Would you go nc with your parents for this

Fucking hell, you sound like Kevin the Teenager. Your dad has worked all his life and is entitled to do what the hell he likes in his retirement, he's earned it. If he wants to watch TV and potter around in the home that he has bought and paid for then that's his absolute entitlement. To compare your needs at 23 years old to his is beyond laughable. No wonder they don't want you hanging around. By the way, how exactly are you going to go NC when you have the privilege of living in your parents home? I really hope for your sake this post is a joke.

I'd love my adult dc to spend more time with us.
Your dp's sound a bit anal.
Do they still treat you like a dc?

You sound very entitled. Perhaps you should get your own place. Your dad can do what he likes in his own house.

'Going NC' is not a punishment, it's a way of surviving when your parents make you feel so terrible that it's difficult to live a normal life when yo're in contact with them.

Does this describe you? If you feel you would be better off not having any contact with them then of course that is your right. Better move out first though.

Oh, and maybe they have very noisy sex while you're at work and they would rather you were out of the house.

YABU for still living at home.
you sound self entitled and selfish. Do you even pull your weight at home. Why not move into a flat share?

Others have made good and productive comments. But to me this post just shows the absurdity of the whole “ Go NC” movement. I don’t like what I hear so I go NC. Swipe left with my parents ( while living in their home). It would be interesting to research how our use of social media and electronic devices affects our capacity for sustained engagement and seeing others’ perspective. Not in a positive way I suspect.

I was married at 23, moved out at 18 so I've no idea how you've lasted so long with your parents!

Start looking for a place of your own or find some fantastic sporting/college course/volunteering opportunity for your new free day.

It sounds as if that resentment has built up over time & perhaps it’s not easy for you to communicate as a family.
i would also be very hurt & feel unwelcome in your position.
I can sympathise with your parents, as I was dreading my 2 sons coming home from uni this year and turning my peace into chaos and creating mess.
i’d built it up as a problem in my mind before they got home and I’d completely over reacted. Once we discussed, that I was afraid of being taken advantage of (cleaning etc) it was fine.
You may not be like this, but perhaps there are areas where you take your parents, resources etc for granted.
Could you have a gentle chat with your mum and start with, “If I did have more time, how could I help you”. That might open the door to find out what’s really going on.
i wish you the best

Nothing screams unwelcome more than hearing the horror of your daughter being around a bit more though
Nothing screams spoilt brat louder than threatening to go NC with your parents who house you!!

Ah so continue benefiting from them while it suits?

Then go NC. They are so awful it’s worth losing the relationship. But not that awful to stay in touch while there’s a direct benefit?

Let’s hope Op doesn’t ever have any problems where she needs to rely on them or want any help from in the future.

Do you think we all own houses?

Of course we know how expensive rent is many of us do it still in our 30s and 40s. We don't just live off parents demanding rights to someone elses house.

Going no contact for this is frankly ridiculous. How will you manage it when you're still living in their home for a start?!

Haha, my dc are still young, but I already know that I would hate them being around the house for an extra day! It's not even personal, I know I would relish my routine and peace and quiet throughout the day. Obviously it's time to move out now.

Both. This can’t be the only thing I assume? It has nothing to do with them you are right. They can’t make you do anything.

I can understand that this would feel upsetting but never speaking to your parents again over this is certainly an overreaction unless they are abusive. It sounds as though they want to enjoy their retirement alone which is entirely reasonable. It’s time for you to move out so you can both have your own space

Agree

I do understand why it might feel hurtful but not everyone is cut out for multi generational living

Especially when it sounds like you don't really do anything - what's with the "I don't have anywhere to go"? Get a hobby, volunteer, go and visit a museum, basically get out and about

I would use the extra day off a week to do something constructive to limit my time living with parents.
So, any courses or studying for additional qualifications (use library, or a workplace, or facilities where you can head to to study)
Take a different qualification that could be lucrative eg HGV driving (drivers are in demand and earn good money.
Take on a part time 1 day a week post through an agency perhaps. Save the money for house deposit. I have a friend did this a couple of years ago for an Estate Agent - worked Fridays & Saturday mornings on top of (can't remember if it was condensed or part time) job 4 days elsewhere. Liked it and excelled so is now an EA full time.

a) this has nothing to do with them

Course it does. You live with them. Clearly time to move out, but not fall out. It's time.

This is a joke right

Grow up and move out, you have a full time job so are clearly a capable adult... why are you still under their feet to the point they have to straight up spell it out for you?

You are 23.
I'm 45.
Looking back now, I don't think it's an extreme reaction and after you secure your own life
(living space, work), yes I would go no contact.

Don't be absurd. This is not something to go NC with your parents for. I'm not happy about my own DS working 3 days a week but he doesn't live with me so it's not causing any extra expense or hassle here so we don't talk about it.
Maybe they are anxious about increased bills and food costs and loss of personal privacy. Young people forget older people still have their own lives and different generational attitudes about work.
Try having an honest conversation with them.
I am NC with my parents because they crossed a line - sexual and emotional abuse. This is the type of thing you go NC with your parents for.

I think you'll struggle to go no contact living in the same house.

Your dad is clearly set in his ways and likes his peace and quiet. Going NC is overly dramatic but you should be trying to at least find a house share I think.