Currently staying with in laws. My DD is 3, and sees the extended family rarely. Whenever she sees them, they try to force her to hug them which she doesn’t want to do. They give her gifts they’ve bought her, then pretty much ignore her for the entirety of the visit other than to admonish her for not giving hugs or saying thank you for things enough.
The reason she doesn’t have a good relationship with them is because they make zero effort with her - never play with her, give her attention or read to her. So I’m not surprised she feels the way she does (she adores my parents who make the effort to spend time with her on the rare occasion they see her).
I gently try to encourage DD to be kind to them, but she’s quite resistant. I can see them both giving each other looks whenever DD refuses to hug them.
What else can I do?