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Your recommendations for cosmopolitan living outside of London

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Kalaboom · 31/08/2024 19:13

DH and I are looking to move from our small rural village to somewhere with a bit more buzz and more in the way of restaurants, bars, shops and community social events.

We had the kids quite young and they're about to fly the nest, meaning we have the luxury of downsizing to a more expensive area if needed and we don't need to worry about schools etc. We're barely grazing 40 and this is a sort of second lease of life for us, so we really want to find somewhere with a vibrant, welcoming community and more going on than our sleepy spot in suburbia currently offers!

London not an option and ideally we'll stay in the south east close to family.

Possible contenders include:

Marlow
Henley
St Albans
Winchester
Windsor

We'd really like it to be somewhere with a bit of charm and character as opposed to being very urban or built-up, hence the list above. Bonus points for being on a river or canal or with easy countryside access for some scenic walks with the dogs.

Am I missing anywhere else worth considering? And can anyone share first-hand experiences of what any of the above places are like? We've visited all of them regularly on days out but appreciate living there is a different matter.

Is Oxford worth adding to the list? I've heard it's not so welcoming to non-locals and can be quite cliquey...

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Kalaboom · 31/08/2024 19:31

@LlynTegid why do you feel St Albans is bad value for what it offers, out of interest? I would imagine it's expensive because it's a popular commuter town which is understandable and something we'd benefit from in a way, but is the social scene not very good?

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atiaofthejulii · 31/08/2024 19:25

Oxford is a lot bigger than Marlow, Henley or Windsor and I would say has more going on. The idea that it's not welcoming to locals is a bit ridiculous as at least half the population of Oxford wasn't born there.

LlynTegid · 31/08/2024 19:15

I'd rule out St Albans and Windsor to be honest, the first very expensive for what it offers, the second because you will be overrun by visitors at various times of year.

Icanttakethisanymore · 31/08/2024 19:13

What’s the budget?

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