to think all baby boys can’t be this way

I had one boy and one girl both very cautious types.

The only injury either ever had was a scraped nose at 14-15 mths when they face planted when first learning to walk. They made very sure to be cautious not to do THAT again!

Oh and DD hurled herself down three stairs in protest at the arrival home of her baby brother.

Other than that - nothing.

TBH I used to see videos of tiny babies climbing in and out of cots and over stair gates and wish my two were a bit more ... adventurous 🤣

No, my daughter was as you describe. Nephew was born clutching a health and safety manual.

I’ve seen those baby backpacks with the soft angel halo thing? Might help? My little boy wasn’t like this at all; he’s always been quite cautious.

A play pen is ideal and the only way I could get things done with a little one. They're a godsend

I had B/G twins so got to witness the different ways people reacted to their very ordinary milestones. ‘Oh he’s a brave little lad’ to him and ‘Careful sweetheart’ to her.
OP sorry you’re getting a hard time but maybe try and gently stop your friends making these comments. He’s learning and every day will balance his wobbly little body better.

No, not all boys do that. Not all girls do that either. Some babies struggle more with getting their motor skills under control. Bizarrely the age of the baby seems to be a massive factor, under 3 and the risk of accidents skyrocket. For some weird reason it decreases with age, apparently something to do with having learned from all the bumps they have themselves before and their growing control over their fine and gross motor skills. But in other times you get the really weird ones who turn into adults like me that still banging into every solid surface around them. Your sex has absolutely no basis on any of it though.

OP my first baby I coined a “hazard hunter” constantly had a spilt lip, no fear or self preservation skills at all. He’s fine now he’s 5. He’s still quite adventurous but he does have some risk assessment abilities. I used to take several “accident forms” for accidents he had at home and resulting bruises to his childminder each week sure that the next would result in a social services referral.

My second, total opposite, tells me not to drive the car too fast and obviously he had bumps but he was not as accident prone as no.1. Accident forms very rare.

Boys are not more adventurous, let’s just bin that narrative.
Babies learning to crawl and pull up will fall over. It’s not a boy thing.

I had very active boys who got lots of bumps! The good news is that they're both easy teens, still active and sporty but not difficult like some teens. Hang in there OP!

Totally normal and unavoidable

Get a playpen

My ds literally got a bump note most days at nursery. He's broken his wrist twice. Has multiple scars. Knocked a tooth out and bent (but thankfully didn't lose) two of his adult teeth.

He's nine now and I would say it's been two years since our last hospital visit so I'm hoping he's improved.

My two dd never had a broken bone or significant injury. Just the occasional scraped knee/elbow.

Yup, mines been in three times this year… needed a joint popped back in, a cast, one was just a sprain. We managed to get through three pairs of leggings the other week too. Also she likes collecting random shit in her pockets which is fun when I forget to empty them and we have mud and twigs all over the wash.

It’s really not just boys OP, it’s kids.

I have two boys. One, we referred to as “the walking bruise” for a short period. He basically would pull himself up and then just launch into a running fall until something (sofa hopefully, but sometimes table or floor) would stop him. Terrifying time where I spent loads of time outdoors or in soft play so he could get the hang of it without too much damage.
Second boy learnt to pull himself up, let go, cruise like a normal child and, apart from a couple of normal bumps, was never a maniac like the first one.
So my only suggestion is to just take him places where he can practice moving without too many hard objects around.

his 5 months old my daughter couldn’t crawl till 9. yes am possibly looking for differences but I never had any of this with her. this boys on a mission to keep me on my toes

If he's only 5 months old and regularly "launching himself" to injury perhaps you need to look at how you are caring for him. Because no that isn't normal and more likely a reflection of how you are taking care of a child rather than a baby with supercharged male hormones you are ill prepared to manage due to being used to dainty female babies.

@NeverDropYourMooncup, what a fabulous post! You really made me laugh (and wince in equal measure). I love sparky kids - she sounds brilliant, and you sound like a great mum!

My ds was like that, I left him on the floor at 6 months with toys while I nipped to the downstairs loo, came back, he wasn't there, he had decided to commando crawl under the dining table, I didn't even know he could crawl. Then there was trying to climb over the stairgate, body surfing down the stairs for fun, hanging off his bed trying to do a handstand. Invest in a playpen or as I did the biggest travel cot you can find to put him in if you need the loo or change the washing over, at night I just used to dump all the toys in it to tidy up. Mine worked out how to unfasten all the child locks I had put on the kitchen units, he used to empty the saucepan cupboard & then try to climb in it. Thankfully once you can reason with then it does ease off.

I think @avocadotoastt is actually worried about her child's level of activity, rather than 'boys be boys'.

@avocadotoastt, he does sound unusually lively! I'd certainly have a chat with your HV. There's no 'standard', your DS does sound a little beyond though, so I'd certainly have a chat, and just be aware.

It seems that you are though!

OP stop arguing with everyone and accept that you made a stupid sexist comment. He isn’t more adventurous than your daughter because he is a boy. He is because he is himself. Get a playpen, do more baby proofing and please don’t turn into one of those “boys will be boys” mothers.

My boys are like this, they’re adventurous! The eldest has improved as he’s got older though (he’s nearly 4 now), at one point I was having to sign an accident form every time I picked him up from nursery and I once had to sign 3 in one day (it wasn’t the nursery’s fault) but he’s definitely improved now. My youngest is 18 months and he’s a climber so he has his fair share of accidents too.

It’s normal and it’s got nothing to do with the sex of your child.

My friend had girl twins who were walking at 9 months and a boy who didn't walk til he was 15 months. According to my mother, I was an early walker. My brother was not.

It’s normal. Get a playpen to keep him safe.

Definitely teared up (admittedly I cry at everything this pregnancy) - we’re a house of adventurous women/girls so I think it went straight to the core identity .

shes three and convinced she’s going to the next olympics so thankfully spent the entire day practicing while I rested - although rested is a loose term when she’s doing backflips off the back of the sofa 😂 (I’m ex circus so she’s reasonably safe and I have only my own dna to blame but honestly … I thought I had a few years before the flips from heights)

My boy and girl were both walking at 9 months. Some babies get bored being babies really quickly.