Would you go nc with your parents for this

You sound incredibly immature. I'd probably have been wound up by my Dad dictating how I spent my time at 23, but you're free to move out. The immature comment is down to the threat of going NC. NC is when your parents have a long pattern of toxic and abusive behaviour, not just because they've told you off for hanging around the house on your day off.

I don't drink so have nowhere to go in the evenings

Maybe you don't express yourself very well OP, but it sounds to me like what they're saying is they don't want you, at 23, acting like you're 40 odd years older, like your Dad.

Hanging around at home when you're retired isn't the same as spending three days a week hanging around when you're early twenties.

Parents obviously haven't hit the right spot with how they've expressed themselves either, but to say you'd limit contact with them in the future, because of this, is very juvenile.

Are you serious they are awful 😖?..why ?. No they aren't. A 23 Yr old doesn't need to be telling her Dad what he can do in HIS house. I agree with them 100 %. She's 23 not 3. I think your remark is awful. She sounds about 13.

She's 23 - maybe she is unwanted.

Most parents want their adult children to move out and get on with their lives, not hang about the house all the time.

Definitely x

Correct. Spoilt brat me thinks 🤔 x

Exactly. They don't want her hanging around at home. Don't blame them. Why do adult kids think they can try rule their parents is ridiculous. You need to be grateful. I think 🤔 x

Parent and child are both in the wrong. Everyone needs to grow up, or may be there is more to the story then in the OP?

23 is not too old to be at home with todays economy. She’s working full time so she’s doing better than most. So what if she has an extra day off and chooses to spend it relaxing? Seems like a lot of posters here are a little bit jealous of the younger generation and new ways of working open to them nowadays. But NC over this is stupid; NC should not be trivialised.

no one is saying that parents should drop everything for their kids, but starting to tap your watch when kids turn 18 is nasty and seems to be a uniquely English thing.

Seems a bit unfair they don’t want you around! Ask why?!

I totally get what your parents are saying, they just want to potter about and do their own thing without having someone else there. It’s just about having your own space to be yourself.
Do you give them time alone when you’re not working, you say you don’t get out much, do they have time alone to watch tv and chat without having to entertain a third party all the time.
You need to either attempt to make yourself more self contained so you’re not under their feet all the time or find a place of your own.
This does not mean by the way that they don’t love you or care about you it’s just a fact of life as folk grow older they have their own pace of life.
It’s very childish to suggest going no contact over such a trivial thing, in that respect you really do need to grow up.

Exactly 💯 %. Nothing to do with anyone but him. If my kids didn't like it they could go live elsewhere. X

Ouch. I feel sorry for you. How to make your child feel unwanted. :-(

Prioritise moving out. Some people love having their adult kids living at home and some people find it restrictive and uncomfortable. Once you've living completely independently and not relying on them for housing, financial/emotional support etc it's going to be a lot clearer whether you have a healthy relationship or not.

Going by their reaction, it sounds like your parents want their space and probably feel it’s time for you to move out. Going nc is extreme and childish.

I think you come across as pretty entitled OP. Do you pay fair rent? If you do then you could prob feel a bit miffed at their reaction (but going nc?!). If you don’t pay fair rent then you have no leg to stand on and should wind your neck in and move into a flat share with people your own age.

Time to move out. I do think you should have spoken to them about it as being in their house an extra day affects them.

Being a parent doesn't entitle you to be a parent for the rest of your child's life if you aren't prepared to sacrifice anything for your child. Being a parent is a privilege - I don't feel your parents should have that privilege, after treating you like that. I'm speaking as someone who was mentally abused by her parents and eventually stood up to them. I am therefore able to empathise with you. I don't think most commentators in here understand the severity of how your parents treated you.

Oh for goodness sake. They are perfectly happy for her to live with them; they are perfectly happy for her to spend every weekend and evening with them; they simply don't want her hanging round the house for a third day a week.

Being a parent does not mean you have to sacrifice everything for your child.

I was also mentally abused by my parents, so I am loathe to say that OP is wrong to go NC. But this incident alone does not consitute mental abuse. OP has had 5 years of being an adult with the potential to have saved loads. If her parents were that awful why has she not moved out long since? She would also be recounting other instances of her parents treating her poorly across her whole lifetime. She hasn't. She's simply had a rude awakening that her parents are not prepared to sacrifice everything for her, in the way that you suggest they should.

Your parents had you late in life and haven't prepared themselves for having a 20 something in their home, while retired. I think they are pretty selfish and very controlling by the way they have treated you.

Selfish parents full-stop. Being a parent doesn't entitle you to be a parent for the rest of your child's life if you aren't prepared to sacrifice anything for your child. Being a parent is a privilege - I don't feel your parents should have that privilege, after treating you like that. I'm speaking as someone who was mentally abused by her parents and eventually stood up to them. I am therefore able to empathise with you. I don't think most commentators in here understand the severity of how your parents treated you.

Move out and then decide whether you want to walk away, or not. You could also keep them at arms length. I certainly would not be supporting them. Just advise them because they feel you are such a nuisance to have around, that you will also stay out of their way when they are no longer able to look after themselves and need to be put in a care home.

but its not their house... not unless they own it.

Many parents don't even have their own house, million of people (and increasing) rent their home. These people can lose their tenancy for having extra people live there (its not rare many landlord evict the named tenant after encountering issue with adult children of tenant who refuse to follow the rules but believe they have a right to live there).

People also lose often much needed benefits and tax discounts.

OP didn’t say how she was going to spend her extra days off! She could be off out all day for all we know.

She did, @TypingoftheDead - she wants to spend it at home doing nothing, just like her dad does. She also said she only goes out "occasionally" to the gym, otherwise she's at home.

So they have to skulk round quietly so she can lie in, then have her messing around doing her laundry etc... while they are chatting to friends or watching their show then they have to entertain her constant need for attention all evening too?

That is exactly the 'disruption' they don't want.

So basically you want to start a system of blackmailing your parents when you don’t get exactly what you want. Do what I want or I’ll cut you out of my life. Grow up and consider how you can deal with disappointment a bit less dramatically in the future rather than taking an extreme and quite aggressive route. Accept that your parents are entitled to have their own views (and lives and home) too. It doesn’t mean they don’t love you if they expect you, as an adult, to grow up and move on.

Pressed too soon *edit I WOULDN'T

Do you think your parents have misunderstood what compressed hours are, and think that you're just going down to a 4-day week and will be earning 20% less than you were before?

How much housekeeping money do you pay them every month, and do you muck in with the domestic chores, laundry and cooking etc?

My suggestion would be to move out.

Wow, I don’t agree with OP but this is completely below the belt