Would you go nc with your parents for this

The parents have understood that and that's why they have kindly let the op stay with them until mid twenties.

That isn't the problem though. The problem is the ops lack of gratitude and entitlement.

A nicer way would have been
'Mum, dad an opportunity has come up at work to consolidate hours which gives me an extra day off. I'd absolutely love to do this, but I know you love your peace dad, so what do you think? Could we work something out?'

As this didn't even cross the ops mind, it gives an insight of the entitlement the parents are enduring.

Of course not. 😂 But when I was 23 and working full time, I lived on my own with no one to answer to. You should easily have a deposit saved up by now, so just move out.

i wonder what they do when you are at work that they are so difficult?

You and your parents sound quite similar.

Move out

Then you can do what you like

I can't fathom why on earth you want to go no contact with your parents because they've expressed a preference for how things happen IN THEIR OWN HOUSE

And how are you going to go no contact with them anyway, when you're living with them, IN THEIR HOUSE?

I think you might be 23 going on 13 🙄🤣

Grow up ffs!

Because some people are noisy and messy. It means that you can watch the television that you want to. You can't nap. You can't set your own cleaning/showering/getting dressed schedule. If you are all fairly quiet people, who see to yourselves, or you still enjoy looking after them, you might not get it. We don't know what the OP's dad's health is like. She sounds very condescending about his choices in retirement.

How can you go NC if you’re still under their roof?
It does seem like very unwarranted interference on their part, but evidently it’s time you moved out anyway.

Sounds like OP has learned to overreact from her parents

If I were the OP, I would be looking to move out and trying to learn how healthy people manage their feelings and emotions.

Do you know what going nc actually means OP?

To be fair it DOES affect them if you’re going to be at home an extra day a week.
There are lots of things they may wish to do with their own time in their own house with no one else around.
You being at home an extra day may mean extra electricity being used etc.
When our adult daughter comes to stay with us we love to see her but the shine wears off quite quickly as we realise we are back to being limited by her presence.

Im not saying you should have asked their permission but it certainly does affect them and if you can’t see that then maybe you need to grow up a bit more and move out quickly.

Your reaction here is precisely why they don't want you in their house any more. It's entitled and spoilt. Yes, if you live in their house you absolutely should have discussed it with them, so rude and arrogant of you not to even think if it. Lolling at your arrogant idea of going non contact with them - whilst you live in their house 😂

From their point of view it looks like you are stepping back from work at a time you haven't established an independent life. He seems you being at home indefinitely.

This isn't the case with compressed hours but it's an easy misunderstanding.

Your changed hours will also presumably have an impact. The nine day fortnight is common but you will be doing two hours extra each day so a potentially very early start and in the same house that probably means disturbing them in some way.

Either way suggesting you no longer talk to them is utterly ridiculous. It sounds like you need a conversation and a plan to move out.

I have a bit of sympathy with your parents tbh now I have an adult son who wfh.

He is 20 & is always here during the day and it's got to the point that it really (unreasonably) irritates me.

I feel like I can't do anything alone as he's always here. Always in the kitchen when I want to be doing something there, eating all the food, not tidying up how I would etc.

Just constant noise, movement etc - sometimes I just want to be on my own in the house (dh & other dc are at work/school during the day).

He's not doing anything wrong & I love the bones of him but I'm at the stage where I'd quite like him to move out.

Going nc is extreme and not warranted at all but I think you need to concentrate your efforts on moving out as you would all benefit from it.

Definitely time to move out OP. You must want your own space and sounds like they want theirs, which is perfectly ok. I appreciate it’s touched a nerve, but not worth going NC over it.

Likewise, let's hope the parents wont one day want to rely in her to pop in and help with the care.

You're 23 in full time employment you should move out, you're not a child any more.

I was married at 20 so can't imagine sharing at 23. Are you a droopy sort of Kevina who will loll about the house irritating them or will you bounce out of bed and say 'here I am folks, what can I do to help today?'. Hmmmm. Birds leave the nest for a reason so you might want to sit down with them and discuss the future? It might not mean moving out but it sounds as though there need to be some changes - as to going NC, they might be thinking along the same lines!

Do you contribute to house bills etc? If yes, do hey think that you will not be able to because they think you are working part time?

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Your dad sounds like a boring old fart. He has 5 days at home to himself. I love having the house to myself but I don't begrudge my own family being at home. And the reply So how many of your adult children still live at home?
I have 3 they work weekends so are home in the week why would a parent mind them being at home.

They want you to move out but can’t ask

@giantcolouringbook if as you have said you have nothing to do on this extra day, then why are you even compressing your hours?

Seriously when I was your age, work was a major part of my life, work was not just about work, it was my social. time as well, my friends at that time were those I worked with

As I got older and my life developed, sure I wanted less time in work because I needed more time for home life, when I bought first home and was renovating it, would have loved it if compressed hours was a thing, when bringing up the kids, needed to go part time, now full time carer, wife, mother and grandmother the 16 hrs I work now can still not leave me enough time at home

But at 23, with no responsibilities , to take compressed hours to just have another lazy day around the house? Unless of course you are a serious party animal and need the extra day to sleep it off? In which case no wonder your parents have reacted that way

Well, she'll have to make sure she won't need them, won't she?
My parents were emotionally abusive, far more than this. I was by no means a spoiled brat. These screwed up cretins were from a Communist country, a so called "silent generation".
Getting NC was a good thing.

Unless there's more backstory, YABU. It's time to move out, it's reasonable for them to want their own space back once their child is an adult.

In the kindest way op your parents are retired, you are 23. They are entitled to potter about doing fa after probably 40+ years at work.

Our dd, 25, lives with us. She is a teacher and has long school holidays. Over the summer she's led a drama group, been to America and France, spends 2/3 nights with her bf and is an active choir member.

I'd be irritated if she didn't use her time constructively. I think you are being VV unreasonable.

Gently, it's perhaps time to move out and live independently.

Tbf to your dad it is a huge change to have someone someone home during the week if he's used to being on his own. I wfh some of the time and part time, I'd expect my DH to let me know before he changed his working pattern and would be at home more.....and he pays more of the mortgage than me.

If they actually are furious then that is an over reaction but something tells me there's more to it than that. You don't seem to have much respect for your parents, and seem to have a bit of entitlement going on. You speak about your dad wanting to be at home as if your situations are equal...he presumably is at the end of his career, with many working years behind him not to mention has at least one adult child still living at home , i don't blame him for valuing his peace and quiet, I imagine he hasn't had much of it bringing up children.
Oh and it's his bloody house. You are 23, and haven't even moved out of your parents home. Don't take it so personally that he values his peace. I'm sure they love you very much (if they didn't they'd have got you to move out by now surely) but loving you and wanting an adult child still living at home and now being around more are 2 different things.

I imagine your parents actually want you to move out but haven't said anything because they realise it's hard out there with COL but this extra day is realising it may tip the balance. In your shoes I'd take the compressed hours but maybe make sure I'm out and about rather than being round the house more.

You are most likely welcome in their lives just not all the bloody time, you come across sound very entitled like you are just owed this stuff but you are not. kids are meant to come visit and ENJOY time together not drain their parents dry daily.

Ever heard the phrase 'absence makes the heart go fonder'.