Would you go nc with your parents for this

I am of course looking to move out asap but would you think there was any coming back from this or should I just move on never look back

Not a great response from your parents but going nc over it? 😂 Get a grip and grow up.

You're in for a tough ride with life if you keep going at this rate.

Hmm.
Sorry, I didn't realise this was projecting.
My parents started with a similar lark when
I was only 12.
This type of emotional abuse tends to escalate, as they think they can take their frustration on the most vulnerable member of the family.
Obviously moving out would be the best option, and at least keep them at an arms length.

Your 23 and still living at home. You announced to your parents that your now going to work 4 days a week so you're going to be at home another day a week. You were not happy with what your father said to you.
My feeling is that your living at home and this could be happening. Your possibly not paying much in rent or towards the bills. Your getting online shopping in the post. You have money for this and complain about the when your asked to pay rent or a share of the bills.
Then you expect you dinner every evening, ask your mother to wash your clothes or leave the house in the mess.

I had a few friends who were living with parents as adults due to different reasons. My friends realised that long term they needed to leave home due to been asked a lot of questions, not having their own personal space and realised that it better for everyone if they moved out of the family home.
For your own sake it good to move out of home and stand on your own 2 feet as well.
Most people of your age are living away from home or are travelling and perhaps your parents were looking forward to having their house and time on their own like the rest of their friends. Also they could be paying higher bills and food costs with you living at home.

You can't go no contact when your still living in the family home but you need to get your act together and move out within in next few months. Also get out of the house more and give your parents some alone time.

Grow up. You're acting like a petulant child.

It's their home. That they pays for. They are entitled to relax and chill as they please.

You sound very entitled. Do you pay rent?

Maybe you need to look at market rent where you live, the cost of gas, electric,wate, food ect. Where I live a room is £1000pcm. It might make you more grateful.

Sorry but they are a bit out or order. I’d take it as a heavy hint they want me to move out

They didn't have to articulate it that way, but I expect they enjoy the times they have the place to themselves. My adult daughter lives with me,I like it when she's on holiday as she is challenging, but there's no way I'd want her to leave until she's ready.

I think you are being given a rough ride here. It might be an overrreaction to go nc but it is a bit off of your dad to not want you around ona Friday or whatever.
Instead of nc I would distance yourself and move out as that's what the parents want. Hurtful I know.

How do you plan to go nc if you live with them?

Move out, do what you wish, problem sorted.

23 year olds can still act like teenagers 😉

Personally I would look to move out ASAP and then go low contact with them. As in, not make much effort to see them. They can enjoy all their peace and quiet then.

OP, what is the purpose of going no contact?

Well I love my parents and would be horrified if they went NC with me. I also would not want them just hanging around my house while I potter about on my days off. So yes, they would be extremely unwelcome in that scenario.

If my adult child, who doesn't have enough money to move out despite having had 5 years to save, had also freed up some of their time I would be extremely disappointed if they were not using this to maximise their earning potential and earn more money so they could move out sooner and instead chose to spend the time they'd freed up further impinging on my retirement.

Move out and move on. Your parents are being the reasonable ones here.

@mumsnet please please ban my account. I love mumsnet and find myself wanting to read posts most days but I'm at the stage where either ppl really are unhinged or most of these threads are fake. Please ban me today!

This is a great idea. Perfect opportunity to bank some extra cash for your own house!

You want to go NC over this? Yes that is a massive, massive overreaction unless there's a backstory you haven't shared.

This.

Take the hint.

Leave and see a lot more of the world and what goes on in it. That way you will have a few edges rubbed off and you will become more sanguine about life instead of talking clart about going NC with your parents over something that would probably drive most of us doo lally.

Having a 23yo daughter living at home with this sort of mind set would have me building an ejector seat.

Let us compare your hanging around the house (23, living in your parents house, in the gift of your parents, as the classics would say) and that of your dad, enjoying his well-earned retirement in his OWN house, shall we? Are you serious?

Op youre telling us you're parents are so unhinged they are raging because you have a day off ... is this made up or you've missed out major info. If not made up then yes absolutely go no contact and contact the authorities immediately, you're parents need to be sectioned.

I have seen this said before on here but I have never really understood it.

Even if the OP is paying a contribution to her parents, unless she is named on the mortgage, no she doesn't have any rights. At best she is a lodger, she needs to abide by the rules set out by her parents or they can kick her out.

Of course in a loving family dynamic it shouldn't feel like that but I think these multi generational households only really work when the adult children either really step up and take a full part in running the household (that's the way South Asian households will typically work) or accept their parents are in charge and play by their rules

And TBH DH definitely has the right to live here but would also consult and consider me before taking a role that involved being at home more - I don't even think it's just about the adult/child dynamics

You sound pretty immature. Of course your being around makes a difference to them. That said, i can understand you feeling a bit put out to hear that they don't want you around. But then children. Ever can imagine how much work it is having them around and that parents might actually need a break from them once in a while. How exactly do you think going NC would work logistically? You do realise that you would need to move out, do your own cleaning, cooking, pay the bills (council tax, water, electricity, food, deposit, rent, internet) and not be able to come home for a Sunday's lunch, Christmas dinner or have any more Christmas and Birthday presents from them ever again?

Time to move out maybe?

You're 23 years old with a full-time job - it's time to move out and stand on your own two feet, not hang around your parents' house all the time.

they are retired but it doesn't mean they expect to have the house to themselves, i think they are being unreasonable. personally my dh would be thrilled with the company

i am sorry their reaction is unfriendly op

It’s not Ops house. It’s currently their home. But not their house.

We don’t know if Op is paying towards bills. But if Op gets a say what goes on in the house so should get parent? And they didn’t get a say in this.

OK, I'll give you another persepective.
Have a google for all the thread from SAHMs (or even part time working mums) complaining about their DHs working from home all the time.

it's not a question of them not liking each other, it's not a question of anyone being unwelcome in their own home, it's simply that having another person in the house adds a different dynamic and makes it difficult to relax in the same way.

Your parents like having you about (generally). They just don't want you about any more than you are now. A bit like how I have some friends that I love dearly, but I wouldn't want to go on holiday with them as we'd drive each other mad.

Can I also say that, at 23, I'm surprised you don't want to do more with your extra day off than just potter about the house doing nothing. Are you stuck in a bit of a rut?