys op.

There's some schools of thought that they get treated differently BECAUSE they're boys (and girls are told to 'be careful' etc because they're girls). It's not ALL boys who are like that. The same as not ALL girls are more careful and cautious.

CandyLeBonBon · 01/09/2024 21:47

You're right, not all baby boys are like that. Some are, some aren't. Same as some baby girls. It's just babies, who have different personalities/temperaments.

avocadotoastt · 01/09/2024 21:46

I should have added ‘boys are more adventurous’ I have daughters too and they’re wild I promise I didn’t mean it how it’s been taken

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Boidont · 01/09/2024 21:46

I too have a chaos baby. Playpen was the best decision ever. (Although he has broke out of it once and worked out he can bounce against it to make it move closer to the curtains. 🙃)

Dotto · 01/09/2024 21:44

Boys are more adventurous = sexist bullshit

FuzzyDiva · 01/09/2024 21:44

I know boys are more adventurous

I don’t think this is true.

NeverDropYourMooncup · 01/09/2024 21:42

Maybe I should introduce you to DD2.

She didn't hit her head much, mainly because I was always poised like a coiled spring to catch it and then I taught her how to fall without breaking anything.

Just as well, really, thinking back to the rollerskating down the big slop with a 3 foot drop, the 'I can ride without stabilisers, take them off!', the tree climbing, the 'I'll get on my scooter and hold my dad's dog on the lead and he'll pull me along down the road' (to be fair, yes, yes he did - just not on the scooter after the first ten feet), the climbing frame at school, the footballer knee slides across the quiet section of Sainsbury's - stop, look, listen and think applied to making sure there were no pensioners in the cat food corner in her mind - and many, many more incidences.

I used to get told everytime she gained another bruise at nursery/afterschool club with an 'And we're really sorry, but we saw another bruise as well, so we've had to record that, too' - and then there were the A&E visits where I'd say 'Well, how about you tell the doctor why we're here today?' and the time when she turned but left her kneecap behind...repeated as an adult where she had to be carried up a ladder and two flights of stairs over a firefighter's shoulder because she did it in the bar basement where she worked.

If I'd given her a padded cell, she'd have found some velcro and tried to Bar-Fly herself to the walls.

Nothing to do with sex or gender. Some kids are just wholeheartedly enthusiastic about hurling themselves into things despite the fundamental laws of gravity. You just need quick reactions, a full first aid kit and the realisation that you'll be watching them through your fingers when you aren't actively cringing or waiting for yet another thud.

midgetastic · 01/09/2024 21:39

DD - spent so many hours in a and e with her - continued till she was about 8 or 9

LeafHunter · 01/09/2024 21:36

Very normal. I talk about it as the stage when DC we’re attempting to kill themselves multiple times per day.