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Partner hates me

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Whatwear · 31/08/2024 20:00

My partner hates me he's always accusing me of causing arguments looks at skinny women when I'm a very big size 18 I'm trying to lose weight im nearly 1 stone down I think he hates e because I don't look attractive my stomach isn't flat ky boobs aren't perky I'm a brunette not blonde skinny or attractive in any way he tells I'm to big to wear nice clothes and that I should cover up im so insecure and don't deserve to live because I don't look at certain way I'm so insecure we're always arguing and I'm always crying

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StormingNorman · 31/08/2024 20:54

BowlOfNoodles · 31/08/2024 20:39

Speak for yourself the average size in the UK is 14/16 you're being offensive describing 18 as very big

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OP is talking about how she feels about herself. But please go ahead and make her crisis about you.

StormingNorman · 31/08/2024 20:52

OP I’m. It sure how much of what you said in your first post is coming from him or from you. Is there a chance you are projecting your insecurities onto him?

My advice would be to work on your insecurities with a therapist or counsellor. Even if he really is eyeballing skinny blondes, you need to pick your self-esteem of the floor.

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Whatwear · 31/08/2024 20:48

I'm talking about myself not others I feel and look very big at my size I don't look at others and judge it's myself I focus on..

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Whatwear · 31/08/2024 20:46

I want to make it work it's gone sour over the years because I'm insecure jealous but it's hard no to be when he's looking at gorgeous women something I definitely am not were good when we're not fighting.

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Mummy2mybear · 31/08/2024 20:45

You need to move on just sounds awful, what is your housing situation?

Getonwitit · 31/08/2024 20:44

Oh please stop allowing this bullying manchild to ruin your life. He will never change, it will get worse not better so cut the ties now before he steals another day of your life. Just split ayourself.nd have more belief in

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BIossomtoes · 31/08/2024 20:41

Devilsmommy · 31/08/2024 20:39

As usual, first post nailed it

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Indeed. Took the words right out of my mouth.

AgileGreenSeal · 31/08/2024 20:40

Why are you with him? 🤔

Devilsmommy · 31/08/2024 20:39

Yellowpingu · 31/08/2024 20:05

You can instantly lose loads of weight by ditching him.

As usual, first post nailed it

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Whatwear · 31/08/2024 20:39

It's messed up im a lot to blame I wish we could fix things but today he started on me for no reason..

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BowlOfNoodles · 31/08/2024 20:39

Whatwear · 31/08/2024 20:00

My partner hates me he's always accusing me of causing arguments looks at skinny women when I'm a very big size 18 I'm trying to lose weight im nearly 1 stone down I think he hates e because I don't look attractive my stomach isn't flat ky boobs aren't perky I'm a brunette not blonde skinny or attractive in any way he tells I'm to big to wear nice clothes and that I should cover up im so insecure and don't deserve to live because I don't look at certain way I'm so insecure we're always arguing and I'm always crying

Speak for yourself the average size in the UK is 14/16 you're being offensive describing 18 as very big

Fathercrispness · 31/08/2024 20:36

This is a miserable existence for both of you. Stop making excuses, make a plan and get rid.

MarshmallowsOnToast · 31/08/2024 20:25

Fuck. Him. Off.

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Whatwear · 31/08/2024 20:22

simpledeer · 31/08/2024 20:16

You will get another job.

I am assuming you aren’t married. Do you have somewhere you can go? Family?

You need to start over. Life can be so much better than the shitshow you are tolerating.

We aren't married no iv got nowhere for me and 3 kids to go there's no room for us xx

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Whatwear · 31/08/2024 20:19

We just argue he has anxiety and im very insecure he won't even take me out for meals or anywhere with our children because he's scared hel trigger me with my insecurities I ain't all innocent iv accused him of cheating looking at other women but he also tells me to dress for my body and stop dressing like I'm a size 8 he's the reason I'm losing weight so I can be sexy for him..

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simpledeer · 31/08/2024 20:16

You will get another job.

I am assuming you aren’t married. Do you have somewhere you can go? Family?

You need to start over. Life can be so much better than the shitshow you are tolerating.

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Whatwear · 31/08/2024 20:14

Kathleen1992 · 31/08/2024 20:11

If you were sent this message by a friend what would you tell them to do? I think deep down you know leaving is the best option

I can't iv nowhere to stay Il have to give up my job because no childminder till 8pm

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tarheelbaby · 31/08/2024 20:12

Start making plans to move on. Even if you have children, start working on ways to separate.

Kathleen1992 · 31/08/2024 20:11

If you were sent this message by a friend what would you tell them to do? I think deep down you know leaving is the best option

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Whatwear · 31/08/2024 20:11

It's over the years it's because Iv accused him of looking at blonde skinny women in particular I don't like him going out because I don't trust he won't be looking at other women he started on me today I'm devastated 😭

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WorkCleanRepeat · 31/08/2024 20:10

Get rid of the loser!

BCBird · 31/08/2024 20:09

Get rid. He a waste of space.

username44416 · 31/08/2024 20:09

GrazingSheep · 31/08/2024 20:07

Is there a reason you can’t leave him?

I agree. Any reason you're still there OP. Can we help?

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Whatwear · 31/08/2024 20:08

He started on me at 5 o'clock he's got severe anxiety I woke him up from a nap like he asked me to i agreed then we I did he started being really nasty and snappy saying I was forcing him to go out for tea which he suggested before hand he's a prick I never pressured him into anything at all iv been crying because of him I really could kill him today..

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