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DM booked last minute holiday when DC2 due

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Coffeekitten · 01/09/2024 15:49

DC2 is due in 2 weeks time (planned section). DM was insistent on having DC1 when I am in hospital. She has sprung it on me today that her and DSF have decided to book a last minute holiday for that week so we need to make alternative arrangements.

We don’t have any other family locally that can help but thankfully my best friend has stepped in and will look after DC1 for a couple of days.

I am not entitled and do not expect anything from her (quite the opposite, she is incredibly selfish and hard work so I try keep her at arms length) but to push to have DC1 then let us down with such short notice and be so blasè about it has really annoyed me. AIBU?

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LissyG · 01/09/2024 16:05

Wow. Even if she wasn't minding your other DC you'd think she would want to be around when her DD was having a baby. Is there a backstory here...eg have you set rules that no one is to see baby for x amount of days, no visitors etc...some people see their arse over rules being imposed on them.

Ponoka7 · 01/09/2024 15:55

Don't rely on her again. This isn't normal behavior of any mother. Most would want to be around when their DD is having abdominal surgery, let alone grandchildren thrown in. Go very, very low contact and when time has passed and you have recovered from the birth, tell her straight if she challenges you on that.

stormywhethers321 · 01/09/2024 15:51

YANBU

It's one thing to book a holiday when no plans are in place. But she offered, unasked, to help you and she should have honored that commitment.

Sirzy · 01/09/2024 15:50

Because she had offered to do childcare it was wrong of her to then turn around at the last minute and say no.

whitebreadjamsandwich · 01/09/2024 15:50

That's really awful on her to change her mind at the last minute - do you think your stepdad has done this on purpose? Does your mum have form for being a twat?