Would you go nc with your parents for this

You would seriously stop talking to your parents because of this? You sound very immature!

They are being weird and unreasonable with regards to your work hours and down time. As such, I think it's probably time to think about leaving their home.

No Contact, however, would be a very extreme reaction to the whole thing by you. It's intended for people suffering from very toxic abusive relations, and unless there's much more to this story, would be unnecessary and costly.

It's probably enough for you to get out from under their roof and see them only when you want. They may even be hinting at that.

Yes time to get serious about moving on

They are retired - it makes sense they would want to just potter around their home all day.

You are 23, is there not more you want to do with another day off, than just sit around your parents house?

Nothing screams unwelcome more than hearing the horror of your daughter being around a bit more though.

You're probably not all that welcome their anymore though. That's the harsh reality.

They've been looking forward to the day you finally move put and get on with your own life and have presented them with the opposite - a whole extra day when you're going to be in the house!

So be a grown up and move out

You still haven't answered the questions about why you haven't moved out.

You're 23, unless there's a huge backstory you're perfectly able to move out and live independently.

You're living in THEIR house, so they have their rules - I doubt very much you're unwelcome as such, but I also wonder if they're probably thinking the same as a lot of us.

Move out!

That's why it impacts him. You'll be there all day.

So true.

Whilst I understand the financial reasons for adult children living at home for longer, it does mean that some people don't actually grow up, which is why you have 23 year olds having teenage strops.

Just move out

a non-issue!

how do you propose to go NC with people you live?

No need to quote anyone @LindorDoubleChoc

So what if the thread is very long....

Don't go on the premium bond thread, as the OP is incredibly long and I bet you wouldn't like it.

When you’re in the house, your Dad has to necessarily inhabit the ‘Dad’ part of himself. Whereas when you’re not present, he gets to be any other part of himself that arises that day. He finds it relaxing to be those parts and less relaxing (as a great many people do) being the parent part.

You clearly are feeling hurt and I can see why. But they obviously find it harder having you still living at home than you realise. Do you clean? Cook? Garden? Contribute to the bills? Do you buy them dinner once a month to show your gratitude? Think carefully about how you behave at home. Are you acting like an adult or still being their child?

I think moving out is the best way forward.
It sounds like they think it's time for you to fly the nest - although they could have been more subtle about it than oh fuck no you're going to be at home even more? Jesus no. Find something else to do!!

Anything that you interpret as being the above is of course going to hurt.

Find your own place. A room in a shared house. It's doable. Build a new relationship with them as an independent adult.

It’s their house -maybe that day they like to waft around the house naked, as is their right.

Their house their rules.

Find some volunteering work or a college course or a hobby on your extra day off - surely that’s the point of compressed hours anyway ? Otherwise it’s just wasted.

As someone who has gone nc with a parent, I'd say going nc for this is an extreme reaction.

My thoughts are.

I wonder if this level fo 'drama' is something they tolerate but have grown tired of (I don't think considering going nc over this is a proportionate response. Perhaps they have to deal with a number of disproportionate responses.

Your dad is retired and can spend his time as he wishes. It doesn't matter if anyone else thinks he's hypocritical or dull or lazy or boring. It's his house and he can do what he likes in it.

My son is 25. He moved out about 2 years go because he was a young, inexperienced but know-it-all adult. It became tiring after a while.

If they are retired, they probably didn't imagine still having a child living at home into their retirement. They are being decent by allowing you to live there but you are now a guest in their home rather than their responsibility and it sounds like it's rime for you to go if tensions are rising to preserve the relationship you have.

Both being dramatic. I can understand they don't want you hanging around all the time, but they don't need to be "furious". But it definitely doesn't warrant going NC. If you want the freedom to do what you want, you need to move out, otherwise you respect their house their rules.

Deal with it like a grown up and talk to your parents rather than storming off to your room like a stroppy teen.

So how many of your adult children still live at home?

How do you plan to go no contact when you are living in their house?
Your retired father can do whatever he likes in his own home, I'm guessing he worked hard for many years to pay for the home you are living in.
You have some growing up to do.

Explain to them that you won't be around more hours, just different ones. Maybe a couple of hours a week more if your lunchtimes have got squashed, but no more than that.

Going NC would be a ridiculous reaction, but you moving out would suit everyone and only improve your relationship with them.

Whilst I agree that the op should move out and find her own place, I think the responses here are harsh.
Focpeoplecrealise just how expensive properties are. Even rent us extortionate. It’s very difficult to afford somewhere on your own.
I certainly would not speak to my dcs like that. Fair enough I’d expect them to pull their weight, but I certainly would not be telling them they had to get out of the house on there day off, or spend 6 hours doing housework.

Looking forward to the day OP has kids and understands the responses on here 😂

Presumably your children are young?

so a completely different situation, then?

I don’t think that it’s worth to go NC over this. You are overreacting.
Your parent’s reaction wasn’t nice but maybe they think that you are using them too much, so general hostility’s built up a bit?