Would you go nc with your parents for this

Bit weird that they're furious but it looks like it's time for you to move out OP.

Hang on, yes it does have quite a lot to do with them if you’re living there. Perhaps they have had enough of you being at home and you being there a full day in the week as well as weekends and evenings might be the straw that breaks the camel’s back.

Also comparing your situation to your Dad’s is completely wrong, he’s presumably had a full working career before he retired plus it’s his (and your mum’s) house.

If you want them to back off and have complete autonomy over all of your decisions then you need to move out.

As PP have said; how can you go NC with them while you're living in their house?

Move out asap, sounds like they're fed up. You'll be happier with your own independence.

How can you go nc with people you live with? Particularly when, I assume, it is their home and they are choosing (generously) to let you live there as an adult? I don't see how that would work practicality and if I were the parent in this situation I would see it as incredibly rude - most likely resulting in my insisting you leave.

On the actual issue you mention: I agree that it sounds unreasonable for your parents to try to interfere with your work schedule. There is nothing wrong inherently with flexible hours for the same money and I'm glad you've been offered this if it is what you want.

I am, however, curious about why your parents have had this reaction. Do they find it tense or uncomfortable when you are in the house for any reason? Do they value their privacy and space and feel you are intruding? Do they have a problem with how much you currently contribute to household tasks and this resentment is just leaking out now?

It might be that they're making a really unfair judgement (it almost sounds like they're treating you as a child and accusing you of being lazy for having an extra day a week off, which is a misunderstanding of how flexible hours work!). Then again, it might be they have valid reasons to be worried. I say this as someone who lived in my parents' home as a working adult for a fair few years - we got on well most of the time but sometimes I drove them mad (left too much mess without clearing it up fast enough; was a bit thoughtless generally; hogged the tv too much). We were able to resolve it but I still feel bad about it now. I doubt they would have been too chuffed if I'd wanted to spend even more time hanging around the house and I wouldn't have blamed them!

Take the hint. Your dad wasn’t particularly kind but he clearly is struggling with you living at home. You are an adult and they want their privacy- which is reasonable really. They’ve agreed to you living at home this long presumably to help you save? And having you under foot for 3 full days a week is too much.

Complete over reaction from you.

They probably just want some peace and quiet in their twilight years …..OP is 23 ….my 3 were all well gone at that age…..im 59 and work part time ….I love my days where I ‘have nothing to do and all day to do it in’ …..the delivery from the Dad probably came across quite badly but if OP is going to go NC for this I think she may have some regrets down the line

That was meant to be personal space not slave!

Oh fuck off! This has to be a wind up!

If not, then you need to do some serious growing up!

How sre you planning on going no contact when you live in their house? 🤣🤣

You sound like you have teenage angst TBH. You have no idea what they do in the day or how you being home will impact them. You are in their home and your choices do impact them. You need to move out. You will find you get on better.

I think it's a strain for them living with you - not everyone loves living with adult children. It's different to living with children you're in charge of, totally different dynamic.

Hearing that you'll be hanging round the house another day just was too much.

I would move out or if you really can't try and be out a lot more to give them some space.

Perhaps they value time on their own?

I have dc similar age to you who still live at home, there’s still a parent/child dynamic that I’m looking forward to not living in.

23 move out asap. No drama.

Why is your first reaction to leave and not look back after a slight disagreement is there more to it ? I mean obviously the best think would be to move out but also it is your parents house and you are an adult so they are entitled to a say . Do you help around the house , cleaning , tidying ?

Do they understand compressed hours? Do they think you've gone part time and won't be able to contribute as much (assuming you do actually pay some form of rent/cover your own food etc).

Unless there is some massive backstory I can't see why you would jump straight to cutting them out of your life. Find a flat share or something if it means you can move out sooner.

This has got to be a reverse.

If not, take a minute and think how utterly insulting this is to those of us who are actually NC with parents, after enduring years of abuse, the heartache and grief of trying to make things work, and dealing with the judgment of people who say "NC is just spoiled kids who throw their toys out of the pram because they're not getting their own way".

If this isn't a reverse, the judgment we have to live with is because of comments and behaviour like yours.

Don't ever use NC as a throwaway threat or manipulation tactic – no matter how annoyed you are. Shame on you.

So just move out….you’re 23 ….your parents just wanting a bit of piece

Your dad is allowed to hang around his own house doing nothing!

I do not think you should go NC unless there is a back story.
They probably expected you to have moved on by now so they could have their personal slave to themselves.
Understandably though it is harder to move out although not impossible.
Maybe it is time for you to move on, respect their wishes, while leaving with an OK feeling that you did not overstay your welcome.

When did you plan to move out?

Can't really be serious that you'll go no contact over this? Also you live in their house, it is pretty much impossible to achieve.

Their reaction is unreasonable but not something I would go NC for as an isolated incident

How awful.

Are they worried you will use up more food/electricity etc on your day off? It's taking pennypinching to the extreme if so.

Why do they begrudge you so much?

I'd be over the moon for my daughter at having a day off.

Agree with others, they sound like they want you to move out

Wow what on earth? Cut contact with your actual parents for the rest of your life over a minor disagreement?
I do think it's weird they won't let you enjoy a day at home but end of the day it's their house, maybe use the day to hunt for a rental asap

Not very nice of them. But a totally extreme reaction from you.