I have a close group of friends that I have known for about two years with whom I go out around twice a week. I made these friends after I was widowed during COVID and discovered that all my previous friends were just work colleagues who dropped me like a hot brick.
I am shortly going into hospital to have necessary and relatively major surgery. I’ll be in hospital for about a week, and then recuperating at home alone for about six weeks if all goes well.
i know my friends will be very keen to visit, bring flowers, bake cakes, bring casseroles and no end of helpful things. But I just can’t face it.
I absolutely hate seeing people when I don’t feel my best. I find it so draining. Even if I’m just having a bad day, I’m the type to go away on my own and just be by myself for a while. I’m really beginning to feel quite panicked at the thought of a stream of well wishers trooping through my bedroom plumping and fussing. Am I being unreasonable to ask them to check in by phone or text instead?