To think this is more than enough for DD7's birthday?

At this age they just love opening stuff. It doesn’t matter if it’s flashy or expensive
This is they type of attitude that is wrecking the environment, ours were bought up to appreciate things not just want a pile of tat .

My daughter turns 5 this week. I’ve got her a Barbie ambulance -£25 in the Amazon prime day, 3 dress up outfits -£7 from Vinted and a PJ masks tower and characters £10 from Vinted.
she’s having a soft play party with 10 friends and family round after.
it’s more than enough and even though we could spend more I don’t feel that she needs it.

At this age they just love opening stuff. It doesn’t matter if it’s flashy or expensive.

DS is getting a new tablet for his 6th birthday (we have an old Amazon Fire on it’s last legs so we’ve gone for something with a higher spec and a stylus as he loves art/drawing and it will work as a brilliant distraction for him on days out etc. as he gets sensory overwhelm - hopefully it will save us having paper EVERYWHERE too!). However, despite it being an expensive present, I’m worried it will be a bit underwhelming as he won’t have lots of different things to open!

Good grief that seems like a huge amount.. we usually buy 2 presents max, about £5-10 each . When you add in all the crap from parties and relatives it's still a huge pile.

It's no one else's business. I spend quite a lot on birthdays and Christmases but I don't have any opinion on those that spend less. It's none of my business, none of anyone else's business what I spend, etc.

Nothing wrong with the amount you are spending but that’s quite a lot of things. I would probably buy less items but more expensive things. It obviously depends on what you and your daughter want but if it was me I would probably be looking to just get 2 or 3 items.

You know it's plenty.

You don't approve of your friend's parenting style (me neither). Perhaps she has picked up on this. It's not nice to feel judged.

My child doesn't have a device and she's six. I'm internally judgy about my friends kids who have had them for years. I'm sure they have opinions about my parenting but they haven't shared with me or if they have I paid no attention.

Just use your own judgement.

YANBU and it’s none of her business anyway . Personally we’ve always done a few gifts only for birthdays so1 expensive and 2 less so expensive . They don’t need a pile to open , it’s not Christmas .

She's judging you for not spending enough, am I right? Or is she judging you for the specific type of presents you are buying - too much plastic, sort of thing?

Seems perfectly appropriate to me what you have got. Ignore your "friend"...

That's fine.
About twice the amount I usually spend.
Mostly we did the "one main present plus a few small novelties" but that's because of what my daughter wanted at the time.
During the lockdown there wasn't much my daughter specifically wanted so I got lots of novelty things like the type of things you'd get in a Christmas stocking - I even made a '"birthday stocking" (it was lockdown.... people did weird stuff 😂).
She was perfectly happy with her stash of Pokémon cards and Hot Wheels cars and whatnot.
It's about what YOUR child would get enjoyment out of. Ignore your friend.

Firstly, it's really rude of your friend to criticize what you're planning (at all but especially if she isn't completely certain of your finances - £70 is a lot of money on top of a party). You don't need anyone else to approve your presents as long as you and your daughter are happy. But in case you're interested in my opinion, yes of course what you have got is completely fine, you've clearly put thought into what she will enjoy.
I got a £7 plastic playset for my similar aged son last year along with some other stuff and he has played with it loads more than the more expensive Lego set he also got. I also got a card game from a charity shop which I happened to see and knew he'd love and that has been very popular - he doesn't care how much it was.
I hope she has a lovely birthday.

Why are you giving so much credence to what your friend is saying?

I despair for the environment sometimes 😥

It’s perfectly ok to get what you can afford and manage your child’s expectations so they are happy with it. From your post, it sounds like you do that so I don’t see the issue.

I just feel like the friend was judging me a LOT and mentioned how her kids always got new electronics. She has an 7 year old and a 10 year old and her 7 year old is lovely but her 10 year old is completely spoiled. She is allowed every junk food and every plastic toy she asks for and her ipad is always breaking so she gets new ones. I just think that is ridiculous because my daughter's ipad has lasted 3 years so far and is still in good condition. I just feel guilty that I'm not spending enough on my daughter now.

Lol, she's not the only one judging is she?

This is your child, you're her parent so buy her what you want.

You don't need our approval or your friend's.

If you think it’s ridiculous and her kids are spoiled, why let yourself feel guilty? Make your own mind up and use common sense.