Would you go nc with your parents for this

You are over reacting.
They are opinionated but it is their home.

Consider working at a second job for some of the hours of your day off. Gardening or mowing lawns, ironing or cooking meals for an elderly person etc.

Save up for a deposit to move out and find your own house.

Does it matter how much they earn or contribute? Her parents clearly don’t want her to live with them anymore. She has created an extra day which will help her to earn more to move out. It might be her home currently but if her parents don’t want her around then they are obviously giving her some obvious hints that it’s time to go. And at 23 I would tend to agree!

How do you propose to go no contact while living under your parents’ roof?

You are an adult with a fulltime job. Time to move out, not cut contact. Your relationship will improve when you do.

Gosh. This. I think it's time to move out. A lot of this depends on how much you are paying towards the running of the house though ? And how much of the housework/admin you are doing ? Unless it's loads it's a massive over reaction from you.

I mean, she can expect what she wants, I guess.

But I also bet her parents would expect their 23 year old with a full-time job to be moving out and becoming independent, not planning on hanging about their house three days a week doing nothing.

Seriously?

You're massively overreacting and you sound quite spoiled. You're an adult in your 20s, it's time you looked at moving out.

Nothing you've said here sounds like anywhere near reason enough to cut your parents out of your life.

But you dont know how much they earn and if they contribute to the rent and other house expenses. You made an assumption OP does not, but I have not seen any intel in her posts that she lives rent free. Maybe she pays a large share/rent. At any case, it's still her home and it's fine t oexpect to be able to stay there when she does not work.

Of course it's not her house 🙄

How can you go NC when you live in their house?!
Move out.
They don't want you there.
Get a room in a house. Lodger or HMO.

I don’t think you’ve grasped the concept of a second job. This is a job you do in addition to full time hours in order to earn more money so you can do the things you need to do (such as move out).

From both of you.
It's a strange comment from him but also an extreme reaction from you, unless there is more to it and you have other issues with your parents

dont compress your hours op

But OP is already working full time, not sure you are grasping the idea of condensed hours. The extra day is not to work even more.

Exactly, it works both ways. If they want OP out at all cost and cant stand her being in the house, then the consequence could be having to sort out their own care later on in life.

You’re upset because you’ve finally got the message your parents have been trying to send you. They want you to move out! Perhaps on your extra day off you could get a second job to help you do so? Until you do so, I think it’s extremely ungrateful and bratty to ‘go nc’ with the people whose house you live in, presumably very cheaply if you do contribute at all.

Look, I went NC with a parent. I lived with emotional abuse and was only able to go nc when their behaviour brought SS to our door and put my children at risk.

I think if there was a significant backstory of ongoing abuse the OP would have come back to explain that by now.

Young adults living an extended period of adolescence at home, as the OP is, can sometimes have issues around growing up/maturing.

How many people find they revert back to the parent/child dynamic when they return to the family home? No one chooses too; it just happens. She has never left that.

The OP works full time in a job that offers compressed hours and she wants to spend her extra day off lazing around the house because her dad does. That doesn't sound to me like someone who has grown up in abuse and is desperate to leave.

That sounds like someone who has got quite a cushy life and isn't in a huge rush to forgo the home comforts whilst not actually taking responsibility for herself.

I can well imagine that is somewhat frustrating for her parents.

It's not abusive for them to articulate that.

It's rather sad that at 23 you consider compressed hours to be an opportunity to hang around the house like a retired, old person.
Anyway, it's time to move out.

what about moving into a house share with your mates Op? Or you can get shared houses for young professionals. @giantcolouringbook
and then you can do what you want.

p.s you can hardly go no contact with them if you live with them can?!

How will you go NC seeing as you live with them? Or have misunderstood?

I never get the argument that it's all about whether the adult child pays rent anyway.

If the dishwasher breaks, is she phoning the repair company?
If the roof needs replacing, is she getting quotes?
If the garden is overgrown, is she weeding it?
If the washing machine filter needs to be unblocked, is she doing it?
Does she clear out of date food from the fridge?
Descale the kettle/showerheads?

I bet the answer is no for almost all adult children living with their parents

Which is fine because it's not their house, it's their parents' house but then they can't expect an equal say in everything either.

They aren't housemates, it's not an equal relationship, they're lodgers.

Your dad is in retirement- that “doing nothing and pottering about” is what he’s worked for. Blissful for some!

It doesn’t mean they don’t love you, it means they’re frustrated that you aren’t flying the nest. You’re still going to be in the nest for 3 days a week.

Going non contact is the nuclear option and frankly a little immature in this situation.

Talk to your parents - find out what the issue is. Are they annoyed about some aspect of you living at home? Are you pulling your weigh with housework, do you hog the tv, do they enjoy peaceful time just themselves?

your dads reaction does seem OTT but don’t match his energy - deescalate it.

it may be that living together as adults just isn’t working out: Could you rent with friends?

You could maybe pick up a part time job on the extra day off and over your weekend to help you save up and move out. That's how I saved up got my deposit;)

Are you sure 😆, they may have a personal slave too 😂😂😂.

@giantcolouringbook , I agree with many pp , it seems like a over reaction on both parties.

Providing you are contributing £s and doing your fair share of cooking and cleaning it is your home too so you should be able to choose how much time you do / don't spend there.
That said I do think it would be a good time to start house hunting, I know it's hard to find places but perhaps a flat share would work for you.
If its a cost thing bear this in mind , if you can not afford your own place you need to respect your DM /DD wishes.

What a bizarre over reaction. There comes a time when parents may want a bit a space- unless there is a back story I can’t imagine the thought process you have used after a disagreement to go NC