Would you go nc with your parents for this

I would go no contact but Od been out from under my parents roof for 4 years by the time I was your age Move out

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but she has lots of free time though because she only goes out to work and occasionally gym. So that would be really cutting her nose off to spite her face wouldn’t it?

Yeah my core is shaken by people responding so nonchalantly. Cut off parents permanently and entirely for saying do more around the house on your day off. Surely fucking not 😂

She did say “ I am looking forward to an extra down day at home doing exactly what my dad does”

Ask yourself why they don't want you hanging around ? Are you mardy or hard work? Or do you expect them to make your lunch and entertain you ? Time to adult and move out.

OP didn’t say how she was going to spend her extra days off! She could be off out all day for all we know.
For what it’s worth, OP, I feel there’s a back story here and initially thought your parents’ reaction was odd - it isn’t their business even if you still live with them. You’re an adult.
I was adopted and brought up in a dysfunctional family - even in my 30s (saving up for my own place), I wasn’t allowed both front door keys while my brother was (I’m not even someone who goes out drinking etc and then waking everyone up coming in, which would be an understandable reason for not “allowing” me to let myself in).
Anyhoo, I told my mum a couple of years ago that I was thinking of looking for a job in a new area and moving (my job had unstable hours which is never a good thing) - to which she replied that she thought I was “being disgusting” because my boss had been very good to me for years. That was true, but she seemed to think that made me an indentured slave to the company and I wasn’t allowed to move on.
Joke’s on her, though, cos we got made redundant not long after, and I moved/got another job anyway.

OP can do what she likes (lounging around at home) when she has her OWN house... her parents house that they earned over a lifetime is where they get to relax.

No one is entitled to do anything... I would love to jet set, I can't but thats not my parents burden to support. If my parents where kind enough to help I would not moan its not enough.

I presume that your parents have their own routine that they like and are comfortable with. Regardless of whether you think it's just pottering and tv watching, it's what they enjoy doing. Having you at home an extra day a week will disrupt that routine and possibly make them feel uncomfortable in their own home.
It may also have something to do with having to cope with your melodramatic behaviour for an extra day a week, and the impact that has on them, if this post is reflective of your behaviour in real life!
I'd take the hint that it's time to move out.

Your being very unreasonable to go NC because they have said they like their space. Your dad sounds like he was being a bit OTT but he's at retirement and probably didn't picture it sharing majority of the time with you.

I also don't see why you need to be around a house all weekend and every evening. There are plenty of things to do which don't involve alcohol, many many sports, clubs, board game evenings, book clubs etc. Maybe you should use your extra day off to find a hobby or start socialising a bit more.

You also don't do the same hours if compressed usually you do an extra few hours a day for the compression.

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You could pick up a second job on your day off, surely. Then you'll be out of the way AND be able to save quicker for a place of your own.

Win win.

The parent/child dynamic on here is absolutely mental to me.

I'm 37 and my mum would take me back just now without a second thought.

My own children are welcome in the family house forever. Any age. Any time. It's their house.

23 is still very young! I have cousins older who still live at home. And they are welcomed there...because you know...its their house 🤷‍♀️

What would you being at home another day entail?

I barely see mine when they are here!

No I wouldn't go NC but I can understand why you're upset, I would be too.

I'm sure the reality of it will really be a lot less "disruptive" than they think. You sleep in a bit, then maybe get up and do some chores or errands, then even if you're there in the evenings that's the same as normal, surely?

Don't you have any friends to go out with?

Do you contribute to looking after the house / chores at all? It sounds like they’re irritated about something and I’d guess if you’re not pulling your weight around the house, they’re rolling their eyes cos they’ve got another day of clearing up around you.

You do appear to have an entitled view … that your dad puts his feet up cos he’s retired therefore you should do the same. You are 23! Hes likely done his time working for the past 45 years and it’s his time to chill out a bit with your mum. Maybe try having a reasonable discussion to understand what is fuelling this instead of going NC. Your reaction is quite telling.

This ☝️ You need to be starting your own life. Why on earth would you cut your parents out if your life because you disagree? 🙄 Also, how do you go nc when you are living in their house? 😂🤣

I mean they sound batshit but I wouldn’t go NC. Just make moving out a priority.

Why don't you move out into a house share?

This!

I'd move out. It would take no time at all for them to be begging you to come visit. Then you make your choice. You don't have enough free time to come visit.

whilst you will always be your parents child, you are an adult. And I know how difficult it is for 20/30 somethings to afford to rent or buy so could you afford a house share? I’m not sure how much rent you pay your parents but I get that you feel that you are entitled to be there as it is your home too but they own it so at the end of the day they call the shots. I think you are overreacting about going NC regardless of where you live.

YABU, you need to move out. Considering going nc with them over this is extremely dramatic.

Rather than compressed hours your parents are seeing this as an extra day off. I suspect if you explained that you were going to do something with the time such as take up or progress a hobby, volunteer, actually do something productive then they wouldn't mind but it sounds as though you will be lolling around their home and that can be annoying.
Maybe use the time to look for a new place to stay and thank them for supporting you thus far ?

Way over the top on your part. Until I read that last bit I thought you were an adult.... living an independent life.

You live in their house! Of course it impacts them - what if they expected to have the house free to host a regular meeting, or the fact that you'll be eating their food, because you're at home?

Please stop being such a brat or I expect you'll regret it when you grow up.

You have two options ignore what they have said and just spend the day in your room but you could maybe help in the house by say putting the washing on if you don't help already. The other option is move out.