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Worried about the pace of DSs relationship - should spend some time apart?

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Carzoe · 31/08/2024 22:16

DS is 22, 23 next week, he has just finished uni and is now taking a gap year (well his 2nd gap year as he didn't get to travel much the first one thanks to Covid!). Over the summer he went to Europe backpacking alone, 5 days in he met a girl, travelled with her and her friends for a couple of weeks then they split off together and have been together non stop since. Turns out they went to the same uni and just never met and they seem really close.
They both graduate on Tuesday (no idea why they are so late this year) and have birthdays within the next two weeks so they have come home for 2 weeks. Originally after this DS was going to go to SE Asia (flights booked) but now he has decided he is going back to Europe with her and then they will head to SE Asia together in late October.
As they went to uni in London and both graduate on Tuesday we came to meet him in London today and we met her and her dad over dinner. She seems lovely, very attractive girl and smart too. I'm happy DS is happy however they met 9 weeks ago and haven't actually been apart in 7 weeks!
DS told me tonight that on Wednesday they will both come home with us to Hampshire stay until the Monday then head up to Cumbria where she is from for the last week as it is over her birthday and then leave from there for Italy.
I want to be okay with this but I actually think 2 weeks apart would be for the best, he hasn't been away from her in 7 weeks and is about to travel with her again.

AIBU to think this is way too much and they should each spend 2 weeks with there family after graduation then meet back up to travel if that is what they really want?

It seems so intense I'm worried it will end badly!

OP posts:
Gardendiary · 31/08/2024 22:23

He's an adult. You can have your opinion, but its not your decision.

iamtheblcksheep · 31/08/2024 22:22

He’s 23 next week not 17. Let him make his own mistakes. It’s really none of your business. If you protest you’ll push him away

JLou08 · 31/08/2024 22:21

Young love. Let them enjoy being happy. You have no choice in how he spends his time and there's nothing you can do to stop him spending all his time with his girlfriend. Trying to have any control over it is more likely to result in him being annoyed with you rather than him spending 2 weeks away from his girlfriend.

PoopedAndScooped · 31/08/2024 22:21

His 23 next week?

😂

ArmchairOlympian · 31/08/2024 22:20

I think he’s nearly 23 and his mum should butt right out of his relationships

Kellythekidd · 31/08/2024 22:20

The worst that could happen is that they break up?

they are young and in love if you say not to go he will not listen. Just have a chat with him to make sure they are both on the same page so no one gets hurt then send him on his way. Young love is a lovely thing

Barbarararara · 31/08/2024 22:20

Firstly he's an adult and secondly he's having a great time, I don't see the problem at all

QuiteAnEpicFailure · 31/08/2024 22:18

Aww do you not remember that first love feeling when yoh can’t bear to be apart OP? Let them enjoy it! Yes it might end badly but that’s life, I’m sure you will be there to help pick up the pieces.